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[discogranny]

My DH is interviewing for a possible new job late next week. It would advance his career and literally double his salary if you include bonuses and stock options. He would be more fulfilled career-wise and this would completely remove the financial aspect of IF from our lives, allowing us to do IVF or pursue adoption without worry. Any good ju-ju you guys can spread his way would be VERY much appreciated.

My BFF met this guy at a concert and she has been going on dates with him since (about 7 weeks), on Sunday he told her that he is still living with his ex-wife after being divorced for 2+ years. She is torn because he doesn't seem like the "player" type and she thinks he is being honest about their relationship being just like normal, platonic roommates. I am supporting her but the side-eye is still strong.

[G22]

Good luck to your H discogranny! Let us know how it goes! That sounds awesome.

I just drafted my resignation letter! Woohoo! Next week I hand it in and am down to 3 weeks left here! I cannot wait, but I have a feeling my manager will not be thrilled.

Go figure, its been very nice out the last 2 days here. And I can't run. Blah! I think I'll walk the dogs just so I can get out in the sun for a bit.

I've had no appetite since getting my trigger shot. Like zilch. I want to eat but nothing sounds good.

[discogranny]

Yay for moving on from your job G22!

[lola]

I'd love to know when I lost my ability to drink. Two or three drinks last night and I'm fucking hungover right now. FML.

My parents are planning on putting their dog down. I'm so sad about this, even though I think it's probably the right decision. They meet with the vet today.

I have a phone interview for a new job next week! Woot woot!

And, finally, we have our orientation meeting w/ an adoption agency tonight. (Yes, yes, I am frantically drinking water in an attempt to squash the hangover before I meet with adoption people! lol)

AND - good luck discogranny & G22 ! You both have big things going on right now!

[changedname]

Good luck both discogranny and G22.

Wow lola - I can't beleive you have the adoption meeting tonight! So fast! Let us know how it goes.

Are you planning on domestic adoption?

[lola]

lol. It's just the first, informational meeting so nothing MAJOR or whatever. My H has to do an internship this summer that will seriously restrict our time "together" between both of our work schedules, so this one worked well. We're still *early* in the process I think.

Our plan is domestic adoption.

That's about as specific as our plan is right now. lol. Guess we'll know more tonight?

[ilovecandy]

Good luck discogranny and G22.  I hope you hear good things at your meeting tonight lola.

I finally feel like i am enjoying sex again and it isn't all ok lets make a baby.  

[lola]

Some fucking moron on ML posted stupid shit that has just made me feel and and since I read it. I probably should just log off for a bit, but instead I keep going back as if something will suddenly make it better.

So, to make myself feel better I just scheduled a 90 minute massage at 4 p.m. I'm leaving work early for a massage. lol.

[discogranny]

lola - I just logged on for the first time since this morning. I didn't see the original poll but I get the gist and wow. I hope cville didn't GBCN over it, because I really like her. What the hell is wrong with some people?!?

[lola]

Apr 25, 2013 14:06:51 GMT -5 discogranny said:

lola - I just logged on for the first time since this morning. I didn't see the original poll but I get the gist and wow. I hope cville didn't GBCN over it, because I really like her. What the hell is wrong with some people?!?

I don't think she'll stay gone forever, but I see why she left.

[Deleted]

Nov 25, 2024 1:52:05 GMT -5 ilovecandy said:

I finally feel like i am enjoying sex again and it isn't all ok lets make a baby.  

For me, learning we'd never have a child on our own was in a way freeing and I felt similarly that I can enjoy this again without it being timed and all business.

[belovedbride07]

Good luck to your DH, disco!

Mine is (hopefully) waiting for an offer for a job that would be a slight promotion. I told him last night that the longer this takes, the more I feel like I want to be a SAHM. My resolve to "have it all" is weakening. He pointed out that the longer it takes, the higher the chance of him earning enough for that to work out well. Silver lining, I guess?

I'm hiding out in the bathroom at work...DH saw the uro the other day and I've felt like crying off and on ever since. (I'll post about it later, but I've been trying to collect my thoughts.) The "what do you do differently during the 2ww" post on the main board is making me sad...nothing I do differently is going to multiple H's sperm or give them better motility. I feel bitter that other people get to have the hope that doing XYX differently will make this cycle work for them, and I don't.

[G22]

I'm sorry belovedbride07. I totally get that. My H had low count/motility too. Nothing we try is going to change that. I hope today is over soon for you so you can go home and cry or scream or do whatever makes you feel better!

[changedname]

lola how was last night? Hope it went well!

[lola]

Apr 26, 2013 14:11:57 GMT -5 changedname said:

lola how was last night? Hope it went well!

Hey! Posting on my phone so I hope this works. My H showed up at my office today at 1. He had booked us a weekend at a resort with a day of spa appointments Sunday! Awesome. I am a but drunk already!

