Hi!/Intro/Question

[PokieDot]

I guess I never realized this sub-board was here. One of the girls from GP sent me this direction.

I'm Tara. We've been TTC for about... 4-5ish years with a couple of early m/cs. For the first year or so it was just kind of a 'see what happens' kind of thing. Then, I was diagnosed with PCOS and have been more pro-active since then. I was just going to my ob/gyn for a while until she recommended me to an RE. A combination of TN GP board (before the big crash), the internet, and my RE have taught me quite a bit regarding infertility. My cycles right now have been consisting of Clomid, FSH, and HCG triggers. That combo has been doing it's job... we just haven't gotten a pregnancy from it, yet. Anyway, now that I know this board is here, I hope to be active.

Now, for my first question (asked on GP, as well):

It's never been any secret that I've wanted a lot of babies from a
very young age. That's just how I've always been. So, naturally, people
ask when we're going to start a family... a lot. I know they have
nothing but good intentions behind the question, but I never know how to
answer it. Up until a few months ago, I hid my infertility from
everyone (my parents, included). But, I've been becoming more open about
it... but not so open that everyone knows that we're struggling and
have been for a few years.

This is the time of year that I see a
lot of my family members and friends... and my 10 year reunion is in a
few weeks, so I know the question is about to start up again. After all
of that, here is my question: How would you answer in a way that 'outs'
yourself but doesn't give off the 'poor me' vibe? I loathe being the
center of attention and/or having people fawn over me or take pity on
me. I don't want that. I just want to have a simple answer that says
we're trying, working with doctors, have been for quite sometime, and
that's just what it is.

[G22]

Welcome. I'm sorry you found yourself here but its a good group of ladies.

I recently laid it all out in a blog post and pretty much every I'm friends with on Facebook knows now. I made one post about it, said here whats going on, this is only time ill menton it and then I moved on. I got tired of the questions too and honestly the support I've felt since opening up has been amazing.

But prior to that when people asked, I'd just smile and say "were working on it" or "maybe in the next year or so" and leave it at that.

[G22]

PS I think our board is better than the GP

[BNL2]

Welcome to the board. I'm still mostly in the closet so I don't have much advice. Could you simply say "we're having some difficulty" and leave it at that?

[KaraOrNot]

We haven't told anyone about our issues, so no advice, but welcome!

[azurely]

Welcome to the board!

I usually just smile, say "someday," and change the subject.