Post by snipsnsnails on Jun 3, 2013 20:48:40 GMT -5
The post below reminded me that today one of my friends was talking about a lousy ultrasound she had last week b/c the tech was beyond miffed and rude about her 2.5 year old being with her.
Then she said that another friend said she had to sign a form saying that she would not bring her children with her to her OB/Gyn appts. or ultrasound appts and would find alternate childcare.
Is this a thing? Do your drs do this? I was ticked when I heard this. I would change docs so fast.
weird. My OB/GYn has never said anything about it and I've seen a lot of diff kids in the waiting room.
I don't usually w/ her, but if I'm having an u/s and dh and i both want to be there, we bring her. I was just thinking at my appt today that I'm lucky we're so flexible in our schedules that we CAN accommodate that when needed. I was thinking how many ppl don't have that luxury or have a hard time scheduling w/ work schedules and time away.
I have taken G with me to my OB and my endocrinologist. Neither of them cared, but he is tiny and slept the whole time. They might feel differently if he was running around like a tornado or something.
Post by speckledfrog on Jun 3, 2013 20:53:31 GMT -5
They love (or pretend to love) seeing W at my appointments. I don't know about ultrasound, since he was on the inside for those. I do know that some places have a policy against it.
I don't because my kids are in daycare anyway. If I was a SAHM I would probably take them with me. My OBs office has a rule against kids in the U/S room because they had kids break 2 machines in a year.
I was once waiting in an OB/Gyn waiting room and a lady left her boys there while she went in for her appointment. They were maybe 3 and 5, if that. Maybe younger. It was effing weird, man. She said "now, be good in here so the nice receptionist doesn't have to come and get me!" and then she trotted off to her appointment while they climbed all over the chairs. That seemed like a spectacularly terrible idea to me.
But I can understand an OB or an U/S tech not wanting kids in there. What with all that machinery and stuff and mom stuck up on the table in stirrups unable to pull junior off of whatever the heck he's pulling out of the wall.
We took C to one of my u/s to help her understand better about the baby coming. She behaved really well and they were really nice about her being there.
I feel like I shared this here recently but when I was a kid I loved going to the OB with my mom because we got to go to the good mall after. I was probably more 6 or 7 when that started though and would just sit quietly and read in the waiting room. I don't have kids yet but I am just imagining my 3 and a half year old nephew at an ultrasound and that sounds like a spectacularly terrible idea.
Post by daisyheadmaizie on Jun 3, 2013 21:00:48 GMT -5
I've never encountered this. My OB actually told me to feel free to being DD along when I was pregnant with DS, which was mice since i ended up going weekly for several months. DD is exceptionally well behaved at stuff like that though. I always get compliments on her behavior. She saves all the sass for me at home.
I just strap David in his stroller that he's too big for to keep him still. Look, my last OB appointment, H was out of town and I really, really needed to get my antidepressant refilled and they refused to refill it until I had my exam. Nobody even flinched. I remember asking my OB if I could take David and the front desk was really nice and said of course. I had no idea this was a thing.
I just strap David in his stroller that he's too big for to keep him still. Look, my last OB appointment, H was out of town and I really, really needed to get my antidepressant refilled and they refused to refill it until I had my exam. Nobody even flinched. I remember asking my OB if I could take David and the front desk was really nice and said of course. I had no idea this was a thing.
W is a lot younger, but this is what I do with him. Stick him in his stroller and he's a-okay. The doctor usually chats with him a bit before my exam, too. Maybe this is just an extension of southern hospitality?
Post by thinkofthesoldiers on Jun 3, 2013 21:04:34 GMT -5
Eh, I kind of view it like any other thing. If you kid ACTUALLY behaves and isn't a tool, do what you need to do. However, if you have little hellion children that destroy everything they look at, then find an alternative. And I think doctors should have the right to tell you that your kid isn't welcome back.
I just strap David in his stroller that he's too big for to keep him still. Look, my last OB appointment, H was out of town and I really, really needed to get my antidepressant refilled and they refused to refill it until I had my exam. Nobody even flinched. I remember asking my OB if I could take David and the front desk was really nice and said of course. I had no idea this was a thing.
W is a lot younger, but this is what I do with him. Stick him in his stroller and he's a-okay. The doctor usually chats with him a bit before my exam, too. Maybe this is just an extension of southern hospitality?
haha, perhaps.
And we backed him up by the door and I gave him my phone. He saw nothing and was really engrossed in his game. He also has gone to my endo appointments with me and has seen me have a blood draw. I explain that "mommy gets shots, too and mommy has to go to the doctor to be healthy just like you do, blah blah blah."
Our MWs office had a plastic climber/slide, and a bunch of Fisher Price car ramps, bookshelves, a chalk easel, etc.
I find the anti-child OBs above odd...it's not like it's an oncologist or cardiologist. Your profession is based on babies, no? I'm of the mind that kids should behave and be supervised by their parents in such places though, not just running wild.
Post by vanillacourage on Jun 3, 2013 21:07:37 GMT -5
If you can't actively parent the whole time, leave your kid at home. This means if you'll be in stirrups, or with a gooped-up belly, in the dentist's chair, etc.
