keyslover and otterama and reply posters are not

[BunnyMacDougal]

making a real strong case for having another baby.  I'm an only child and C will probably be one too.

Only children feel free to unite up in here.   

[pursemeatballs]

I was a very middle child. I think that I would've been a better adjusted young adult if I would have been an only child.

[ElizabethBennet]

I adore my siblings. We haven't always gotten along but they're awesome people.

[2boys2danes]

I'm an only and my H is an only. It was a huge motivating factor in adopting two kids. No one will remember your parents the way a sibling does and I used to worry when I was younger that when my parents passed away (I have older parents) I wouldnt have anyone to reminisce with, who would help me make decisions about them when the time came etc.

Could be silly reasons but they are my honest answers

[sailorgray]

May 1, 2013 6:25:38 GMT -5 2boys2danes said:

I'm an only and my H is an only. It was a huge motivating factor in adopting two kids. No one will remember your parents the way a sibling does and I used to worry when I was younger that when my parents passed away (I have older parents) I wouldnt have anyone to reminisce with, who would help me make decisions about them when the time came etc.

Could be silly reasons but they are my honest answers

Makes total sense to me.  My brother is one of my closest friends. It's nice to have someone who just "gets it" when dealing with our parents. I also love seeing my boys together. It's awesome. 

[MrsStark]

There's a large age gap between my brother and I. We haven't had anything remotely in common until recently and now even though we're (mostly, he's 20) adults, we're still in really different stages of our life. My life really started to suck once my brother came along, but that's because I have sucky parents, so take that with a grain of salt. I wish I had been an only child.

[bcv513]

I'm an only, and I always loved it. When I was little, my cousin stayed with us while his mom worked. So it was like I had a brother who went home at 5:30. We're still very close, and I feel like he "gets" my family dynamics. And with it just being me and my parents I feel like there was less "parents vs kids" and more "the three of us". I don't know if that makes sense.

[janiejones]

My sister's current agenda is to convince me to have a second kid. She said that having me & my brother were the best part of growing up. Not only are we super close (now, not always), but it helps having other people who really know how fucked up your parents are.

[Jalapeñomel]

DH loves being an only.

I have an older brother, but we couldn't be more different and I don't know him hardly at all. I've reached out to him a million times, but he doesn't really seem all that interested in building a relationship with me. It's sad. I feel when the time comes And my parents pass, I will probably lose all contact with him and his family.

[keyslover]

@bunnymacdougal It isn't all bad I was having a rough day yesterday and am feeling more comfortable posting here, so I bitched about it.

My girls are at a tough age, I know it will get easier. Even now though, they love each other and watching them interact is awesome (when they are nice). I am happy to say we have more good days than bad days.

The day is young, but is starting out way better than yesterday. This morning the girls got up and were so excited to see each other- happy and loving. Will it last all day? Prob not, but I will take it this morning

I will add I do have a younger sister and we are great friends. Talking to my parents, we weren't always that way. In fact, we were like my girls.

[papie]

I am the opposite. I really like the chaos and would have a whole bunch of kids if DH was on board. We will probably stop after three though, sadly.

[pollyprissypants]

I love being an only child and never really wished I had a sibling growing up or now. I have always been very independent and liked my alone time but my parents made sure I still had plenty of interactions with other kids. My cousins and I were all very close so I always had kids around my age to play with and even now some of them are like a sibling to me.

I think it helps my relationship with DH as well because he was the youngest but his siblings are all much older than him so it was like he was an only for a while so we understand each others need for having time to ourselves every once in a while.

I am pregnant with my first right now and I feel like I would be ok with just one but we will see how that goes in the next few years.

[Deleted]

I'm an only. I loved it growing up because friend's houses were full of fighting and chaos, but mine was quiet and peaceful. The only thing I don't like about being an only is that I'll be alone in dealing with my aging parents. That part makes me sad. Otherwise, it's had a ton of advantages and has been pretty sweet.

DH and I always said that we want 3-4 kids, but lately I've been thinking that maybe we should be one and done. DS is an easy kid and life is pretty great with just him. It's not terribly stressful, our house is not chaotic, he's easy to take places and travels well, etc. So I'm kind of wondering, why rock the boat and potentially mess up a good thing? I'm not sure that I want my easy life to become chaotic.

DH still wants another kid, though, so we'll see.

[wrathofkuus]

I'm an only, and don't feel any sort of way about it. While it might have been better to have a sibling I'm close to, it sure as hell beats having a crappy sibling, and there's no way of knowing how it's all going to turn out in advance.

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May 1, 2013 10:43:25 GMT -5 wrathofkuus said:

I'm an only, and don't feel any sort of way about it. While it might have been better to have a sibling I'm close to, it sure as hell beats having a crappy sibling, and there's no way of knowing how it's all going to turn out in advance.

This is so true and something my mom points out when I talk about if we should give DS a sibling. She has one sister who is the sibling from hell. She is untreated bipolar and has even gotten violent. Life with her is full of drama and my my mom stopped talking to her after her parents died a few ears ago. She has caused my mom and grandparents a ton of heartache.

[MrsAggie]

I have a younger brother and we fought like cats and dogs growing up. I couldn't stand him half the time but I always loved him and was protective of him (when it wasn't me fighting with him lol). I never wanted to be an only child, I just wished I had a sister. Then I grew up and realized I would have had to share my mom's hand-me-downs so eff that! H was a middle child of 3. He wants 2 kids and I always did too but I'm intrigued by the dynamics of a family with 3 kids.