Yes, this needs explained better to me. Ethically, he does still owe her this, yes? It's not alimony, it's her share of the house they shared and were paying for together? I understand that he is legally scot-free now that she lied and forged and said he was done paying her, which is flamable, but he SHOULD still give her her money, right?
Feel free to pat me on the head and move along.
Everything you post, OM, makes me laugh.
I don't think there's any debate about whether he "should" pay the money back because I guess in theory they agreed to this arrangement. Of course...they agreed to "honor and cherish" and "forsake all others" too, but who's keepin' track here!?
This part seems harsh.
I don't know the whole backstory with this poster, but like Lucy said, nobody really knows the full details of the divorce.
Plus, it seems like a jab to everyone who has ever had a divorce.
I don't think there's any debate about whether he "should" pay the money back because I guess in theory they agreed to this arrangement. Of course...they agreed to "honor and cherish" and "forsake all others" too, but who's keepin' track here!?
This part seems harsh.
I don't know the whole backstory with this poster, but like Lucy said, nobody really knows the full details of the divorce. Plus, it seems like a jab to everyone who has ever had a divorce.
Yeah, it's not this at all. It is a bit of a jab at somebody who messed around with somebody while she was married, used that experience as a catalyst for a divorce, and then decides she is in a position to play the morality card in a different situation.
And, FWIW, I don't think I was 'kissing TOTS ass', I was just saying that I like how she's not afraid to post what she's thinking. Does she go too far sometimes? Sure and I've been on the 'TOTS is a bitch' wagon for a long time, but lately, I like her.
I have nothing more to add to this but the fact that my girl crush on thinkofthesoldiers is solidified thanks to this thread.
except that tots wasn't on her ass until somebody else pointed it out that that it was fraud. She was ok w it. Now she just has something to jump on... Because someone else pointed it out. She couldn't figure it out herself.
I don't think this matters though. Most of us were confused, myself included and then someone pointed it out and we were all 'well, that's shady'. Okay, she shouldn't have C&P the deleted thread bc of personal info, but when did it become taboo to flame someone for doing something shady?
Huh? Why? Because she's saying what a lot of people are thinking...sure she can be a bitch sometimes but I guarantee that she says what is on half of the peoples minds that are too afraid to post it. I don't get the TOTS hate...
Sometimes but then she goes and calls someone's baby ugly or something equally as atrocious.
Sometimes but then she goes and calls someone's baby ugly or something equally as atrocious.
haha, exactly
Well obviously that's out of line and not okay. But we've all done that, haven't we? So we should only like people that are 100% nice 100% of the time?
Well obviously that's out of line and not okay. But we've all done that, haven't we? So we should only like people that are 100% nice 100% of the time?
Well obviously that's out of line and not okay. But we've all done that, haven't we? So we should only like people that are 100% nice 100% of the time?
Not in the least - and no one here is 100% nice 100% of the time.
But there are rules about containing those pot shots to each other and not our kids/families
eta: by and large, keep the mud slinging a little more high brow than you so ugly remarks
I don't think this matters though. Most of us were confused, myself included and then someone pointed it out and we were all 'well, that's shady'. Okay, she shouldn't have C&P the deleted thread bc of personal info, but when did it become taboo to flame someone for doing something shady?
ruby- I like you. I don't care if you like her.... Shit I like her to talk about reality tv with. What I don't like is jumping on something just because it's there, and that's what was done in the op
No, you're right. I didn't really think of it that way.
And LHC, I see your point and I guess I didn't think of it that way. You're right, there is a way of saying what's on your mind without being an asshole about it.
Can we chalk this up to another 'I didn't really think before I posted'? haha I swear I'm not a huge asshole.
Well obviously that's out of line and not okay. But we've all done that, haven't we? So we should only like people that are 100% nice 100% of the time?
I can say with 100% certainty that I have never called anyone's baby ugly, here or irl. I've never told someone their baby looks like they have FAS either. These are the ones I can think of off the top of my head.
I guess I meant that we've all made shitty comments about someone at some point in our life. Maybe not to the point of that and again, I didn't do a good job in explaining what I meant.
Look, I didn't mean to say that I think TOTS behavior is always admirable and I wish I could be like her. I guess I sometimes have difficulty saying what I'm feeling or thinking because I don't want to make someone hate me. Should we be bitchy and do the below the belt comments? No, and I'm terribly sorry that that's how it came off. I just was trying to say that I like the way she speaks her mind because I've never ever been able to do that. I'm quiet and reserved and scared of rejection and judgement so I don't speak up and I don't like confrontation.
I'm not doing a good job at explaining this. you were right, this isn't going to end well for me. haha. I guess I just want to apologize for what I said and tuck my tail between my legs. I hope this hasn't made everyone hate me.
Ruby, I like you and you've always seemed like a really nice person, I just don't agree with you.
Thank you. I shouldn't have said what I said (which is why I rarely ever speak up in these type of threads, because I'm afraid of what I'm trying to say coming off shitty) so I'm apologizing and moving on. I really do mean it though, I am sorry for how my point came off, I feel like a douchebag.
I think it was tremendously stupid of bree to sign something which has now screwed herself out of any legal recourse. Perhaps her exH is a "nice guy" and she'll get this money. But she can't garnish his wages or take any legal action now. This is usually why people sell the house in a divorce if they can't buy equity outright.
Ruby, I like you and you've always seemed like a really nice person, I just don't agree with you.
Thank you. I shouldn't have said what I said (which is why I rarely ever speak up in these type of threads, because I'm afraid of what I'm trying to say coming off shitty) so I'm apologizing and moving on. I really do mean it though, I am sorry for how my point came off, I feel like a douchebag.
I definitely don't think people think you're a douchebag, but TOTS gets strong reactions, obviously. I also struggle with speaking my mind so I totally get you. I guess part of speaking your mind is that people aren't always going to like or agree with what you have to say but I don't think this should deter you from trying to speak up more.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by snipsnsnails on Jun 6, 2013 12:18:54 GMT -5
I can honestly say that I want my 15 minutes back that I just wasted reading this thread. And I'll sign whatever legal document I have to to get them back!!
I can honestly say that I want my 15 minutes back that I just wasted reading this thread. And I'll sign whatever legal document I have to to get them back!!
you have to sign all your money over to me. with interest. which i will determine.