I would absolutely go. Pregnant people work in hospitals. They visit people there. I think your DH is being unreasonable. Honestly, you are more of a danger to the sick people than they are to you. Wash your hands, wear a mask if you need to, and go.
I work in a hospital, and I can tell you that there would not be any risk to the baby if you go visit her. You won't pick up anything just walking thru the hospital- we have MANY pregnant employees..... Does she have some other kind of infection? Because AIDS patients aren't usually on "isolation" (ie: gown and gloves required). If she does not have any open, weeping wounds, or is not coughing her head off and spewing things, then I would say Go ahead.
The biohazard suit is for her, not for you. They don't want a severely immune compromised person to come in contact with germs from other people. I am with your FIL. Unless your sick, you have no reason not to go.
If they really are making people wear biohazard gear to see her, I wouldn't go. You're immune suppressed.
I agree. Your FIL is probably not thinking clearly and is taking it out on you. Let DH go and deal with his father. While its sad shes dying, it's not worth the risk if they're requiring bio suits. And you don't even know her.
Eta: I didn't think about the suit protecting her, not you. Makes sense. But I still don't think you should be guilted into going.
If they really are making people wear biohazard gear to see her, I wouldn't go. You're immune suppressed.
H's uncle went to see her yesterday and said they had to suit up, wear gloves and a mask. He asked the nurse if they could kiss her cheek and apparently nurse said I wouldn't if it were me. But I'm not 100% sure how true that is.
For the record, I know pregnant people are in hospitals all the time, and there are pregnant nurses that are around this kind of thing on the regular, and most likely nothing would happen. I'm sure if it were someone we were close to it would be a different story, but since neither of us is close to this aunt, and H is really only going to be supportive of his dad, he doesn't think its necessary for me to take a risk if that makes sense.
If they really are making people wear biohazard gear to see her, I wouldn't go. You're immune suppressed.
I agree. Your FIL is probably not thinking clearly and is taking it out on you. Let DH go and deal with his father. While its sad shes dying, it's not worth the risk if they're requiring bio suits. And you don't even know her.
Eta: I didn't think about the suit protecting her, not you. Makes sense. But I still don't think you should be guilted into going.
I didn't think about the suit being for her either, duh. I should probably just go and make it quick like someone suggested. I don't really want to deal with a fall out of FIL. Though I'm still a little pissed he freaked out so bad, but you're right he's probably not thinking clearly.
If they really are making people wear biohazard gear to see her, I wouldn't go. You're immune suppressed.
H's uncle went to see her yesterday and said they had to suit up, wear gloves and a mask. He asked the nurse if they could kiss her cheek and apparently nurse said I wouldn't if it were me. But I'm not 100% sure how true that is.
For the record, I know pregnant people are in hospitals all the time, and there are pregnant nurses that are around this kind of thing on the regular, and most likely nothing would happen. I'm sure if it were someone we were close to it would be a different story, but since neither of us is close to this aunt, and H is really only going to be supportive of his dad, he doesn't think its necessary for me to take a risk if that makes sense.
There is very little risk here. I think you and your husband are blowing that way out of proportion. I also think your FIL is stressed, hurting, and taking it out on you two. I would go, just to support your FIL if nothing else.
Post by Saint Monica on Jun 5, 2013 7:28:10 GMT -5
You need to go for your FIL. He views you as a necessary family member for his support. Go, make an appearance, and then later go to your FIL and be there for him.
I would go. You know people give birth to live babies in hospitals right? That babies with serious complications stay in hospitals for days, weeks, months? I'm pretty sure your sacked up baby in your ute is just fine.
I'm sure if it were someone we were close to it would be a different story, but since neither of us is close to this aunt, and H is really only going to be supportive of his dad, he doesn't think its necessary for me to take a risk if that makes sense.
I fully agree with you on this and even from the get-go, my basic response was "I don't know that I'd go visit the (basically) deathbed of someone I've only met twice".
However, it's clear that this is important ot your FIL. Grief can make people react in unexpected ways. I don't know that this is really a hill I'd choose to die on.
Post by underwaterrhymes on Jun 5, 2013 7:37:26 GMT -5
The suit, as others have said, is for the aunt. Not for those visiting her.
And shame on that nurse for saying she wouldn't kiss the aunt on the cheek. If there was no clarification that it was actually out of concern for the aunt's health, that is irresponsibility at its finest.
That there is still this much ignorance surrounding HIV / AIDS really pisses me off.
Post by saraandmichael on Jun 5, 2013 7:54:53 GMT -5
check with your OB, but I am pretty sure you'll be fine. If it would make you and your husband feel better, wear a mask while you're walking the halls.