Is this a legit thing to be angry over?

[TrickyBob]

I went home this past weekend to my parent's house. During the afternoon my Mom was talking about how her Doctor put her on a higher cholesterol medication because her cholesterol is super high. She also takes anti-depressants, well she admitted that once she started the higher dose of cholesterol medications, the feeling of her wanting to die intensified and it got really bad, so she made an appointment and got in to see a doctor. Well her doctor's office is one of those that they give you whomever happens to be there, so she sees this young girl. 

She tells the young girl that she has been feeling really depressed and having feelings of not wanting to be here any longer.

The young girl went and talked to a head doctor who told her to keep the cholesterol medication the same but to up the anti-depressants (which Mom had started doing anyways, which is what lead her to believe it was the cholesterol medication making her feel suicidal) 


The young girl asked her if she had a plan, my Mom said she told her "I was going to take a bunch of sleeping pills"



The young girl told her;


"well that's a good plan but it most likely wouldn't work; you'd need to use something stronger"



I just stared at my Mom. And I'm like "what..she seriously said that?!" and my Mom was like "yup, I told you she was really young and new"


I'm angry over this. I KNOW my Mom doesn't like talking about depression and she has a hard enough time admitting big changes to people, but for a doctor/whatever she was to tell my Mom what she did...wtf? 

I told my Mom that I was under the impression that if you tell a doctor that you A) want to commit suicide and B) actually tell them a plan, that they are obligated to report that and get you help. I know my Mom wouldn't want to go to a hospital or anything, knowing it was her medication throwing everything off, but holy shit. 

I'm just really angry at the level of un-professionalism shown towards her. I'm angry that someone would say that to her. I used to go to the same Dr office and wasn't impressed with them but again, holy shit! 

[WOT?*]

Uh, yeah, I'd be pretty pissed. Did I read it correctly? She's telling your mom a better way to die? Or am I misinterpreting something here?

[alzi]

Holy shit!! That person should be fired. Is she a dr? A nurse? Holy crap I'd be livid.

[TrickyBob]

Apr 30, 2013 19:11:37 GMT -5 WOT?* said:

Uh, yeah, I'd be pretty pissed. Did I read it correctly? She's telling your mom a better way to die? Or am I misinterpreting something here?

Nope, you read it right. She pretty much told my Mom that pills wouldn't work and to use something stronger. 

[iamgrace]

WHAT THE HELL.

What a very, very strange thing to say.

I would be really upset and talk to someone else at the office about what happened.

[wannabe]

What the fuck?!!

[cheeseandcrackers]

she asked your mom what her plan was to committee suicide?

[TrickyBob]

Apr 30, 2013 19:12:00 GMT -5 alzi said:

Holy shit!! That person should be fired. Is she a dr? A nurse? Holy crap I'd be livid.

I believe she is probably a nurse practitioner. 

[TrickyBob]

Apr 30, 2013 19:13:16 GMT -5 cheeseandcrackers said:

she asked your mom what her plan was to committee suicide?

Yes

[Deleted]

Was the counselor daisy0721?

[alzi]

Apr 30, 2013 19:13:16 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

Apr 30, 2013 19:12:00 GMT -5 alzi said:

Holy shit!! That person should be fired. Is she a dr? A nurse? Holy crap I'd be livid.

I believe she is probably a nurse practitioner. 

She deserves to be an unemployed NP. That is so messed up, and I'd make sure the practice knew what happened!

[cheeseandcrackers]

i'm hoping there was some sort of miscommunication.. because no way.. can someone be this unprofessional?

[snickers]

That is very unprofessional, and not okay in my books. I have done a lot of suicidal intervention training because sadly, my job requires it. If someone has a plan YOU DON'T GIVE THEM IDEAS TO BETTER THEIR FUCKING PLAN! Your patient is coming to you for help, and you take it seriously! Honestly, I feel that doctor should be reported. Your mom may be able to chalk it down to the Dr being young, but some people, especially suicidal people, would take this as more of a reason to go ahead with their plan because even the doctor didn't care. Not acceptable.

[tantek]

YES this is a legitimate thing to be angry about. I would definitely follow up. Also, I'm sorry your mom is having those feelings and I hope that her medications are sorted out soon so that she feels better.

