FB annoyance-maybe flameful

[meggers5]

I found out on FB that a guy I went to high school with died. We're young, so I'm really curious how it happened.

A couple of people asked if anyone knew what happened. Someone commented that they knew, but that FB wasn't a place to comment on it.

I completely get that you might not want to talk about it, or that it's no ones business (though I see nothing wrong with mentioning cause of death, unless it's extremely personal), but what is the point of saying that you know but you're not going to tell? People are asking because they care (and, admittedly, just want to know). But if you know and don't want to say, just don't comment anything. Don't thumb your nose at people who are asking out of genuine concern.

[feistypants]

Well, it all depends on what the manner of death was.

I could see not wanting to broadcast on FB that someone I went to high school with died of auto-erotic asphyxiation.

[mbcdefg]

I agree. That just sounds to me like someone wants to flaunt* that they're one of the "special people" who's privy to special information. They could've PMed the person and said what happened, or said that it was a private circumstance.

* They may very well not intend it that way, but that's how it comes across.

[CheshireGrin]

Yeah, I'd be irritated too. Either answer the question, or shut your trap.

And of course, this circumstance is absolutely unique to FB. No one around here would ever do anthing like that.

[mbcdefg]

I'd also be willing to bet that this person put it as a public comment, rather than a PM, in the hopes that more people would message him and be all, "Oooh, what happened? Tell me, please!!!"

[meggers5]

May 6, 2013 11:40:37 GMT -5 @smace said:

They probably know the sex of rachmatts baby

I'd want to know what happened also. It's a common response. Google his name/location and see if it was in the papers??

I've googled everywhere to no avail.

[wannabe]

yeah, that's totally a "neener neener neener" move. dicks.

[adhdfashion]

In my personal experience that means they are trying to determine if it was a suicide or an accidental drug overdose.

[Deleted]

Ya if you know but you aren't going to comment on FB about it then don't comment that you know for fucksake.

[snickers]

That person is being a weirdo, I would be annoyed too. Knowing how someone died isn't something to brag about.

[meggers5]

It's looking like a work accident. I'm finding out that he was a rigger, and a few guys he worked with have commented on their job being tough and unsafe.

I Now have more info with which to google.

[copperboom]

Not sharing the cause if death on FB is totally understandable, but to answer inquiries with "I know, but I won't say" is AWish. Either say nothing, or PM the info.