Post by walterismydog on May 3, 2013 10:58:34 GMT -5
BURN IT UP!
mine: I wish I had never gone to college. I have so much student loan debt and it doesn't equal the measly pay I get, and honestly...well...there just doesn't seem to be much hope for a BS in Business Admin/HR Mgmt, because everyone and their mother has that degree. I was happier and doing fine financially before college. Now I just have this piece of paper that cost me 50k. I think I would feel differently if I did the normal college track at a young age, but I went at 27. It wasn't "fun" or a particularly exciting experience, it was just...school. I went to college because of the pressure (from myself, not from anyone else) to feel "successful" but I feel so much less successful now than I did before when I was working at salons, camps, restaurants, river outfitters, ski resorts, etc. So now I'm trying to return to that life, but I still have that damn fucking student loan to deal with. Oh well.
Even when I look for jobs in HR (which frankly I want nothing to do with), they are starting at like 13 bucks an hour. WHAT? I got paid more than that prior to having a degree.
This might be different if I was a career-oriented/driven person, but I'm not. I have no desire to climb some career ladder or ever work in an office. I wish I would have just admitted this to myself and been ok with it during school instead of convincing myself that I was a failure if I didn't have a degree. :/
Post by Jalapeñomel on May 3, 2013 11:07:59 GMT -5
Warning, irritable stupid flameful here: There have been a slew of FB friends who have announced their pregnancy on FB, and since doing that, all they talk about is being pregnant and babies. Clearly, they are excited and happy, and they should be, but I wish they would go back to talking about other stuff as well. There has to be a happy balance, right? I´m such a grouch lately, LOL!
I'm sorry I think it is worth it to have a degree, though. When I was looking for some jobs, I know I did not get interviewed because I don't have a degree. I have all the skills, but it seems like a baseline requirement to have almost any job nowadays. I also hate when people ask, "What school did you go to?" because referencing high school is not really cool. LOL.
I'm sorry about the debt, though Hopefully it will pay off down the road.
I'm sorry I think it is worth it to have a degree, though. When I was looking for some jobs, I know I did not get interviewed because I don't have a degree. I have all the skills, but it seems like a baseline requirement to have almost any job nowadays. I also hate when people ask, "What school did you go to?" because referencing high school is not really cool. LOL.
I'm sorry about the debt, though Hopefully it will pay off down the road.
Oh, I definitely agree with that. Especially if I were looking for any type of corporate job. But ski resorts and river outfitters could care less about that, generally. Hopefully maybe someday it will pay off and I'll be a manager or something of a sweet outdoorsy company.
Moving to Michigan didn't work out. The main reason I am disappointed is because I was looking forward to moving away from my family. We were all together at the hospital Wednesday for my moms procedure and they are all seriously BSC.
We will be trying again next year but in the meantime I have to deal with this nonsense.
Warning, irritable stupid flameful here: There have been a slew of FB friends who have announced their pregnancy on FB, and since doing that, all they talk about is being pregnant and babies. Clearly, they are excited and happy, and they should be, but I wish they would go back to talking about other stuff as well. There has to be a happy balance, right? I´m such a grouch lately, LOL!
Mine's similar.
I spent a long weekend with my college BFF, who now has a 10 month old and is a SAHM. She could not talk about anything else and was constantly shoving baby pictures in my face. I even got the "I can't believe women go back to work so quickly after having babies" talk. I was irritated with her by the end of the weekend. She also referred to doing everything as "H took me out to dinner" or "H took me on vacation" rather than just saying "we went out to dinner." That's a lot of quotes!
I don't think it's flammable Walter. My H left college after his first year because he realized he didn't know what he wanted to do. He may go back eventually, but I kind of doubt it--he likes working outside and not having a boss right behind you all day.
Here are mine (I forgot to add them):
I just ate too much pizza but I am still hungry.
I had a weird dream last night and have been spending all my downtime trying to interpret it.
I also had a naughty dream involving my workplace crush. That's a new thing for me.
I also wish I hadn't gone to college. Or at least not the specific college that I chose. It was expensive as fuck. I wanted to go to nursing school straight from HS, but my parents encouraged me to attend a traditional, 4 year college. So now I have a BA in Anthropology that's completely useless.
Moral of the story, parents, if your kids are kinda thinking they might want a career that doesn't require a BA... don't make them get one!
I also wish I hadn't gone to college. Or at least not the specific college that I chose. It was expensive as fuck. I wanted to go to nursing school straight from HS, but my parents encouraged me to attend a traditional, 4 year college. So now I have a BA in Anthropology that's completely useless.
Moral of the story, parents, if your kids are kinda thinking they might want a career that doesn't require a BA... don't make them get one!
I was lucky because my mom totally let me be my own person and make my own decisions. Which I did. It was the crippling time around 27, facebook started blowing up, and all my friends were doctors, lawyers, fancy pants this and that and I was like...oh I work at a salon. Now I really DGAF what anyone else is doing and I wish I still worked in a salon (or restaurant, or whatever).
