Wedding gift amount Q

[megalicious]

I have a cousin getting married next week and I'm stuck on a gift amount. Things to consider:

(1) He lives in BFE, so I haven't actually seen him in probably close to 10 years. We're not even FB friends. Obviously, I'm not going to the wedding, but I was invited. 

(2) This is his second marriage, his fiancee's first. The first wedding was probably 7-8 years ago and didn't last long, maybe about a year. I don't remember how much I gave for the first one, but I definitely gave something.  

WWYD? 

[wambam]

I have a standard that I use for every wedding I attend: $100 if I consider them a close friend or family member, $50 if I don't.

[speckledfrog]

Just give what you normally give. What people normally give is going to vary wildly.

[vicky]

We always give $200, or we give $200 worth of gifts.

[Saint Monica]

Jun 6, 2013 12:31:47 GMT -5 megalicious said:

(2) This is his second marriage, his fiancee's first. The first wedding was probably 7-8 years ago and didn't last long, maybe about a year. I don't remember how much I gave for the first one, but I definitely gave something.  

 

I don't think the above should really matter.

I look at it as (a)How close are you and (b)How much can you actually afford.

[RoxMonster]

I know it sounds cliche but I would give what you can afford and feel comfortable giving.

To be honest, if I was in your shoes and it was someone I NEVER talk to and had not even seen in 10 years, I probably would be sending nothing. Or at the most, I would send a card, but no money. But perhaps I'm just a stingy bitch lol.

Truly, I hate when I feel like I'm getting invited just for cash/gift, and if I haven't seen or talked to you in 10 years, that's exactly how I feel. FWIW, if we go to a close friend's wedding I will either buy something off registry or give them a check for $50-100 depending what we can afford at that given point in time and how close I am to them.

[pantsparty]

Jun 6, 2013 12:33:56 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

Just give what you normally give. What people normally give is going to vary wildly.

Yup.

[stephlove]

It really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks what you should give, it's a matter of what you can afford and how you feel. For example, I would probably not send anything to a distant cousin that I haven't seen or talked to in years if I wasn't attending the wedding. We're on a really tight budget and cannot really afford gifts right now.

[mrsbro]

Jun 6, 2013 12:34:13 GMT -5 vicky said:

We always give $200, or we give $200 worth of gifts.

This is what we do. 

[papie]

Jun 6, 2013 12:33:56 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

Just give what you normally give. What people normally give is going to vary wildly.

Yep.  Here it is 150-350 in cash, depending how close you are.  (actually more than that for siblings and such)  But some places a $50 gift is standard

[Kit]

In this particular situation, I honestly probably wouldn't give anything.

For my close friends/family we usually do $150-$200.

[CrazyLucky]

I'm in a similar situation. Last time I saw my cousin was about 9 years ago, at her grandfather's (my great uncle's) funeral. We are sending a card and a small (probably $25) GC. We normally spend $100 for friends, more for family.