I'm here with an update.

[formerlyknownasefl]

Hey y'all. I never updated because my DH went through my phone history and saw my posts and of course got upset about it. When the board moved I figured it would be safe to post.

I told him I wanted a divorce. To those who said they figured he'd go nuts you were right. He tried to tell me he was going to fight me for custody of our son and basically wanted me to leave without taking anything we aquired in the course of our marriage.
I got a lawyer and once he saw a lawyer he figured out it wasn't going to work out in his favor....

Things were rough for a few weeks but now my son and I are living with my parents until we can get a place of our own. I'm also able to work full time at my job so I'm thankful for that. He filed for divorce a few weeks ago so it should only take about 30 days or so once papers are signed.

It's really like y'all are mind readers because once I made the decision to leave it was like the elephant that was sitting on my shoulders was gone. I feel so much relief. Don't get me wrong I'm very sad that my 10 year relationship with this man is over and that my son will not have the family he deserves but I know in my heart this is the best decision and I have no regrets.

I feel really lonely lately and very confused but I'm trying my best to keep myself physically and mentally healthy for my son. I'm also continuing to see a therapist to work out issues and figure out whey I keep engaging myself in relationships that are emotionally abusive and not right for me.... Please tell me that it gets better or easier? It's really tough doing this and with a small child. My parents are helping me out alot but I'm still pretty exhausted.

Thanks for all the great advice yall have given over the past few years and I hope to be posting more over here in this new journey

[smock]

I'm glad to hear that you feel like a weight has lifted from your shoulders! I'm sure it feels tough now, but I'm certain things will only get better from here. And please keep posting!

[BettyBookWorm]

Good for you!

[malibu]

Also glad to hear it is going well. I have not been through a divorce but the many posts I have seen tell me that it will get easier.

Sounds like you definitely made the right decision, and keep up the therapy, hopefully talking it all out with him/her will be a good outlet for you.

[Deleted]

Im glad that you made the right choice for you and your child. Taking the first step is always the hardest.

[heartlyric]

It will get easier. And it will get funner. This is a new beginning. After it's final, you can strike anew and find what you really want in life nothing holding you down. Keep posting!

[Deleted]

Your son has the family he deserves. He has a strong mother who has shown him that one everyone is responsible for their own happiness and shouldn't be dealing with bullshit from their spouse.

Eventually, you'll find someone and you'll model a good relationship for him.

[flamingeaux]

May 12, 2012 19:10:57 GMT -5 @habbsies said:

Your son has the family he deserves. He has a strong mother who has shown him that one everyone is responsible for their own happiness and shouldn't be dealing with bullshit from their spouse.

Eventually, you'll find someone and you'll model a good relationship for him.

for some reason the thumbs up isn't working.

Your son deserves to have HAPPY parents. Since there is something majorly defective with your soon to be ex-husband, that puts the responsibility on your shoulders to be a happy, healthy person, and parent.

[statlerwaldorf]

May 12, 2012 19:10:57 GMT -5 @habbsies said:

Your son has the family he deserves. He has a strong mother who has shown him that one everyone is responsible for their own happiness and shouldn't be dealing with bullshit from their spouse.

Eventually, you'll find someone and you'll model a good relationship for him.

I couldn't agree with this more.

I was hoping you would find your way over here EFLO. Our kids are around the same age and I remember you way back from the tri boards. I haven't been through it personally, but I think any big change is going to be hard. You will be so much happier in the long run and your child better off.