I wonder if there was a miscommunication happening. Maybe she thought your mom was taking the sleeping pills to sleep better and didn't realize it sounded like she was asking your mom how she planned to commit suicide? I dunno. I could be way off base here.
Regardless, this woman needs to be reported.
No, she specifically asked my Mom and my Mom told her. There was no miscommunication.
My Mom, thankfully, since doubling up on the anti-depressants has felt really good so that's a plus!
I'm so glad that doctor didn't fuck with your mother's mental health. :Y:
I know my Mom won't complain, she's too nice. She'd just ask to see her regular Doctor next time.
Would I be able to call and explain what my Mother said? Or is that too 3rd party "he said/she said"?
I would absolutely call. It may not be enough coming from a third party for the girl to be fired, but at least her boss would talk with her and hopefully have a candid conversation about how horribly horribly wrong this is.
I'd report it. You lose nothing in reporting it and who knows, she may be giving out that horrible advice to other patients.
This is exactly what I was going to say...how horrible would it be if she said that to someone and they followed through?! I'm glad your mom seems like she is doing better though.
Who is this "young girl" ? - a nurse? - a doctor? - an assistant?
Should you 'be mad'? - Sure, if it's true. Is it true?
If it's not true - what the heck is going on with your mom? And how can you help her?
I said I believe she was a nurse practitioner.
And no, I don't believe my Mother lied. My Mom was taken aback by what the girl said too, but chalked it up to her being young and said that if she has any more problems, she'll ask to see her normal doctor.
ETA: I agree about letting the office know, I would NOT want this chick telling other people the same thing.
she asked your mom what her plan was to committee suicide?
This is actually a pretty standard question. It's used to help determine how serious the person is. Someone who already has a plan is further along than someone without a plan.
However, I definitely side eye the dr's response that she wouldn't have been able to do it w/ sleeping pills and would need something stronger.
ETA - I'm not sure that she meant it as 'here's how you should do it' comment but more of an educational 'that's not an effective method' comment. I know a lot of doctors tend to be very blunt and forget who they are talking to... not that it's an excuse, but more of a different view on it. I guess it would be different if she gave her something stronger in addition to saying what she said.
Your mom doubled-up on her anti-depressant medication on her own? Or under doctor's orders?
Look, if you cannot read, that's not my problem. HOWEVER, this is my Mother and even on a forum, I'm protective of my Mother.
I stated, in my OP, that my Mother upped her AD (out of feeling SO shitty), realized it might be her cholesterol medication, called her Doctor, got an appointment, and WENT TO THE DOCTOR. Where the doctor told her to double her anti-depressants. The head doctor, the one the young girl checked with.
Your mom doubled-up on her anti-depressant medication on her own? Or under doctor's orders?
Look, if you cannot read, that's not my problem. HOWEVER, this is my Mother and even on a forum, I'm protective of my Mother.
I stated, in my OP, that my Mother upped her AD (out of feeling SO shitty), realized it might be her cholesterol medication, called her Doctor, got an appointment, and WENT TO THE DOCTOR. Where the doctor told her to double her anti-depressants. The head doctor, the one the young girl checked with.
This is all in the OP.
Learn.To.Read.
And Samuel L Jackson read that post to me in a very annoyed tone. LOL
I'm sorry that I did not see clearly what was going on from your original post - either who the young girl was or who authorized the medication change. They were real questions. I didn't mean any criticism to your mom who should have gotten much better care.
WTMF?! Report her ass IMMEDIATELY! A. That was unbelievably insensitive. Your mom came to the doctor seeking help with feelings of depression and suicide and the provider (the letters behind her name are irrelevant), not only dismissed it, but gave terrible advice. And I imagine made your mom feel really badly. I'm hurt for her. B. They completely ignored the chief complaint re: mixing medications and feelings of depression. A medication was added and there was a change in emotional stability. DO SOMETHING!
Moonbeam-I think you need to report this and let them know that your mom will not be dealing with ANYONE but her doctor. That pisses me off! I can't imagine how the two of you must have been feeling.
Post by JayhawkGirl on Apr 30, 2013 20:31:27 GMT -5
Definitely worth being angry over. I'm angry on your behalf!
And I completely understand why she increased her dose before being seen. Desperate times call for desperate measures, and I'm glad she upped her dose vs acting on her suicidal thoughts.
I know my Mom asked if she could stop taking the cholesterol medication or for a lower dosage but they said no due to it being so high, it's a heart attack risk if it's lowered.
I cannot wait until she gets in to see her normal Doctor and I'm going to urge her to report the young girl, if I cannot get anywhere with calling.