If your child had big ears would you have them pinned back?

[ralphlauren]

Or is that a horrible thing?

[gozf]

My friend got his done when he was 6 and is do glad he did. He is handsome and well-adjusted. Lol. So yeah, I'd do it, I think.

[Deleted]

My answer depends on the sex of the child. I suck.

[soozy87]

No, I wouldn't.

[glassofsyrah]

I don't know much about the procedure. If it isn't too painful and wouldn't be traumatic, sure.

[Deleted]

Nope.

But don't ask me about unibrows. I have a line somewhere and it's totally illogical.

[jane6672]

Uh no, and no nose jobs either. They can do it themselves when they are of age, if it matters to them.

[Jalapeñomel]

No way! I love when ears stick out on babies, so cute!

[angelaa73]

Never. We dumbos must learn to embrace our dumboness

sent from my posse's on broadway

[gozf]

May 3, 2013 16:47:21 GMT -5 jane6672 said:

Uh no, and no nose jobs either. They can do it themselves when they are of age, if it matters to them.

I had a friend in high school whose mom essentially forced her to get a nose job. She took her to the surgeon who did hers, so they'd match. I thought that was pretty messed up.

I would like to clarify that I wouldn't coerce my child to do anything, but if he or she expressed interest, I'd look into it. And I do think my friend was too young at 6, even though he has no regrets.

[moolarkey]

I couldn't make a blanket yes or no call without being in the situation. It would depend on how bad, on the kid - how they felt about it. If it were minor, then probably not. If it were major then I'd at least consult doctor's about it and find out what they recommend and when they would recommend something like that.

My mom had a huge hang-up about ears sticking out - mine do not - however, I was never allowed to hang my hair behind my ears because she was concerned it would make my ears stick out. If I tucked my hair behind my ears she would either flip it from behind my ear(s) herself or say "unhang your ears". I have REALLY thick, but very fine, hair. I'm pretty sure I could have "hung" my hair behind my ears every day of my life and that my ears were either going to stick out or not and where my hair was had no influence on whether my ears stuck out or not. People believe silly things.

[DotAndBuzz]

If it became a problem for their confidence/they wanted to/asked, yes. I would.

But I wouldn't do it until they expressed concern about it.

I grew up with a kid who's ears stuck WAY out. He made fun of them, and while no one in our little group did, you could tell it was kind of a thing for him. He had them pinned somewhere around age 16 or 17, I think, and it made a huge difference in his confidence.

[TemperanceBrennan]

I know someone who got her ears pinned back when she was little, because she got teased a lot. She was happy she had it done.

I guess my answer is, if they were teased a lot and they wanted it, then maybe. If there is not teasing, then no.

[speckledfrog]

May 3, 2013 16:46:19 GMT -5 @stellasmom said:

My answer depends on the sex of the child. I suck.

I can see where you are going with this.  I don't know what I would do.  How much do they stick out?  What does pinning them back involve?  I'm conflicted between wanting to do it and wanting him to have the confidence to be happy with his body the way it is.

[speckledfrog]

May 3, 2013 16:51:37 GMT -5 moolarkey said:

I couldn't make a blanket yes or no call without being in the situation. It would depend on how bad, on the kid - how they felt about it. If it were minor, then probably not. If it were major then I'd at least consult doctor's about it and find out what they recommend and when they would recommend something like that.

My mom had a huge hang-up about ears sticking out - mine do not - however, I was never allowed to hang my hair behind my ears because she was concerned it would make my ears stick out. If I tucked my hair behind my ears she would either flip it from behind my ear(s) herself or say "unhang your ears". I have REALLY thick, but very fine, hair. I'm pretty sure I could have "hung" my hair behind my ears every day of my life and that my ears were either going to stick out or not and where my hair was had no influence on whether my ears stuck out or not. People believe silly things.

This is my hair and I am a serial tucker.  My ears stick out terribly.  Just kidding, they are normal. 

[TrickyBob]

I would hope to teach my child that everyone is different and kids are cruel, but if it just became something they felt too insecure about, I would let them get it done.

[sonrisa]

My 6'8" grandfather had ears the size of my hands which stood straight out on both sides of his head. If I had a daughter with such extreme ears I'd probably look into it.

[Deleted]

Yes I would. Most people I know with ears sticking out want it done.

[karmasabiotch]

No. I had elective surgery and almost died. I wouldn't do any surgery that wasn't medically necessary anymore.

[Deleted]

Yes to pinning. Ex bf had it done in kindergarten and said he was so glad his parents did it.

[matildasun]

My parents had mine done when I was little. Just pinning them back didn't work, so I had to have a second more intensive surgery when I was 10. I am not sure if it has had any impact on my life. I wasn't teased about my ears prior to my surgery.

My daughter's ears do stick out. We don't plan on doing anything, or mentioning them unless she asks about them when she is older. It would be hypocritical to not allow her the surgery if she wanted it, but on the other hand I think she is beautiful the way she is.

[lilybug]

Yes, I'd be willing to look into it. But really it would depend on the severity - if they really stuck out at a right angle or something, I might consider it at a younger age than if they were just a little prominent.

[wildfloweragain]

Probably not. Depends if it was really extreme maybe?
DD has extremely furry arms. It's extreme, did I mention that?
She thinks it makes her unique right now and says "I have hairy arms!"
But when she wants it lasered off I'm there for her.

[Deleted]

Nope. My kid has big ears and it's the ONE feature that she gets from me. She'll grow into them.

[AlpineSlide]

I probably would.

[jane6672]

May 3, 2013 16:49:55 GMT -5 gozf said:

May 3, 2013 16:47:21 GMT -5 jane6672 said:

Uh no, and no nose jobs either. They can do it themselves when they are of age, if it matters to them.

I had a friend in high school whose mom essentially forced her to get a nose job. She took her to the surgeon who did hers, so they'd match. I thought that was pretty messed up.

Ay yi yi. That is wrong in so many ways.

[mrssandro]

In a extreme case I would.

[Deleted]

Hell, no. Maybe if it was truly severe and they begged me, I might do it when they are older (like a teenager).

[celeste]

In an extreme case, I probably would. My ears stick out a bit & I sort of wish my parents had done it when I was little (my mom noticed and tried to tape them down, lol). It's not bad enough for me to pursue a surgical fix now, though.

[RoxMonster]

Depending on the severity and how bothered they were by it/if they asked for it, possibly. If it didn't bother them and they didn't mind, the no. If they came home crying for being made fun of and begged me to have it done, then most likely yes.