Mothers Day Gift - Thoughtful? Or Cop Out?

[6fsn]

In this case I say cop out. Now if he had added another service to it I'd think more thoughtful. Or maybe he's thinking this would give you a chance to add something without feeling guilty?

[Wines Not Whines]

I think it's thoughtful.

The checking account issue shouldn't matter. If you share all accounts, then wouldn't any gift come out of that account?

[pugz]

kind of a cop out since it's not really something "special". However my dh isn't really creative so I could see him doing this.

one year for valentine's day he got me a massage gift certificate...for a prenatal massage place, lol. All he knew was it was a good deal.

[belovedbride07]

I'd bet he thinks he's being thoughtful, and it would be for someone for whom a mani/pedi is a rare treat, but I this case, I'd feel like it was a cop out.

Well, I guess I could kind of see it if you have limited fun money and this frees you up to spend the usual mani/pedi amount on something else.

[MadamePresident]

I guess you could just be happy he thought to give you a gift you'd enjoy.

[MadamePresident]

Maybe you can get him a case of his favorite type of beer for father's day.

[Deleted]

I see what you're saying, and if it were a woman I might think it was a cop out. But unless your husband is the type to think "I don't want to spend money on a gift so why don't I just buy something she was planning on buying anyway and call it a gift!" then he probably thinks he was being thoughtful and buying something he knew you'd enjoy.

I know I'm generalizing, but I think that in general men don't think that hard about how gifts will be perceived. I think they just buy something they think you'll like and hope they are right.

[yellowbrkrd]

Hmm seems like a cop out if you go consistently. Maybe he thought if he got you a mani/pedi GC you could spend the money on another service but he wasn't sure what other type of service you would enjoy....?

[litasail]

I vote cop out. But hopefully he'll make up for it in other ways.

[CloudBee]

Just annoying.

[Deleted]

As a woman I think it's a cop out, but I agree that your H probably thinks it is a thoughtful gift.

[Deleted]

I see H doing the same and thinking it's very thoughtful. So I vote thoughtful.

[CloudBee]

May 12, 2012 21:35:01 GMT -5 cuadrado said:

As a woman I think it's a cop out, but I agree that your H probably thinks it is a thoughtful gift.

Agreed. If this annoys you, just tell him what you want next year.

[Deleted]

cop out.

[ilikedonuts]

Cop out.

[noodleoo]

A gift is a gift. He could have gotten you nothing. Is he usually a good gift giver? I'm guessing not, so why would you expect this to be different? Next time just tell him exactly what you want.

[Myrrhine]

I think it is at least not a very thoughtful gift. If my DH bought a six pack of the same beer every Monday, and I got him that for Father's Day (so one day early), I feel like even he would recognize that that is kind of lame.

Note: I am not a mother, and for gift-giving occasions, I let my DH know some thing I might like.

[phoeny]

Cop out, imo.

May 12, 2012 19:57:07 GMT -5 bumblebee said:

Assume you get a manicure and pedicure every 2-3 weeks. You've been doing this for years. Husband is fully aware of this because you typically go every 2nd or 3rd sunday and he has the kids for a few hours while you go.

For Mother's Day, he gets you a gift certificate for a mani/pedi. It's for the standard service at your regular place.

Thoughtful gift because he knows you'll use it?

Or cop out, because you would have gone anyway, even without the gift certificate, and hell, it comes out of the same checking account.

Just curious because I'm 99.999% sure that's what I'm getting tomorrow from my 4 yo and 1 yo children.

[pacificrules]

Cop out because it required NO extra thought. If he includes something extra (coffee to get on the way home, additional services at the salon, etc), then I say thoughtful since you'll use it, but getting exactly what you always do is no bueno.

[megs193]

It's a cop out but he probably thinks he did a good job since he got you something you liked. It's better than flowers imo.

[livinitup]

Thoughtful. If I have my typcial mani/pedi covered, I can totally splurge on the white tips I never get. I would LOVE that. And there is 0% chance DH would know what to splurge on with any accuracy.

I would be livid if he picked the wrong nail place. And very pleased if he got it right (but I'm the type to point out where my favorite place moved.)

[midnightrae]

I say cop out. I also asked my SO what he thought and he said that it was lame and a cop out.

[sratsey]

I say thoughtful only because I went to the same place for years too and hell if H ever knew the name of it since it was "my" thing. So if your H actually even knows where you go, I would say he's paying attention.

[orchideous]

May 12, 2012 21:15:48 GMT -5 MadamePresident said:

Maybe you can get him a case of his favorite type of beer for father's day.

I vote thoughtful, but I also think the beer for DH would be nice so apparently I'm the worst gift giver ever.

[rubytue]

And the verdict is? Is that what you got?

[penguinsidecar]

I think it's lame-o but gifts are important to me and I think they should be things you wouldn't get yourself.
My H got me GC for a spa including a massage, a facial, spa mani and pedi. I would get any one of the above for myself without a second thought - but all of them together is a splurge far above what I would do - so I am happy.

ETA: I realize this was a bit AW-ey, sorry. Hope your H got you a bonus!