Don't hug me, OK?!

[IIOY]

I love this.

You Know Who Else Hugged? Hitler

[elleblue]

I'll readily admit that I'm no Swifty fan, but damn Olivia Munn, you could at least try to look less put out by being hugged by her. You're on stage. It's an awards show. Act. Oh right, I forgot, that's not a particularly strong suit of yours.

[sushi]

You knew i was going to like this!

About a year ago i seriously told someone off for hugging me (this was Moe than a normal hug incident). I really haven't seen her since. Apparently I was effective

[pt716]

I love this. My in-laws unfortunately take a lot of pleasure in making me hug them since they know I hate it.

[Deleted]

I like so much! I'm so not a hugger. I pretend to be, but it just doesn't go well.

[eclaires]

Someone needs to show this to my parents. Dear god don't hug me! And don't act like my dislike of hugging hurts you. Jesus.

[sushi]

May 15, 2013 16:27:15 GMT -5 eclaires said:

Someone needs to show this to my parents. Dear god don't hug me! And don't act like my dislike of hugging hurts you. Jesus.

I'm fully convinced that my parents accepted h to the family because he's as much a hugger as they. He makes up for my defect.

One summer I was reprimanded that my hugs of my aunt had no feeling in them, and it hurt her feelings. It's nit g good enough to reluctantly hug, you must do it with gusto.

[meshaliuknits]

Grabs IIOY in giant bear hug

runs from post

[Deleted]

You all wanna try being British, where we absolutely don't hug unless a) we share blood or b) someone died. Its a nightmare living in the USA where people hug if they both have the same hat.

I am very, very, bad at it.

[pt716]

May 15, 2013 16:27:15 GMT -5 eclaires said:

Someone needs to show this to my parents. Dear god don't hug me! And don't act like my dislike of hugging hurts you. Jesus.

Ugh. DH and my in-laws are like this. Fortunately DH has accepted that I don't like to be hugged all time, but he still insists that any potential future children will have to give hugs and kisses to him and in-laws whenever they ask. :/

[eclaires]

May 15, 2013 16:32:37 GMT -5 sushi said:

May 15, 2013 16:27:15 GMT -5 eclaires said:

Someone needs to show this to my parents. Dear god don't hug me! And don't act like my dislike of hugging hurts you. Jesus.

I'm fully convinced that my parents accepted h to the family because he's as much a hugger as they. He makes up for my defect.

One summer I was reprimanded that my hugs of my aunt had no feeling in them, and it hurt her feelings. It's nit g good enough to reluctantly hug, you must do it with gusto.

I can't count the number of times I've been reprimanded for not liking hugs or wanting people to touch me. Ugh. My husband is really affectionate but I actually don't mind it from him. I always joke that I live with the three people who are allowed to hug me.

[eclaires]

May 15, 2013 17:00:29 GMT -5 pt716 said:

May 15, 2013 16:27:15 GMT -5 eclaires said:

Someone needs to show this to my parents. Dear god don't hug me! And don't act like my dislike of hugging hurts you. Jesus.

Ugh. DH and my in-laws are like this. Fortunately DH has accepted that I don't like to be hugged all time, but he still insists that any potential future children will have to give hugs and kisses to him and in-laws whenever they ask. :/

That would be a hard line for me! But my kids are very affectionate - we just tell them its always their choice because we want to teach them body autonomy. There are actually some really good articles that reference that for teaching them they can say no in an age appropriate way. Obviously I worry about that with a daughter a bit more but we also want Jackson to understand that and understand that only yes (firm consent) means yes. Kind of a tangent but its something I'm a huge proponent of but mostly unrelated to my own hugging issues.

[IIOY]

I really want to know what Olivia Munn is so cheesed off about. I mean aside from the fact that it's fucking Taylor Swift.

ETA: Google is telling me it was part of a planned bit.

[pt716]

May 15, 2013 17:12:12 GMT -5 eclaires said:

May 15, 2013 17:00:29 GMT -5 pt716 said:

Ugh. DH and my in-laws are like this. Fortunately DH has accepted that I don't like to be hugged all time, but he still insists that any potential future children will have to give hugs and kisses to him and in-laws whenever they ask. :/

That would be a hard line for me! But my kids are very affectionate - we just tell them its always their choice because we want to teach them body autonomy. There are actually some really good articles that reference that for teaching them they can say no in an age appropriate way. Obviously I worry about that with a daughter a bit more but we also want Jackson to understand that and understand that only yes (firm consent) means yes. Kind of a tangent but its something I'm a huge proponent of but mostly unrelated to my own hugging issues.

Yeah, I also think teaching kids body autonomy is important. I cringe when my ILs insist on my niece giving them kisses when she clearly doesn't want to. They feel it's rude not to hug family, and DH definitely is a physical affection = love person. Fortunately it's not something I need to worry about for a while so I have time to sway him.

[LeggsBenedict]

For some dumb reason, I still watch Project Runway, and on the most recent season, there was a contestant that really did not like to be hugged. And they are all about group hugging on that show. After a particularly shitty challenge (for her) she said she "really didn't want to be hugged right now" and everyone backed off, which was great! But then at the reunion show they showed that clip and asked her what her damage was. Poor girl didn't even know what to say, getting put on the spot, so she kind of stumbled out an "I don't know, I just didn't want to be touched, I guess?" I felt SO BAD FOR HER. 

I am not a hugger. I had someone go in for a hug once, stop, apologize and said she could tell I wasn't a hugger. That was the best day ever.

[meshaliuknits]

May 15, 2013 16:32:37 GMT -5 sushi said:

May 15, 2013 16:27:15 GMT -5 eclaires said:

Someone needs to show this to my parents. Dear god don't hug me! And don't act like my dislike of hugging hurts you. Jesus.

I'm fully convinced that my parents accepted h to the family because he's as much a hugger as they. He makes up for my defect.

One summer I was reprimanded that my hugs of my aunt had no feeling in them, and it hurt her feelings. It's nit g good enough to reluctantly hug, you must do it with gusto.

If you'll take me to see famous chefs with you, I'll hug your relatives for you.

[sushi]

May 15, 2013 17:40:36 GMT -5 meshaliuknits said:

If you'll take me to see famous chefs with you, I'll hug your relatives for you.

Even better, you come to Hawaii, we'll stalk Morimoto, and there's no family to deal with!

[IIOY]

May 15, 2013 17:40:24 GMT -5 LeggsBenedict said:

For some dumb reason, I still watch Project Runway, and on the most recent season, there was a contestant that really did not like to be hugged. And they are all about group hugging on that show. After a particularly shitty challenge (for her) she said she "really didn't want to be hugged right now" and everyone backed off, which was great! But then at the reunion show they showed that clip and asked her what her damage was. Poor girl didn't even know what to say, getting put on the spot, so she kind of stumbled out an "I don't know, I just didn't want to be touched, I guess?" I felt SO BAD FOR HER. 

I am not a hugger. I had someone go in for a hug once, stop, apologize and said she could tell I wasn't a hugger. That was the best day ever.

I remember this scene and I totally understood how she felt when she said she didn't want to be hugged. 

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My DH and BFF have an agreement to shake hands instead of hugging. It's pretty funny.

My coworkers all hug because when they see each other since we don't work in the same office. I could do without that.

I mostly hate half-assed hugs. Do it or don't. And I hate side hugs.