Really pissed off.

[iamgrace]

Listen, the nursery and bedroom still aren't done.  My H is working at a fucking glacial pace on these things.  He told me it would be done yesterday.  Today it's looking like it won't be done until next week sometime.

HATE.

WTFWTF.  I can't rail on him like I want to, because then he might stop working.  He won't ask for help.  I want to kill.

[mrlittlejeans]

I would want to kill him too. Ugh, sorry!

[mrsukyankee]

I would want to kill him too.

[iamgrace]

It's like he has no concept that a screaming being is going to come flying out of my vag in the next 2 weeks. In my experience, shit that doesn't get done before the baby comes DOESN'T GET DONE.

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

H had to leave the hospital to set the nursery up BOTH TIMES. I get.

[iamgrace]

Jun 6, 2013 11:50:15 GMT -5 @booby said:

but aren't you going to co-sleep anyway? i'm not saying that your H should take his time and you SHOULD be riding his ass. but the consolation is that the baby won't be in the crib right away anyway, right?

YEs, but the bedroom isn't done either.  NOTHING IS DONE.  I'm living in the spare bedroom, H is sleeping on the couch (the bed in the upstairs spare is a weird 3/4 size bed).  Crap is everywhere.  This is not an ideal situation.

[Deleted]

My kid is 19 months old and I'm still waiting for the curtains to be hung. I feel ya.

[iamgrace]

I have everything washed and ready to go. I need to organize all of her things in the nursery, set up our bedroom, hang drapes and other window covereings, etc, etc, etc. Everything is just in piles in the office and spare bedroom. Henry's dresser is being moved to the nursery, and his new dresser still needs to be moved into his room and organized.

I am dying to get this shit done, but I can't do ANYTHING until H finishes his shit. I want so badly to call his stepdad to come and help, but then he might kill me.

[cleo29]

what needs to be done? I would honestly just get help. Get it done.

[iamgrace]

Jun 6, 2013 11:56:11 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

what needs to be done? I would honestly just get help. Get it done.

Paint the window frame, put up trim, install closet doors. 

I'm not quite sure why it takes him a fucking hour to put up one piece of trim, though.  He is not an efficient worker type person.  He lacks focus.  I'm the opposite, so this is driving me extra crazy.

[iamgrace]

Oh, and BUY the closet doors. Because when he went to get trim, he didn't think HEY I SHOULD GET THE OTHER SHIT I NEED, TOO.

[mrssandro]

I would be pissed.

BUT..I do want to add that DD was not in her room at all until she was at least 3 months old. I was so anxious to get it done now now now as well and well you get my point.

[cleo29]

Jun 6, 2013 11:59:47 GMT -5 iamgrace said:

Jun 6, 2013 11:56:11 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

what needs to be done? I would honestly just get help. Get it done.

Paint the window frame, put up trim, install closet doors. 

I'm not quite sure why it takes him a fucking hour to put up one piece of trim, though.  He is not an efficient worker type person.  He lacks focus.  I'm the opposite, so this is driving me extra crazy.

Yeah, at this point I would just ask for his family to help or whoever you would call upon to help out. He had his change, you want it done so that everything will be clean and ready for the baby and he is not doing it. I wouldn't even care if he was pissed at me, I would just do it.

About to push a human being out of your vag trumps his pride.

[Deleted]

I would want to murder him, too.

[partiallysunny]

I'm getting anxious just reading this thread.

[hopecounts]

While this would drive me crazy it will be OK.
DD didn't stay in the nursery until she was 3 months just because I was to sleep deprived to waste potential sleep time walking across the hall. I nursed side lying and dozed then tucked her back in the PnP.
so if the kiddo has to stay in y'all's room or a different room in the PnP/cradle it will be all right.

[Deleted]

Jun 6, 2013 11:55:39 GMT -5 iamgrace said:

I have everything washed and ready to go. I need to organize all of her things in the nursery, set up our bedroom, hang drapes and other window covereings, etc, etc, etc. Everything is just in piles in the office and spare bedroom. Henry's dresser is being moved to the nursery, and his new dresser still needs to be moved into his room and organized.

I am dying to get this shit done, but I can't do ANYTHING until H finishes his shit. I want so badly to call his stepdad to come and help, but then he might kill me.

I would do this and blame it on "pregnancy crazy".

[emjacobs]

Jun 6, 2013 11:47:05 GMT -5 @gypsy said:

Finnish babies sleep in cardboard boxes. It will be fine!

www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-22751415

This is one of the cooler stories I've read this week, gold star Gypsy!  (star)

[adhdfashion]

I think it's time to get crazy on his ass. That is some bullshit.

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[sake]

Jun 6, 2013 12:25:47 GMT -5 emjacobs said:

Jun 6, 2013 11:47:05 GMT -5 @gypsy said:

Finnish babies sleep in cardboard boxes. It will be fine!

www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-22751415

This is one of the cooler stories I've read this week, gold star Gypsy!  (star)

This is really really awesome. I wish America would do this.

ALSO, I would definitely call someone to come do the work if I was this close to having the baby, and it still wasn't close to being done. If I want something done, I will usually say, do it by the weekend, or we're paying to have it done. And it generally gets done. 

[nicanmatt]

It's totally stressing me out that DH hasn't cleared out the junk from our spare room so we can move DS into it. I want DS moved BEFORE the baby arrives, so he doesn't feel kicked out after she gets here. It's going to be stressful with a newborn and 3 year old, I don't understand why he thinks he has SOOOOOOO much time to do all of this! And he's talking about going on a cross-country road trip with a rented RV while I'm on leave, so he should understand that doesn't mean we would have 6 weeks + 12 weeks maternity leave to get all the shit done.

I have nowhere to put baby clothes/gear and it's stressing me out big time. He hates clutter, so I'm really surprised he doesn't care about the 20 boxes of baby clothes just sitting around!

GOOD LUCK! If you figure out how to get him going, let me know what worked...

[papie]

The "I will do it myself" threat combined with starting to push around giant pieces of furniture totally worked when I was hugely pregnant. He called my dad and got it moving faster.

[Mrs. ChanandlerBong]

Jun 6, 2013 11:50:26 GMT -5 Ohhmm(bligo) said:

H had to leave the hospital to set the nursery up BOTH TIMES. I get.

me, too mine had to leave to hang blackout shades and curtains because "I'll do it next weekend" never happened.

[sawyerthedestroyer]

Have you seen Zero Dark Thirty? I'd totally be writing the number of days until your due date in big red letters on the bathroom mirror.