My BIL and SIL are imploding :(

[speckledfrog]

That sounds like one giant clusterfuck.

[luckyval]

Is SIL working? I know that's a tough road, with her H being mia. But down sizing the house and finding at least a p/t job may be her best option

[Deleted]

so SIL is siding with her brother too? I mean I get why people would be stressed when they are in a bad place financially but I'm sure she pushed him to increase his pay also--so she has just as much to do with it as your BIL. My neighbor is sort of like your BIL--the next job is ALWAYS going to be the one that saves them and brings in loads of money to support a lifestyle they can't afford.

[angelaa73]

Sil sounds lovely

[partiallysunny]

Apr 29, 2013 12:36:04 GMT -5 loonylunalovegood said:

She told him that he doesn't need to come back home, she doesn't care if she doesn't see him for a year, she just wants him to send her a paycheck.

That is so fucked up.

[cleo29]

Both SIL and her brother overreacted. Are you sure this wasn't a set up or something? I can't understand firing someone over something as stupid as tone confusion and don't get me started on his wife's reaction.

[Deleted]

I don't think sil is necessarily the villain here. It's not like she is a sahm demanding a nice house and big paycheck. She works too. But she needs to realize the decisions they made TOGETHER are ones they are going to have to fix TOGETHER.

[cleo29]

Apr 29, 2013 13:18:20 GMT -5 @lazerus24 said:

I don't think sil is necessarily the villain here. It's not like she is a sahm demanding a nice house and big paycheck. She works too. But she needs to realize the decisions they made TOGETHER are ones they are going to have to fix TOGETHER.

Agree, though the send me your paycheck is kind of icky.  And I think it is crappy to tell someone they can't come home and I guess see their child.

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Apr 29, 2013 13:22:46 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Apr 29, 2013 13:18:20 GMT -5 @lazerus24 said:

I don't think sil is necessarily the villain here. It's not like she is a sahm demanding a nice house and big paycheck. She works too. But she needs to realize the decisions they made TOGETHER are ones they are going to have to fix TOGETHER.

Agree, though the send me your paycheck is kind of icky.  And I think it is crappy to tell someone they can't come home and I guess see their child.

Yeah. But who did we hear that from? BIL? Maybe he just thinks she is acting that way when she is really saying - "I don't care what you do but your family needs money - so make it happen."

This situation is all kinds of messed up.

[cleo29]

Apr 29, 2013 15:41:08 GMT -5 @lazerus24 said:

Apr 29, 2013 13:22:46 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Agree, though the send me your paycheck is kind of icky.  And I think it is crappy to tell someone they can't come home and I guess see their child.

Yeah. But who did we hear that from? BIL? Maybe he just thinks she is acting that way when she is really saying - "I don't care what you do but your family needs money - so make it happen."

This situation is all kinds of messed up.

True.  I hate only getting one side of the story.  :^)

[lime]

Oh man, what a CF.