Is this a stupid thing to be irritated about?

[Deleted]

For Mothers Day, I told H I wanted to get my hair done before we go to Vegas. So, I made an appointment for next Tuesday, the day before we go.

I ask H this morning about how we should pay for it, and he says just take the money out of savings. This doesn't seem like a present to me, because now I feel guilty about spending the money.

I'm thinking about canceling my appt now. am I being ridiculous?

[eddy]

You are being silly.

[leeann]

I would just go and get my hair done and enjoy it.

[Deleted]

What? You're being silly.

[margotmacomber]

Yes, you're being ridiculous. 

[eb777888]

Go get your hair done!!

[wambam]

Silly

[Deleted]

I just figured he'd give me cash from his regular spending money , because it makes me feel bad to take money out of savings to pay for something unnecessary.

[Deleted]

go get your damn hair done.

[ElizabethBennet]

Take the money out of savings and enjoy yourself.

[janiejones]

Silly. It's all the same in the end isn't it?

[annyong]

I'm sorry, I don't think it's a big deal at all. It might have been a nice gesture for him to take out cash or something, but in the end, the money is all coming from the same place. Just go and enjoy yourself and try not to let it bother you!

[partiallysunny]

Okay, I'm with you on this one. I'd be irritated if I had to take money out of savings for a present H was suppose to spring for. I'd feel guilty as well. I also love my savings account, so... yeah.

But why not just ask him about it? "honey, why am I taking the money out of savings when it's suppose to be a present from you?". There could be an explanation (he'll transfer the money in there at a later date or something). Don't get upset until you know the whole story.

[thinkofthesoldiers]

May 17, 2013 10:04:11 GMT -5 @jezebel said:

I just figured he'd give me cash from his regular spending money , because it makes me feel bad to take money out of savings to pay for something unnecessary.

Just to clarify, you wanted him to give you his fun money, right? (I'm not being snarky, just want to clarify.)

In our house, money is money. Mine/yours/ours. This is why gifts are ETA: NOT a big deal to us. Gifts in our house are a bigger deal for the kids. We don't usually give each other anything for holidays/bdays/etc.

Also, getting your hair done is not unnecessary. Were you going to bust out the Wahl clippers and do it yourself?

[Deleted]

Our hair cuts always come from joint money...do you not have that in the budget? What do you each do with you hair? I'm genuinely curious.

We also do gifts from joint money. I don't want anyone feeling resentful over losing their allowance for the month over a birthday gift. We just set a limit together based on what we can afford.

[eddy]

Do you have separate accounts or something?

Also do not cancel because you will just hold it over his head and be miffed. That doesn't sound like much fun.

[snickers]

I get why you are irritated, but I would still go anyways and enjoy it!

[Deleted]

Ok, I'll go get my hair done and not feel bad. He does put a lot of money in savings every paycheck, so it's not like the money is going to break us or not be replaced.

[Deleted]

yeah, I haven't gotten my hair cut in over a year...

[FastHands]

I understand being irked that he isn't ponying up his fun money for it, but don't feel guilty and certainly don't cancel.

[sunshineray]

I don't think this is a big deal. Was he clear that this is what you wanted as your MD gift? Seems like a small miscommunication, so I'd just go get your hair done and let the rest go.

[Coopertown]

May 17, 2013 10:06:16 GMT -5 partiallysunny said:

Okay, I'm with you on this one. I'd be irritated if I had to take money out of savings for a present H was suppose to spring for. I'd feel guilty as well. I also love my savings account, so... yeah.

But why not just ask him about it? "honey, why am I taking the money out of savings when it's suppose to be a present from you?". There could be an explanation (he'll transfer the money in there at a later date or something). Don't get upset until you know the whole story.

I agree with all of this.

[fuckyourcouch]

i get what you're saying, but you're being silly. the money is all coming from the same damn place anyway, so go get your hair done, enjoy yourself, and stop worrying about it!

[pantsparty]

Go forth and get your hairs did.

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May 17, 2013 10:17:16 GMT -5 @jezebel said:

Ok, I'll go get my hair done and not feel bad. He does put a lot of money in savings every paycheck, so it's not like the money is going to break us or not be replaced.

good.  ride that annoyance all the way to the salon.  hell, get an afternoon appointment and bring wine.

[macmars45]

May 17, 2013 10:16:44 GMT -5 @thereigninglorelai said:

Our hair cuts always come from joint money...do you not have that in the budget? What do you each do with you hair? I'm genuinely curious.

We also do gifts from joint money. I don't want anyone feeling resentful over losing their allowance for the month over a birthday gift. We just set a limit together based on what we can afford.

This is what H and I do as well. I personally don't mind using my fun money for presents, but H is all about his fun money being used for his fun, not gifts for other people.

[Deleted]

May 17, 2013 10:06:16 GMT -5 partiallysunny said:

Okay, I'm with you on this one. I'd be irritated if I had to take money out of savings for a present H was suppose to spring for. I'd feel guilty as well. I also love my savings account, so... yeah.

But why not just ask him about it? "honey, why am I taking the money out of savings when it's suppose to be a present from you?". There could be an explanation (he'll transfer the money in there at a later date or something). Don't get upset until you know the whole story.

This.

I get you. I'm a money nazi.

[Deleted]

I would be pissed if dh wanted me to buy his presents with my spending money.

[Deleted]

May 17, 2013 10:01:54 GMT -5 eddy said:

You are being silly.

Team Eddy here

[eddy]

May 17, 2013 14:07:03 GMT -5 @stellasmom said:

I would be pissed if dh wanted me to buy his presents with my spending money.

I know I am WAAAAY to fucking selfish for that shit. It is called fun money for a reason people! Buying gifts for others isn't fun. (hot)