Edited title: Anyone have a similar situation?

[wannabe]

Do nothing.

[alzi]

Don't say anything. Not your place unless they bring it up to you.

[Deleted]

Nothing. If the student wants to say something, she will. Don't ruin the trust she has with the other person, or you, for that matter.

[daisyheadmaizie]

You don't do anything. I'm not even sure why this is a question.

[daisyheadmaizie]

Apr 30, 2013 18:57:55 GMT -5 daisy0721 said:

Apr 30, 2013 18:55:33 GMT -5 wannabe said:

Do nothing.

That is what I was going to do. 

Then why ask? 

[Deleted]

Obviously you are not the only person she trusts, because she went to anther student to talk about it. Its not your place. Don't say anything.

ETA: That sounded bitchier than I meant for it to...

[Deleted]

Apr 30, 2013 19:00:14 GMT -5 @kande818 said:

Obviously you are not the only person she trusts, because she went to anther student to talk about it. Its not your place. Don't say anything.

ETA: That sounded bitchier than I meant for it to...

I understand. She told me one time that I am the only adult she trusts. 

[thinkofthesoldiers]

Aren't you a school counselor? How is this hard? You don't say anything. It shouldn't be a question.

[Deleted]

Apr 30, 2013 19:02:09 GMT -5 thinkofthesoldiers said:

Aren't you a school counselor? How is this hard? You don't say anything. It shouldn't be a question.

I really should of asked of anyone had any experience with anything like this. 

[thinkofthesoldiers]

Apr 30, 2013 19:01:51 GMT -5 daisy0721 said:

Apr 30, 2013 19:00:14 GMT -5 @kande818 said:

Obviously you are not the only person she trusts, because she went to anther student to talk about it. Its not your place. Don't say anything.

ETA: That sounded bitchier than I meant for it to...

I understand. She told me one time that I am the only adult she trusts. 

The note fucking says she isn't ready to come out. SHE ALREADY SAID SHE ISN'T READY.

[Deleted]

It would be inappropriate to say something. Just continue to be someone that the student trusts and maybe she will confide in you one day.

[MWOS]

goddamn, can I just say how grateful I am to be a fucking adult where I can write a fucking note to someone and not have a third party step in, take it from us, and read it. Fuck.

[Deleted]

Are you really a counselor? Don't say anything.

[daisyheadmaizie]

Well, your post title says you don't know what to do, and you say the same thing in your actual post. As a school counselor this really shouldn't even be a question. You continue to make me scratch my head and wonder how in the world you managed to become a counselor.

[EmilieMadison]

Apr 30, 2013 19:01:11 GMT -5 mekiakoo said:

I would assume YOU know what the best thing to do is since you're the counselor.

You'd think. But based on history...

[snickers]

I would not say anything at all. She will come to you if/when she wants to.

[Deleted]

Apr 30, 2013 19:04:19 GMT -5 MWOS said:

goddamn, can I just say how grateful I am to be a fucking adult where I can write a fucking note to someone and not have a third party step in, take it from us, and read it. Fuck.

If I was the teacher I would of took the note and that would of been it. The student came to see me because she knew the teacher sent it to me. The teacher also wanted me to investigate who the note came from. I am certainly not telling. It's ridiculous! 

[thinkofthesoldiers]

Apr 30, 2013 19:04:19 GMT -5 MWOS said:

goddamn, can I just say how grateful I am to be a fucking adult where I can write a fucking note to someone and not have a third party step in, take it from us, and read it. Fuck.

*slips note into MWOS's jeans*

You love me? Do you want to be my friend? Well then don't be afraid to take me by the hand, if you want to. I think think this is how love goes. Check yes or no.

[Deleted]

Apr 30, 2013 19:05:29 GMT -5 daisyheadmaizie said:

Well, your post title says you don't know what to do, and you say the same thing in your actual post. As a school counselor this really shouldn't even be a question. You continue to make me scratch my head and wonder how in the world you managed to become a counselor.

I should have  worded the title differently. I am a school counselor and do my job very well. So you can stop scratching your head. 

