Pain Olympics/H vent

[KaraOrNot]

We are getting ready for our first IUI.  We live fairly close to the clinic, so for his SAs, H gives his sample at home and then takes it to the clinic.  However, for actual treatment, they recommend doing it there.  He is dreading it and he keeps saying this is the most embarrassing thing he has ever had to do.  I get it, it isn't something that I would want to do either. However, he keeps bringing it up and tonight, I had enough. I went through the list of crap that I have already had to do (multiple exams, HSG, dildo cams (during my period!), etc).  This doesn't even take into account what I would have to go through it it actually worked.  I told him that I won a gold in the pain olympics and he gets a silver by default. Ha!

[G22]

Haha nice response. My H has no problem doing the sample. He was too embarressed to carry it in on his own and made me do it. Big baby!

[jewel]

May 9, 2013 22:35:43 GMT -5 G22 said:

Haha nice response. My H has no problem doing the sample. He was too embarressed to carry it in on his own and made me do it. Big baby!

I carry the sample in between my boobs! The doctor said that the heat is good, and I have no shame.

KaraOrNot - I've had similar responses to my husband many times. He rarely complains about any physical ailments now:)

[KaraOrNot]

May 9, 2013 22:40:29 GMT -5 jewel said:

May 9, 2013 22:35:43 GMT -5 G22 said:

Haha nice response. My H has no problem doing the sample. He was too embarressed to carry it in on his own and made me do it. Big baby!

I carry the sample in between my boobs! The doctor said that the heat is good, and I have no shame.

Ha ha! I have never been with him when he dropped off a sample, but between your boobs is genius!

[G22]

Boobs are a good idea. Ill have to try that next time. I just held it between my legs, right next to where it was going soon

[speyedr]

I am waiting to see how DH is going to react next week. He has done his SA's at home as well and we have taken them to the lab at the hospital. We are doing our first IUI next week and DH is very reserved and totally uncomfortable even doing it at home so it will be interesting. He doesn't really complain though because he knows how much I have been through and had to put up with for all of this as well.

[BNL2]

KaraOrNot I love your response. Men can be such babies.

DH has had to do his business at the clinic for our IUIs. The first time he complained about the "encouragement materials" so he downloaded his own onto his phone the second time. He said it's a little weird but he doesn't whine too much.

I will say a stool sample is 100x more embarrassing than a seamen sample. Thankfully, stool samples aren't part of IF work ups. lol.

[jewel]

May 9, 2013 22:46:24 GMT -5 KaraOrNot said:

May 9, 2013 22:40:29 GMT -5 jewel said:

I carry the sample in between my boobs! The doctor said that the heat is good, and I have no shame.

Ha ha! I have never been with him when he dropped off a sample, but between your boobs is genius!

That's just for IUI. For a regular SA test, he can figure it out on his own, LOL.

I'm surprised your clinic wants it done in house. My RE specifically wants us to bring it in 45-60 minutes after collection, while maintaining contact with body heat. It's supposed to liquify the semen, I suppose making the washing easier.

I think my husband knows that I'm just crazy enough now that he'd never complain about anything related to sample collection. I got upset with him last time because he didn't collect at the time he was supposed to, and I said something along the lines of "I spend all month preparing and suffering, and all you have to do in this whole process is jack off at the right time!"

[changedname]

KaraOrNot - my husband did the sample for our first IUI at the clinic and he had 6m sperm. His s/a was 150m. He said he couldn't concentrate at the clinic because he could hear everybody talking in the waiting room. After that I took the sample from home in my boobs with the heated seats on and heat on in the car (it was winter).

I already told him that for IVF, he has no choice, it has to be at the clinic. He actually asked the RE if he could book the room for an hour to do a trial run. I kid you not.
I told him, just FYI - I will be at ER when you are doing your sample. IV, full on operation etc. But no, he still has it worse.
Men are such babies and I'm glad it's not just my DH

[discogranny]

DH did all of his samples at the office, he was actually a great sport about it. Before we went to the RE, my OB/GYN ordered a SA and he was sent to an RE that we didn't end up going with in the end. He told me after I had made my choice about RE's that he was really glad I had chosen the one I did because the first RE's office just had a hard pine bench and old magazines. The one we chose has a leather recliner and videos. LOL!

[changedname]

Ok KaraOrNot - I have you beat. I went to the clinic for my baseline today (all good, start Lupron Weds), and there was a note on my file saying that DH needs to do updated bloodwork because it's been over 6 months.

They won't let us do IVF without it. He is completely petrified of needles.


I told DH and here were his texts:

DH - ahhhh fuck! Ru serious? Ur joking right?
Me - nope
DH - "for fuck sakes that's beyond ridiculous if that's serious. What kind of fucking shit is that?
Me - Calm down. I left the requistition form on the table.
DH - Ya but how many fucking times do I have to do this. That's fucking bullshit.
Me - Once every 6 months. Same as me. Plus I have to do it for days on end for IVF.
DH - This is so stupid
Me - That's the way all the clinics are.

Is he serious? Like, how can he not be embarrassed to get so worked up when I have to do shots every day plus bw all the time? Last time it took me about 1 month to get him to do his bw. What a drama queen.

So anyway - I think I win the prize for the most babiest of baby DH's.

[jewel]

May 10, 2013 10:05:46 GMT -5 changedname said:

DH - "for fuck sakes that's beyond ridiculous if that's serious. What kind of fucking shit is that?

I seriously LOLed at this part. This shit is funny!

[G22]

Lol changedname I think you win.

[KaraOrNot]

changedname, you do win. That is hilarious.

It's funny, I had my ultrasound today and we talked more about the process. She actually said they really don't see that much difference between a collection at home and at the clinic, so we agreed that he can do it at home. H is so relieved. He told me that he has been getting stomach aches every time he thinks about having to do it at the clinic. Big baby.

[bronxgirl]

I'm glad to know my husband isn't the only one.

[Deleted]

Not even related to fertility treatments, but if you want a laugh: a few years ago, my parents had the "I'm worse off than you are" argument. My mom was in the process of chemo/radiation for colon cancer, my dad was in the process of losing one of his legs from the knee down due to his diabetes. He decided he won because "you'll likely go into remission, but it isn't like my leg can grow back." Seriously.