It went well last night. Gave us a lot to think about. I don't think we are going to make any decisions right now but we feel like we know way more about our options when the time comes to make them.

And. With this post back to my trip! I will check in tomorrow. If anybody has update post them for me!! Hugs!!

[G22]

lola, how sweet of your H! You enjoy this weekend! And glad to hear the meeting went well.

Don't worry we will all be here still when you get back Now go, get drunk and relaxed! That's an order.

[jewel]

Apr 26, 2013 12:11:48 GMT -5 belovedbride07 said:

I'm hiding out in the bathroom at work...DH saw the uro the other day and I've felt like crying off and on ever since. (I'll post about it later, but I've been trying to collect my thoughts.) The "what do you do differently during the 2ww" post on the main board is making me sad...nothing I do differently is going to multiple H's sperm or give them better motility. I feel bitter that other people get to have the hope that doing XYX differently will make this cycle work for them, and I don't.

This is us too - dx with Male Factor Infertility. My husband's count/ml have always been under 7, sometimes as low as 1mil. Motility/morph is horrible too. For IUI, the doctor said that it's highly unlikely to get success with anything less than 10 mil total motile. We're usually hovering right about there, or lower. My hope for IUI success is really low.

Do you know why his numbers are so low? vericocele? That's what my h has, and repair surgery was unsuccessful. I did recently make him switch to boxers and I have him taking a shitload of supplements. I can't not try those sorts of things, but nothing will likely change the vericocele damage now.

BUT, there is a little good news. If you do IVF with ICSI, it basically eliminates the male factor, because one good sperm is injected right into the egg. My RE said that the chance of success is then 50-60%. If you're ok with IVF, then your chance of success is huge.

I also got pg once, without any intervention, so it is definitely possible to get pg with low numbers.

[G22]

jewel our stories are eerily similar. As much as I want IUI to work, it is kind comforting to hear those percentages of success with IVF/ICSI. In case it gets to that point for us.

[jewel]

Apr 26, 2013 21:57:05 GMT -5 G22 said:

jewel our stories are eerily similar. As much as I want IUI to work, it is kind comforting to hear those percentages of success with IVF/ICSI. In case it gets to that point for us.

I definitely get down about the low chances of success with IUI. It's weird though - sometimes I feel like I would try a million rounds of IUI, but right now (probably because I just got a BFN today) I want to say - fuck this noise, let's start IVF next month.

My clinic has a one embryo program. If you agree to transfer only one embryo at a time, they'll do up to 2 FETs for free if the fresh doesn't work. With a 50% chance each time, and a possibility of 3 transfers for the price of one, I have, like, a 150% chance of success

And since this is the randoms, this feels like a good place to put this: in a very strange twist of fate, I actually 'donated' my eggs twice in college. So, I went through the entire ER process before I met my H, and now I am here, on the other side. It makes me feel so much more compassion for the couples I helped, and I also feel much more prepared for my own path. 

[changedname]

Hi Guys, The thing with IUI is it can work but you have to often to a lot of them to get the same chances that 1 IVF/ICSI would give you. I am unexplained but was also given 5-7% chance for IUI success. I was kind of like, what the fuck is the point but still got upset afterwards with the bfn. My DH's S/c were
IUI 1 - 6m
IUI 2 - 48m
IUI 3 - 36m

I have my DH on maca, protein smoothie every day, extra zinc, wheatgrass shots - the works.

We are going to do IVF with ICSI just because we are unexplained so if the issue is fertilization it bypasses that. You really only need a couple if sperm which is great. The good thing about IVF is basically everyone has the same shot - 50-60%.

jewel - that one embryo program is amazing. My clinic insists on only transferring one embryo anyway but I still have to pay for FETs.

[belovedbride07]

Apr 26, 2013 20:01:48 GMT -5 jewel said:

Apr 26, 2013 12:11:48 GMT -5 belovedbride07 said:

I'm hiding out in the bathroom at work...DH saw the uro the other day and I've felt like crying off and on ever since. (I'll post about it later, but I've been trying to collect my thoughts.) The "what do you do differently during the 2ww" post on the main board is making me sad...nothing I do differently is going to multiple H's sperm or give them better motility. I feel bitter that other people get to have the hope that doing XYX differently will make this cycle work for them, and I don't.

Do you know why his numbers are so low? vericocele? That's what my h has, and repair surgery was unsuccessful. I did recently make him switch to boxers and I have him taking a shitload of supplements. I can't not try those sorts of things, but nothing will likely change the vericocele damage now.

Thanks, jewel (and others who responded after).  It's good to hear from people who have been through this.  Yes, it is a vericocele...right now we're weighing our options as far as surgery, but he has agreed to also start trying some supplements.