Stupid question - dressing a newborn

[Deleted]

1 week old, my parenting has been judged. 

Does she need to wear an undershirt with her sleepers? I've just been putting her in sleepers, light weight on nice spring days, heavier fleece ones on the windy or rainy ones. We usually also wrap her in a blanket. 

Today, I was wearing a tank top and skirt if you need type of weather when I was told to layer up the baby in the light cotton sleeper 

[joenali]

Dress your baby however you want to dress your baby. As long as you feel your baby is comfortable, whatever you have him he/she will be ok!

[underwaterrhymes]

No, she doesn't need an undershirt.

I think older generations want to really wrap the baby up, but you don't want her to overheat.

My mom was insistent that K needed to be wearing a hat all the time (she volunteers in the NICU and they keep those babies in hats). I had to show her that hats are generally not recommended for babies indoors. On multiple sites.

[hisno1girl]

Dress her in the same amount of clothing that makes you comfortable. If you need a sweater, your baby will need a sweater.

If a tank top is comfortable for you, your baby will be perfectly fine in a light cotton sleeper without an undershirt.

Tell the other person: "Thanks for the advice." and change the subject.

[speckledfrog]

We never did. He's 14 months old now, so he survived.

[jenna]

E ran warm. He just wore sleepers indoors.

[Deleted]

Judged by my SIL with 2 kids to my 1. But she's just judgey in general so I figured I go for real opinions just in case. My assumption is if the baby isn't comfortable she'll start squawking.

For you fun she also judged me for
-wasting money on newborn photo shoot (omg so cute!) because family photos are better. Like we'll never get those
-not cutting baby fingernails already (we were told to file them, they are a bit long today but not daggers)
-leaving the 1 week old with DH and a pumped bottle to get a pedicure, it was his gift to me and he told me to just go as planned, it was only 90 min, what could happen? Pretty toes!

I think there were a couple of other things but those were the stand outs.

[Deleted]

My kid was born in May and pretty much lived in just a diaper or light onesies for the first four months of his life.  He slept swaddled.

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May 19, 2013 9:18:07 GMT -5 @randomcdn said:

Judged by my SIL with 2 kids to my 1. But she's just judgey in general so I figured I go for real opinions just in case. My assumption is if the baby isn't comfortable she'll start squawking.

For you fun she also judged me for
-wasting money on newborn photo shoot (omg so cute!) because family photos are better. Like we'll never get those
-not cutting baby fingernails already (we were told to file them, they are a bit long today but not daggers)
-leaving the 1 week old with DH and a pumped bottle to get a pedicure, it was his gift to me and he told me to just go as planned, it was only 90 min, what could happen? Pretty toes!

I think there were a couple of other things but those were the stand outs.

She's just jealous of this one.  I can't imagine anyone actually judging a new mom for that.  WTF. 

I left one week old DS with DH to go get a massage.  It was fabulous. 

[Deleted]

My baby has been in onesies the last 2 weeks. We did sleepers the first two, but mostly because they had fold over sleeves to cover her hands. We do not layer.

[Deleted]

I never layered DS.

[Deleted]

Oh no she meant it. When I asked what else she was up to these days she looked at me like I was an idiot and said "seriously? I take care of these two. There's no time for anything else"in her 'I am a real mom' voice. So when she heard about the pedicure there was a raised eyebrow over my screwed up priorities.

We have very little in common.

[Deleted]

Bet she has ugly feet.

[LynnWriter]

Baby will let you know when she's uncomfortable. You're doing fine!

[janiejones]

Your SIL sounds like a real wanker.

I'm leaving the baby with MrJJ this morning for the same thing.   Yay toes!

[rex]

I was told you dress the baby how you are dressed. They don't need to be bundled up, especially if it's hot out!

Your SIL sounds awful.

[auntie]

Even at one week, you're the mom and you know best.

I was told by my pedi to dress DS as I would myself plus one light layer early on and then as you would yourself from at 12 weeks on. If you're in a tank and they're in a sleep- you nailed it.

[penelope]

First off, good for you for going for that pedicure! You just made it through 9 pretty shitty months as well as delivering a baby. I think you deserved 90 whole minutes of "me" time.

Secondly, what everyone else here said. You are the mom and your judgement was just fine. Your SIL sounds like a real gem.

[Deleted]

Well I guess at least I won't see her much. She doesn't like me (or the rest of my family) and avoids us as much as possible. It's too bad because my nephews are cute and my brother used to be fun to visit with. And we're not bad people. If I was I'm sure ML would have said something by now. But she keeps her family away and my brother lets her and makes excuses so its our fault and not them.

So mostly she'll be judging me with her friends from afar which I would see so who cares

I just wanted to make sure there wasn't some magic dressing a baby secret the doctor didn't mention just in case. Or you know, start saving now for the therapy she'll need one day

[ndolehan]

Your SIL sounds like a treat!

We only put Em in an undershirt under her sleepers when it's super cold. We haven't in about a month.

My rule is if I am cold she probably is.

[Deleted]

My kid just wears sleepers or just a diaper and we swaddle him. It seems kind of brutal to layer him up in 25C+ heat.

[candreco]

Yeah, we don't layer. And she sounds like loads of fun. I am really WTFing the there's no time for anything else line. That's not healthy for her or her kids.

And I'm getting a pedicure tomorrow!

[pooh8402]

I work in newborn nursery and I say one layer is fine, depending on the weather. I also worry about overheating babies. At least once a shift, I'll have a baby that the parents or grandparents dressed in 2 layers, a cap, socks, hand mittens, swaddled in a blanket and then covered in a giant fleece blanket. Then I go to check the temp and the kid is 99.8 degrees and sweating. Of course, I then remove a layer or two.

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[juliagoulia]

You're probably going to want to go ahead and start tuning her out. A lot.