[sunshineluv]

Can you report the incident to the office? My dad threatened suicide once and had a plan (gun). He was involuntarily committed for 72 hours. It is such a big deal, this girl needs to be given lots of training. The incompetence is astounding.

[TrickyBob]

I know my Mom won't complain, she's too nice. She'd just ask to see her regular Doctor next time.

Would I be able to call and explain what my Mother said? Or is that too 3rd party "he said/she said"?

[fuckyourcouch]

Apr 30, 2013 19:14:23 GMT -5 @bettyhomewrecker33 said:

Was the counselor daisy0721?

Legit lols

i would be really pissed. That is insane, and you should let someone know 

[snickers]

Also I am really sorry you are going through this.

[BlackCanary]

(huh) What?

Not.ok. Ever.

[wannabe]

Apr 30, 2013 19:14:23 GMT -5 @bettyhomewrecker33 said:

Was the counselor daisy0721?

Betty just dropped the damn mic.

[goaskalice]

Apr 30, 2013 19:16:27 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

I know my Mom won't complain, she's too nice. She'd just ask to see her regular Doctor next time.

Would I be able to call and explain what my Mother said? Or is that too 3rd party "he said/she said"?

I would do it anyway. What a cluster! I cannot fathom why anyone would respond that way. She needs to be held accountable for that comment ASAP.

[studytime45]

Apr 30, 2013 19:13:16 GMT -5 cheeseandcrackers said:

she asked your mom what her plan was to committee suicide?

She's supposed to ask that question. She is not, however, supposed to give better ideas. Wow. Report. 

[karmasabiotch]

Hell yeah I'd be angry. It's good to ask about a plan but not to give them advice on how to carry it out. That's when a no harm contract comes into play. That person should be reported until there is no one left to listen.

I hope your Mom gets back on track soon.

[ElizabethBennet]

I wonder if there was a miscommunication happening. Maybe she thought your mom was taking the sleeping pills to sleep better and didn't realize it sounded like she was asking your mom how she planned to commit suicide? I dunno. I could be way off base here.

Regardless, this woman needs to be reported.

[daisyheadmaizie]

Apr 30, 2013 19:14:23 GMT -5 @bettyhomewrecker33 said:

Was the counselor daisy0721?

Betty, I  (heart) You so much! 

And, wow, that is so screwed up. 

[hopecounts]

Apr 30, 2013 19:13:39 GMT -5 TrickyBob said:

Apr 30, 2013 19:13:16 GMT -5 cheeseandcrackers said:

she asked your mom what her plan was to committee suicide?

Yes

This isn't abnormal if someone has an active plan they can and should be committed for an evaluation.
This person totally screwed up.

[goaskalice]

Apr 30, 2013 19:35:33 GMT -5 ElizabethBennet said:

I wonder if there was a miscommunication happening. Maybe she thought your mom was taking the sleeping pills to sleep better and didn't realize it sounded like she was asking your mom how she planned to commit suicide? I dunno. I could be way off base here.

Regardless, this woman needs to be reported.

I don't think that makes sense in the context we've been given. And if she was that dumb she definitely needs to be talked to.

[ElizabethBennet]

Apr 30, 2013 19:38:47 GMT -5 goaskalice said:

Apr 30, 2013 19:35:33 GMT -5 ElizabethBennet said:

I wonder if there was a miscommunication happening. Maybe she thought your mom was taking the sleeping pills to sleep better and didn't realize it sounded like she was asking your mom how she planned to commit suicide? I dunno. I could be way off base here.

Regardless, this woman needs to be reported.

I don't think that makes sense in the context we've been given. And if she was that dumb she definitely needs to be talked to.

Ya, I just re-read the OP and I misread it.

And even if it was a miscommunication she definitely needs to be talked to.

[TrickyBob]

Apr 30, 2013 19:35:33 GMT -5 ElizabethBennet said:

I wonder if there was a miscommunication happening. Maybe she thought your mom was taking the sleeping pills to sleep better and didn't realize it sounded like she was asking your mom how she planned to commit suicide? I dunno. I could be way off base here.

Regardless, this woman needs to be reported.

No, she specifically asked my Mom and my Mom told her. There was no miscommunication. 


My Mom, thankfully, since doubling up on the anti-depressants has felt really good so that's a plus! 

[ginger]

Encourage your mom to report this. At the very least she needs some corrective action.

I swear I keep thinking she just wanted your mom to know how smart she was or something....