[game blouses]

I agree, do nothing. I had a similar situation happen when a student was pregnant and hadn't told anyone, so I waited for her to tell me. Be reassured by the fact that she has peers with whom she can confide.

[thinkofthesoldiers]

Apr 30, 2013 19:08:50 GMT -5 daisy0721 said:

Apr 30, 2013 19:04:19 GMT -5 MWOS said:

goddamn, can I just say how grateful I am to be a fucking adult where I can write a fucking note to someone and not have a third party step in, take it from us, and read it. Fuck.

If I was the teacher I would of took the note and that would of been it. The student came to see me because she knew the teacher sent it to me. The teacher also wanted me to investigate who the note came from. I am certainly not telling. It's ridiculous! 

Do you know what would be appropriate in this situation? Holding an inservice for the teachers and staff on what is appropriate behavior with the community of students who are thinking they are gay or otherwise.

[fuckyourcouch]

HAVE! IT IS HAVE, NOT OF! /flails wildly

Also I read your post like three times and I just can't.

[fuckyourcouch]

And now you are editing things? Wtf?

[MWOS]

Apr 30, 2013 19:09:52 GMT -5 thinkofthesoldiers said:

Apr 30, 2013 19:04:19 GMT -5 MWOS said:

goddamn, can I just say how grateful I am to be a fucking adult where I can write a fucking note to someone and not have a third party step in, take it from us, and read it. Fuck.

*slips note into MWOS's jeans*

You love me? Do you want to be my friend? Well then don't be afraid to take me by the hand, if you want to. I think think this is how love goes. Check yes or no.

[Deleted]

Apr 30, 2013 19:11:53 GMT -5 thinkofthesoldiers said:

Apr 30, 2013 19:08:50 GMT -5 daisy0721 said:

If I was the teacher I would of took the note and that would of been it. The student came to see me because she knew the teacher sent it to me. The teacher also wanted me to investigate who the note came from. I am certainly not telling. It's ridiculous! 

Do you know what would be appropriate in this situation? Holding an inservice for the teachers and staff on what is appropriate behavior with the community of students who are thinking they are gay or otherwise.

That is a good idea. I have to discuss that with my principal. 

[wannabe]

Honestly, whether you edited the title or not, the answer is still the same: DO NOTHING.

[thinkofthesoldiers]

Apr 30, 2013 18:54:33 GMT -5 daisy0721 said:

On Friday a teacher took a note a student had. The note was thanking the student for being there and that she appreciates the help,  but does not want to come out to anyone yet. Today, I spoke to the student who received the note and she told me who wrote the note and to please not tell the other student. The student who wrote the note comes by my office all the time and told me she felt safe with me. She has a lot of behavior problems and very low self esteem so I am the only one she trusts. I want to say something to the student but I can't break the trust with the other student. I don't know what to do. Any advice? 

Hopefully you understood that! 

I edited the title! 

You edited more than the title. None of this changes anything about what people said, however.

Look, I'm going to be nice for a second, but you need to figure out how to post your shit on here. You MUST use appropriate grammar or no one will take you seriously. I know you say you post from your phone a lot, but so do a lot of other people and most are able to type "have" instead of "of." It is ridiculous. People question your intelligence and actual profession AND PROFESSIONALISM because you can't seem to get your shit together when posting.

[Deleted]

Thank you for the advice!

[Deleted]

I can't even figure out how many students we're talking about, who's not coming out, and who isn't supposed to know.

BUT, for goodness sake, as a counselor I would hope that you already understand how important confidentiality is in your position. You can't go around blabbing student secrets unless there's something like abuse involved.

[Deleted]

Apr 30, 2013 19:27:00 GMT -5 @pixiechinchilla said:

I can't even figure out how many students we're talking about, who's not coming out, and who isn't supposed to know.

BUT, for goodness sake, as a counselor I would hope that you already understand how important confidentiality is in your position. You can't go around blabbing student secrets unless there's something like abuse involved.

I did not tell anyone anything. I worded it completely wrong. I wanted to know if anyone had any similar stories. I was wrong!!