S/O Multiple Showers (kind of long)

[crazycakes]

The other thread has made me concerned about a current situation. I am pregnant and a friend of my mom's offered to throw me a shower. She asked for a guest list, and I tried to figure out if any of my friends were throwing one for me without being tacky about it (I didn't want them to feel like anyone had to throw me a shower). It didn't seem like anyone was hosting one, so I included my girlfriends on the guest list for my mom's friend. I sent her the list a little over a month ago; the shower is this weekend.

Well, one of my friends threw a surprise shower for me last weekend and most of the friends on my guest list were in attendance. Now I'm feeling awkward that they were invited to more than one shower. I know some of them have RSVPd to the second shower too. I kind of want to make it clear that they don't need to come to the one my mom's friend is hosting, or at least no need to bring more gifts, but I'm not sure how to do that in a way that isn't tacky.

I'm also worried that people are thinking I'm gift grabby.

This shit is too stressful. I'm going to start turning people down when they offer to throw parties for me. ETIQUETTE RUINS EVERYTHING.

[Yankees21]

I don't think any of them would think you are gift grabby, especially because they probably knew that your first shower was a surprise. I honestly wouldn't worry about it.

[VeryViolet]

I assume these people are good friends if they would come to both. So I would probably just tell them, "thanks so much for my gift, we are so lucky to have such awesome friends...please don't feel like you need to bring anything else this weekend". I would also feel awkward about it but I am sure your friends understand. If it is me I would probably bring a gift to both but a smaller one at the second shower. This is also because no way I go to two baby showers unless it is for a friend that I adore and would spoil their baby anyway. Lol

[vanillacourage]

I might send them an email and say it was so great to see them at the surprise shower, and please don't feel obligated to buy another gift, you're just looking forward to seeing them if they're able to come to the second one. Keep it breezy!

[crazycakes]

I was not concerned about this at all until I read the other thread. ML is bad for my psyche. Everyone out there is judging me!

Thanks everyone. I'm sure it will be fine.