ETA - also, having gotten bad news at an u/s....there's no way I would have wanted DS in the room for that.
I have my CVS tomorrow and the instructions explicitly said "don't bring kids." Between the transvaginal ultrasound and possible retrieval and really delicate procedure there is no chance I would. For a regular "I have a cold" appointment I've taken her and might for some routine pregnancy appointments but not the u/s ones. I'd want to be able to move and hold her if necessary. She always comes along for my blood draws.
Post by snipsnsnails on Jun 3, 2013 21:10:56 GMT -5
She brought her kid to the ultrasound so that he could see the baby. It is a medical procedure, but also an important event in their family. He was well-behaved. He was sitting down and singing to himself. The mom jokes, "I bet you don't often get serenaded in your job." To which the tech said, "Actually, it is usually completely silent and this is making it practically impossible to do." What the heck?!? I think that's rude. And I know the kid - he is not a crazy kid at all!
Plus, I'm just ticked that doctors assume that finding alternative care for your child is a financial possibility for everyone. I just feel like any barrier to women caring for themselves with medical care is one too many.
The thought of taking my toddler with me to a doctor's appt is enough to give me hives. Most of all, I'd be paranoid he'd break something. But omg, the questions. Mommy, why is she putting that in you? What does it do? Can I touch it? Can I do it too? Why? Why? Why?
She brought her kid to the ultrasound so that he could see the baby. It is a medical procedure, but also an important event in their family. He was well-behaved. He was sitting down and singing to himself. The mom jokes, "I bet you don't often get serenaded in your job." To which the tech said, "Actually, it is usually completely silent and this is making it practically impossible to do." What the heck?!? I think that's rude. And I know the kid - he is not a crazy kid at all!
Plus, I'm just ticked that doctors assume that finding alternative care for your child is a financial possibility for everyone. I just feel like any barrier to women caring for themselves with medical care is one too many.
To be fair, you are getting her version of the story. Parents often have a filter on the amount of noise their kid makes. Plus if the tech thought she saw something amiss and I can see how the singing would be a complete distraction.
I bring my kids to my regular doctor all the time. I would never see him if I didn't. Plus my kids aren't assholes (mostly) so people don't seem to mind.
I've had to bring my kids before, and no one's ever been "miffed." They were always chatty with them and seemed to enjoy seeing them. That said, I keep my kids on a super short leash at the dr office (not literally, lol) and they've never gotten into drawers or wrecked anything. Obviously my preference is to go alone.
I'm surprised they got mad at an ultrasound, we always brought DS1 to ultrasounds to see his baby brother and they were fine with it.
When DS was just under 2, he came to a few of my OB appointments and he was just fine. He sat and looked at the kids books they kept in the exam room. Not all 2 year olds act like little assholes all the time.
W is a lot younger, but this is what I do with him. Stick him in his stroller and he's a-okay. The doctor usually chats with him a bit before my exam, too. Maybe this is just an extension of southern hospitality?
haha, perhaps.
And we backed him up by the door and I gave him my phone. He saw nothing and was really engrossed in his game. He also has gone to my endo appointments with me and has seen me have a blood draw. I explain that "mommy gets shots, too and mommy has to go to the doctor to be healthy just like you do, blah blah blah."
When I got my IUD it was after my youngest was born. I had no one to watch the kids (H was working oot, no one else available), so I brought my then 4 year old and the baby with. We all thought the older one was busy looking at books until we heard and alarmed, "MOM! Why is he putting strings in you??" Cue the lovely nurse redirecting her and all of us laughing it off.
She brought her kid to the ultrasound so that he could see the baby. It is a medical procedure, but also an important event in their family. He was well-behaved. He was sitting down and singing to himself. The mom jokes, "I bet you don't often get serenaded in your job." To which the tech said, "Actually, it is usually completely silent and this is making it practically impossible to do." What the heck?!? I think that's rude. And I know the kid - he is not a crazy kid at all!
Plus, I'm just ticked that doctors assume that finding alternative care for your child is a financial possibility for everyone. I just feel like any barrier to women caring for themselves with medical care is one too many.
The u/s tech at my OB's office has been the same one for both of my pregnancies. We always talked during the appointment and I asked my OB about bringing C with me for my big u/s and she was fine with it. H was with me to help with C and to see the baby. It was not an issue.
For my u/s at the high risk office, I did not bring her per their rules which was fine.
I don't think the tech should have been that rude especially if there is not a standing rule at the office.
Is it really that hard to find a friend, family member, neighbor, babysitter off Craigslist to watch your kid for 1 hour?
Sometimes there's literally nobody I know that can watch him. I guess I could do care.com but why the hell would I do that when my doctor's office is fine with him being in the room? I STRAP him into a stroller and he's no trouble at all. It has never been an issue, ever.
This isn't really related to kids but is it completely silent when you get an ultrasound? My husband and I are both super chatty anyways and if the tech doesn't want to chat we talk to each other. It isn't like we are going on and on about current events but we chat about the baby and stuff while we are in there. We are doing it wrong aren't we?