I Feel Terribly Guilty

[cop]

I just spoke to DH.  He and the kids are on their 4th day of a week-long cruise and DS is being a punk.  Apparently, he has decided that nothing makes him happy, even things he normally loves.  Every time DH takes the kids anywhere, DS throws a fit.  DD can't even enjoy herself because they keep having to go back to the cabin to combat DS's punk-azz behavior.  

I feel terrible for DH because he was looking forward to his vacation and now he is literally stuck on a boat in the middle of the ocean with a poorly behaving three-year-old.  I wish so badly that I could do something to help, but I can't.  I wish I had insisted on flying back to the States to get DS last week.  I think the poor little guy is just overwhelmed by moving and jet-lag, but I don't blame DH for being at his wit's end.

[babybchbum]

Hugs mama. Hopefully he will turn around. Can DS go to the kids camp for a couple of hours. That way your H and DD can have some fun

[jen812]

Oh no! Maybe DD can go to the kids camp to get away for a little bit. I hope he changes his tune.

[tashaandsage]

That has to be hard for you, knowing what's going on and being unable to anything about it. 3 is such a tough age! Hopefully your DS starts behaving better so your H and DD can enjoy the rest of the cruise.

[loskadoodle]

Ugh, poor DH. Everyone keeps telling me that 3 is so hard. It's just a phase (not that it helps DH right now!) HOpefully once they get to you and get settled, things will calm down!

[cop]

May 22, 2013 20:19:02 GMT -5 babybchbum said:

Hugs mama. Hopefully he will turn around. Can DS go to the kids camp for a couple of hours. That way your H and DD can have some fun

I think DH used the kid's club the two days for an hour here and there so that he could go off and do something himself, but now DS refuses to go.  DD was so excited about the cruise too so it stinks that DS is being such a punk.  They're going to Disney after the cruise, but luckily MIL will be in town so DH can leave the kids to spend time with her while he and his brother go to the parks a day or two.

I just wish this vacation could have been more of a vacation for DH.  We had had grand plans about DD spending time with her dad and DS coming with me, but now DD's dad is with the circus in Mexico instead.

Thanks for letting me vent my guilty feelings.  I owe my husband big time, but feeling like I owe him big time is kind of stressful.  It makes me feel like I'll never have the right to complain or want time to myself again once they get here.

[mrsjenrn]

Oh man, that sucks. And it also sucks that owing him is stressful too. I definitely see where you're coming from!

[babybchbum]

I still giggle a bit about Dds dad being a part of the circus.

[cop]

May 24, 2013 9:16:40 GMT -5 babybchbum said:

I still giggle a bit about Dds dad being a part of the circus.

Me too. All the time.  It's even better now that he's out there living in a train car somewhere in Mexico at the moment.  I'm not going to say that people shouldn't follow their dreams, but I just don't see the sustainability of his current career trajectory.

[babybchbum]

^^hope it means CS is starting to come in again