Need advice.. Long

[lilles]

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[tiramisu]

You have a serious husband problem and clearly an IL problem too. Your instincts were correct to distance yourself from your FIL and to keep your DDs away from him. Your FIL sounds like a sexual predator. Or a predator of any kind, honestly. If you want to try to save your marriage, you two need to get into therapy. I would recommend that you see one anyway to help him understand that what your FIL did is NOT okay.

[captainmel]

Um, that was a super fast DD. tiramisu, why are you so mean? You chased her away before any of us could have fun!

Lillies, tiramisu is pretty smart and it sounds like tour situation is pretty serious. You should probably listen to her.

[tiramisu]

Sorry captainmel I didn't realize she would spook so easily. What her FIL was doing sounded like grooming behavior though, and totally creeped me out. Her husband's reaction made me wonder about the daily dynamics he grew up with and if he was traumatized.

OP, I'm sorry you deleted. The women here give great advice, lots of them better than mine.

[captainmel]

Oh wow, that is terrifying. I hope she a figures out what is going on and takes the right steps forward to protect her kids.
Come back PP, we want to help!

[lilles]

I deleted so quickly because I was paranoid that someone in real life would see it and make the situation worse. But I do appreciate all the advice.

[captainmel]

That is reasonable. I wish you the very best in dealing with what sounds like a very tough situation.
The ladies here are smart and supportive and good at helping if you need anything.

[tiramisu]

lilles that's understandable. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Trust your instincts. I have so many questions about YH and his family of origin, but that won't help you. The ladies here truly are great at supporting and offering wise advice. If there's anything else you need, let us know. (((lilles)))

[starrieskies]

lilles, tiramisu is wise! I missed the post, but I'm sure her advice is on target. I hope that you take some of her advice to heart, and please don't be afraid to come back if you have more questions!!