NDR: Why can't people RSVP?!

[stephm0188]

My kiddo's birthday party is this weekend at a local indoor playplace/ arcade. We invited his classmates and his BFFs from our street... 16 kids total. I don't expect that many... last year invited the same number and had 8 attend.

ANYHOW. The only people who RSVP'd are my neighbors. Not a single one of his classmate's parents emailed, called, texted or smoke signaled that they were coming or not coming.  There's not a class directory. I have no way to track these people down. And normally I would just assume that they're not going to come at all, but he's come home from school and said that three of his friends said they were coming. Are they? ARen't they? I can't really depend on what a four year old tells another four year old.

All I know is that I have two yeses, two maybe, and twelve that couldn't be bothered to respond.

[mrsemilys]

Anytime I have ever planned a party I have had issues with people RSVPing....and every single time I get so pissed.  Sorry you're dealing with this

[april37]

Wow, that's a lot of people who didn't respond! I just had my daughter's b-day party and out of 9 invited I only had 1 who Didn't RSVP (they didn't show up either).

I'm currently dragging my feet on an RSVP for 1.5 weeks from now because my 6 yr old was invited to a sleep over and I'm not sure if I want to let her go.

[spankswife]

I'm sorry. That really stinks! Most of all I feel bad for the kids. There was a story on the bump, a girl invited her daughters class, no one rsvp'ed but she had already booked the play place and figured people would just show up. No one came to her daughters 4th bday. I literally cried. That poor kid. All alone in a play place with her party clothes and no friends. Ugh

DD's party is next weekend, and I sftill have 8 invites outstaning. And it was an evite. Just click no so I know how much food to order! I just don't get it. I'm hoping evite sends a reminder....

[Deleted]

The main thing I learned from getting married is that people are assholes you can't RSVP even if you send them a SASE and all they have to do it check a box.

[emoflamingo]

I just do "regrets only" so that people don't have to do anything if they are attending. And mostly because it's a lot easier than trying to play this "is so-and-so coming? I can't remember if they called."

[IIOY]

Apr 24, 2013 20:05:36 GMT -5 spankswife said:

I'm sorry. That really stinks! Most of all I feel bad for the kids. There was a story on the bump, a girl invited her daughters class, no one rsvp'ed but she had already booked the play place and figured people would just show up. No one came to her daughters 4th bday. I literally cried. That poor kid. All alone in a play place with her party clothes and no friends. Ugh

This is terrible and breaks my heart!  That poor, poor child! 

We've had this discussion multiple times on CEP and Facebook, but RSVPs for children's parties seem to be a disaster all around.  I have no idea why, but for whatever reason, people do not feel as though they must RSVP for kids' parties.  It's infuriating.  We actually stopped having family parties for our kids' birthdays because people were so lousy about RSVPing and I told H I was done chasing down his family members.

[emjacobs]

I sent out invites for my SIL's baby shower and out of 30 invites got: 1 Yes, 2 Maybes, and 2 No's that were out of state and still sent presents to my house since it was a surprise. The one yes was my 90 yo great aunt.

[vanillacourage]

That is infuriating.