Tell me if this is tacky

[Bernadine]

We're throwing around wedding ideas.  We know we want to get married on a beach.  Right now, we're thinking Cape May, next May, with parents and siblings only, then out for a nice dinner, and out for drinks. 

Is it tacky if a few weeks later we invite extended family and friends to a bash at our house?  We'd ask for no gifts on the invite, I don't want it to look like a gift grab, we just want to be able to celebrate with everyone.

[cheeseandcrackers]

Nah, I don't think it's tacky, especially if you're asking for no gifts.. but be prepared that you will probably still receive some gifts.

[ECB]

A small wedding followed later by a bigger party is fine. Don't mention gifts, though.

[wambam]

I dig it.

[bania]

Not tacky. I know plenty of people who do exactly this if they have a destination wedding.

[Muddled]

Not tacky.


Agree with ECB- don't mention gifts unless someone asks you.

[SKP82]

I think it's fine. I also don't think you should mention gifts.

[Deleted]

Sounds fine to me.

[pantsparty]

Not tacky. People love to party!

[jayded]

Not tacky

[bcv513]

Not tacky at all

[mbcdefg]

Not tacky, unless you try to make it a do-over wedding (which I know you're not talking about here).

[Kit]

Not tacky!

[snickers]

Go for it!!!

[Deleted]

no way.

i'd probably want to bring you something anyway. because, damn, you deserve it.


ETA:  I LOVE CAPE MAY.  i'm taking L there on a day trip when we go to NJ in august.  she's going to flip out at the pink house.

[mudslide]

I don't see a problem with this.

[winnied]

Not tacky. You'll probably get a few gifts but by having a very small, intimate wedding and no registries (right?) people will know you're not being gift-grabby.

[jigsy]

If it is, call me tacky! We had our wedding in Hawaii, then when we came home, we had a reception. We knew people wouldn't be coming to our ceremony, but we still wanted to celebrate with them. So we fed and boozed them up, and celebrated our new family!

[calledout]

So...I sort of think it "can" be tacky. For example - in the case of people who have destination weddings and then throw a second large "reception" when they return home - TACKY! Look, you get 1 wedding. Not 2. If you choose a destination wedding, than you forgo the 200 people at the hall shin-dig. To do both is tacky. IMO, of course:)

In this case, I would just throw a party and maybe not mention "wedding" or "marriage" on it. Are you moving into his house? Could you style it sort of like a big, fancy housewarming?

[fluffaluff]

No. I think plenty of people have a small wedding and then big get together with the rest of their friends.

[goaskalice]

I vote not tacky I actually love the idea. If you were a cousin of mine I'd be stoked to be invited to a little shindig after the wedding.

[jerseygrl]

Not tacky!

You will love having a Cape May wedding!

If you need any help or have any questions about Cape May pm me

[lilybug]

Not tacky. We had a tiny wedding and big party the next weekend.

[idoinjuly]

I think this all sounds fabulous, not tacky. I agree with others, don't mention gifts.

[LaceyV]

Not tacky!!

And I'm jealous of you doing it in Cape May. I wanted to do ours there (on Sunset Beach) but my MIL and her sister threw a fit about driving three hours down there so we ended up doing it up here. I was sad. Lol

[karmasabiotch]

Not tacky at all.

[wannabe]

May 13, 2013 15:46:22 GMT -5 @booby said:

only tacky if you re-wear your wedding dress!

LOLZ, I was totally tacky then.

[Deleted]

We've considered doing the same thing so, no, I don't think it's tacky.