Odd wedding vows/speeches

[papie]

I stopped my BCP right after my honeymoon, so I am one of THOSE people. I was 27 though.

[papie]

No, lol. But we had minimal speeches and there are no vows in orthodox ceremonies.

[Deleted]

Catholic wedding masses have always made me uncomfortable because of the vows to procreate. Its awkward to me for the same reason.

[papie]

A mom at daycare told me one of their vows was to "multiply". They have three kids and plan on 2 or 3 more.

[sparkythelawyer]

I went to a wedding where the vows were Rick-Rolled, and that was awesome.

[sessy]

I'm a pastor and I go out of my way to avoid talking about babies in weddings. If the couple writes their own vows and says something to each other that's their own thing, but I want no part in that.

I think I'm overly sensitive because of my experience with infertility. Having children is not always a given for many, many, reasons.

[lilybug]

Babies weren't mentioned at my wedding at all. We were planning to wait at least 4-5 years before ttc, and everyone close to us knew it. BUT, it wouldn't weird me out at someone else's wedding. Even if you're not throwing your bc pills into the ocean during your honeymoon, lots of couples know they want kids eventually.

[wannabe]

I don't find this odd at all.

[Deleted]

May 6, 2013 14:02:32 GMT -5 @astrid said:

May 6, 2013 14:00:24 GMT -5 @missusbee said:

Catholic wedding masses have always made me uncomfortable because of the vows to procreate. Its awkward to me for the same reason.

I'm sorry, I can't take any of your posts seriously with Andy making out with your screen door.  It's hilarious.

:-) Thanks. He was being silly for H's benefit, who was outside. It was so cute. 

[Captain Serious]

I don't think it's odd, if a couple wants a family, to envision what their partner will be like as a parent, and to mention that in a wedding.

That being said, I prefer to think of being parents as only one part or version of being a spouse, and I don't think a marriage should be based on parental qualities, so personally, I wouldn't feature it in any wedding I was in or had a hand in planning.

[Captain Serious]

I don't think it's odd, if a couple wants a family, to envision what their partner will be like as a parent, and to mention that in a wedding.

That being said, I prefer to think of being parents as only one part or version of being a spouse, and I don't think a marriage should be based on parental qualities, so personally, I wouldn't feature it in any wedding I was in or had a hand in planning.

[cheeseandcrackers]

are you sure the bride isn't already pregnant?

[Deleted]

It doesn't seem that strange to me. A wedding gets people thinking about the plans they have together for their future, and kids are a part of that it seems natural to think about it.

But I'm also in Utah, so I may be desensitized. I've never been to a wedding where I didn't hear future children mentioned.

[angelaa73]

Haha no. Ray and I each said two words.

Brevity is our strong suit.


sent from my posse's on broadway

[sparkythelawyer]

May 6, 2013 14:30:12 GMT -5 @beagle said:

May 6, 2013 14:02:47 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

I went to a wedding where the vows were Rick-Rolled, and that was awesome.

Please tell me more. That sounds like an awesome wedding.    

So, the minister is there, looking all official and ministerial, the bride and groom are all hand holdy and cute, and here comes the minister (We learned later at the couple's suggestion):

Minister:  Repeat after me.   I dingledick, take you dicknuts;
                                        To be your lawfully wedded husband:
                                        To never give you up

                                        To never let you down

                                        To never run around and desert you.



and so on and so forth.  Those of us who knew what was happening had to work so hard to not bust out laughing :-)

[sunshineray]

I don't think it's necessarily odd, but we certainly didn't mention babies in our vows. I was 28 and H was 33. Our wedding was about us, and our commitment to each other. I kind of equate it to blended families saying vows to the kids, especially smaller ones who have no clue what's going on. I was recently at a wedding though where the bride did go on and on in her vows about how she wants to have "sooo many babies" with her H. That was weird because she said it so many times.

[mollz007]

At my wedding, a version of the Irish blessing was read and one of the lines was "may you live to see your children's children " and I had them leave it out. At the time I wasn't sure if I wanted kids and didn't want it mentioned in the ceremony.