My personal flameful is that I still haven't written to / gotten in contact with my whore aunt who slept with my husband. I am a huge chicken. I have just had so much SHIT the last few months with losing my daughter and separating from my husband, I don't feel ready to deal with the fallout from this. I know I need to suck it up.
My personal flameful is that I still haven't written to / gotten in contact with my whore aunt who slept with my husband. I am a huge chicken. I have just had so much SHIT the last few months with losing my daughter and separating from my husband, I don't feel ready to deal with the fallout from this. I know I need to suck it up.
Not flameful. Confront her when you're good and ready..IF you want.
My personal flameful is that I still haven't written to / gotten in contact with my whore aunt who slept with my husband. I am a huge chicken. I have just had so much SHIT the last few months with losing my daughter and separating from my husband, I don't feel ready to deal with the fallout from this. I know I need to suck it up.
My personal flameful is that I still haven't written to / gotten in contact with my whore aunt who slept with my husband. I am a huge chicken. I have just had so much SHIT the last few months with losing my daughter and separating from my husband, I don't feel ready to deal with the fallout from this. I know I need to suck it up.
This is not flameful. This conversation should happen on your terms when you are ready.
Post by JamaicanPineapple on May 3, 2013 11:24:45 GMT -5
Walter, I feel the same way some days.
My flamefuls:
H asked me to pick the girls up tonight so he could get a jump start on yard work this afternoon. But our sitter needs them picked up before I can get there b/c she has an appt. He's pissed off now.
What I want to say to him: You've had 3 previous weekends with decent weather where you chose to lay around all afternoon instead of getting shit done. Too bad for you. What I actually said: Sorry babe, that sucks.
MIL lost one of DD2s sneakers yesterday (??). She felt so bad she went and bought each of the girls a new pair of sneakers. DD1s are awesome. They're purple (her favorite). DD2s are white. Plain white velcro and look like something old ladies wear. WHO GETS A TODDLER PLAIN WHITE SNEAKERS?? I know I should be grateful but man, they're just ugly.
My personal flameful is that I still haven't written to / gotten in contact with my whore aunt who slept with my husband. I am a huge chicken. I have just had so much SHIT the last few months with losing my daughter and separating from my husband, I don't feel ready to deal with the fallout from this. I know I need to suck it up.
Not flameful. Confront her when you're good and ready..IF you want.
Thank you. It feels flameful to me, because I have been meaning to at least write my feelings out all week, if not actually confront her. But I'm just pushing everything to the back of my brain and ignoring it, which isn't healthy or productive.
Post by spitforspat on May 3, 2013 11:35:05 GMT -5
Walter- I feel you.
I'm glad there's a flameful today. I was cleaning up our guest room yesterday and found the Vera Bradley stuff I was supposed to mail out to ML people FOUR MONTHS AGO. Oops!!
I was the interim director in my department for almost 7 months when my boss was out on medical leave, and I kicked ass at it. Once she came back, I lost all motivation and I've been slacking off a lot lately.
This might be different if I was a career-oriented/driven person, but I'm not. I have no desire to climb some career ladder or ever work in an office. I wish I would have just admitted this to myself and been ok with it during school instead of convincing myself that I was a failure if I didn't have a degree. :/
This is how I feel. I didn't go to college straight after HS. I just started working. If I were to go anywhere else for a job and not move up with my company, I feel like nobody would hire me since almost every job requires a college degree.
Post by margotmacomber on May 3, 2013 11:49:13 GMT -5
I feel the same way about my college degree.
MIL is coming over later to help finish the wallpaper and I have left all of the worst parts for last. (devil) But to be fair, I have a toddler and a puppy underfoot so it isn't exactly easy anyway.
Not flameful. Confront her when you're good and ready..IF you want.
Thank you. It feels flameful to me, because I have been meaning to at least write my feelings out all week, if not actually confront her. But I'm just pushing everything to the back of my brain and ignoring it, which isn't healthy or productive.
I said this in your OP, but you don't have to do this on a schedule or at all, ever. I would personally just tell the family (minus grandma) that she is a whore and never speak to her again.
My flameful - I backed out of a friendship with two boundary challenged people and only gave them the slightest of indication what the issue was. It feels glorious to have not wasted more time on it, which would have been all pain, no gain. I don't even miss them.
My Flameful. I had a meltdown last month because I didn't feel like I was juggling the working mother thing with family life. I missed being with my kids. I finally got what I wanted at work which was part time hours and I now have Tues and Thursdays off. While Tuesday rocked, yesterday was such a cluster fuck with my kids. It was a billion degrees out so we stayed inside and they drove me absolutely bananas. They also BOTH skipped their naps so there was no downtime. I feel like a shitty parent because I was so excited to go to work this morning. I'm mad at myself for being so impatient but DAYAM. Happy Friday ya'll!!