There are some toxic peple in my life...

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That I need to remove myself from. Including my sister. But it's freakin hard man!
Have you ever had to remove yourself from a "toxic person"?. I mean, she is my sister, so I can't really remove myself completely, but she causes me so much hardship that I need to cut most of my ties with her, which is sad but true.

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Been there, done that.

[studytime45]

I've had friends that I've had to do this with. And my father, for a period. You have to value your happiness and mental health more than anything at this point. If you've tried to salvage the relationship, and it continues to be toxic, treat it like a breakup and mourn. But certainly do not keep seeing/interacting with these people.

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May 8, 2013 18:29:26 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

Been there, done that.

It sucks because I spend so much time on her negativity, that I realize how much time I have lost with the positive people in my life I love spending time with. Being a grown up is overrated.

[studytime45]

May 8, 2013 18:32:06 GMT -5 nicbreeful said:

Yeah, my mother.

It gets easier after a while.

Sucks when it's a parent, doesn't it? Ain't nobody got time for bullshit though, parent or not. 

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May 8, 2013 18:32:06 GMT -5 nicbreeful said:

Yeah, my mother.

It gets easier after a while.

I'm sorry

Although I am glad to hear it does get easier.

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I learned long ago that I did not have any tolerance for my oldest sister's shenanigans. I lost her and my nephew long ago and for my nephew I feel guilty. He deserves more than the life he has with Sister McPsycho, but I can't change that situation. It didn't take long for most everyone else to cut her out, too. Life without her drama has been so much better.

[karmasabiotch]

I had to do it with my Dad but later in life he got dx with dementia and forgot the awful way he acted and I let him back in because he didn't understand why we weren't talking.

Sorry for baking this about me. Cutting the toxic people out is hard but you feel better after.

[karmasabiotch]

Making not baking. I suck in the kitchen. Damn phone.

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May 8, 2013 18:46:15 GMT -5 nicbreeful said:

May 8, 2013 18:35:10 GMT -5 snickers said:

I'm sorry

Although I am glad to hear it does get easier.

S'ok.  Once you cut them out then sorta get into the groove of them not being in your life, it doesn't just get easier, you feel better all around.

To start, I would set your sister's ringtone/text message sound to silent.  That way you won't even hear or know when she's calling until after.  Set her FB messages and emails to go to a separate inbox or folder.  Hide her on FB (if you haven't already).  She won't know she's hidden and you won't see her updates.

Once it's not all right there in your face and you're in the moment of "Do I answer/look at the message?  What if it's important?  What if she's going to say something horrible or accuse me of doing whatever again?" then it's easier to think with a clear head and realize that it's best that you missed the call or didn't see the message.

Luckily, she doesn't have facebook because her DH banned it in his house.

[ilovelamp]

I've cut out many family members (either all together or just distanced myself a lot). My sister, mom, cousins, aunts, and an uncle to name a few. They are very dysfunctional and unhealthy and I don't need that in my life. It's hard and it sucks, but it gets easier.

Hugs, I know this is very hard.

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Thank you so much everyone. Really, thank you

[PennyCandy]

I cut my older brother out completely. I tried really hard and kept getting hurt so I gave up. I haven't seen or spoken to him in 5 years. Unless someone else in my family brings him up, I don't think about him much anymore.

[thinkofthesoldiers]

I cut out a sibling after they hit our mother. It started out because I was angry and had no reason to contact the sibling. Then I realized how much more relaxed my life was without this person. I blocked the sibling and spouse's phone numbers/email address/facebook. I've sent back cards/gifts unopened. My mom thinks things have changed with this sibling, but I'm not ready to open my husband and kids back up to this bullshit.