What say MN?

[sookie]

This is spurred by a conversation I had earlier this evening. I want MN's opinion.

[jamesonontherocks]

I think it totally depends on the girl. I have almost all exclusively guy friends and always have (minus two close female friends).

[sookie]

The girl in question doesn't have ANY female friends. I'm better with guys, but I still have a very small, close group of female friends. I find it strange for a girl to not have a single female friend.

[verycontrary247]

I voted no. In my experience, most chicks who have zero female friends but a harem of male buddies are pretty slutty.

I personally have very few good female friends, but that's mostly because I have low tolerance for drama.

[brandienee]

I picked SS, because I don't know if I would distrust her, but I don't necessarily understand it.

There isn't one female out there who could have anything in common with you?

[jamesonontherocks]

Jun 12, 2012 20:19:29 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

I voted no. In my experience, most chicks who have zero female friends but a harem of male buddies are pretty slutty.

I personally have very few good female friends, but that's mostly because I have low tolerance for drama.

The low tolerance for drama is exactly why I have so few female friends. No bullshit with guys. Much easier.

[nsl]

Jun 12, 2012 20:29:54 GMT -5 jamesonontherocks said:

Jun 12, 2012 20:19:29 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

I voted no. In my experience, most chicks who have zero female friends but a harem of male buddies are pretty slutty.

I personally have very few good female friends, but that's mostly because I have low tolerance for drama.

The low tolerance for drama is exactly why I have so few female friends. No bullshit with guys. Much easier.

Exactly. The one close IRL female friend I have and I joke that we're practically men given our low tolerance for drama.

[iluvmytxrgr]

Until a few years ago, I had very few female friends and didn't really trust the ones I had. I have always been one of the guys. I don't have a lot in common with most women. I hate shopping. I'd rather be out hunting or covered in dirt and grease than getting a mani/pedi. I have a few close friends now who are "ball busters" and lack the drama gene.
I generally distrust everyone when I first meet them. That doesn't mean I would write her off. I'd have to hang out with her first.

[basilosaurus]

I don't think distrust (nor slutty) is the right word for it, but I do side-eye people who brag that they're one of the guys b/c women are so drama filled. I've had predominately female friends my whole life, and I have zero tolerance for drama. Guess what? My friends also dislike drama.

I guess it strikes me as trying too hard to be cool, and it's kind of sexist to think that women suck and men are what give cred.

[letsbeawkward]

In general I tend to think that if someone always has issues with other women then the real issue is probably with them. I don't automatically distrust them but it does make me a little cautious.

I also agree with Sibil about people who say, "girls are so much drama, that's why I only hang with guys!" Sure, some girls are dramatic. Some aren't. I hate that generalization. To me it's about surrounding myself with the right people.

[Dory1988]

I don't know what the poll was because I'm on my phone but, anyway. I don't really discriminate between guys and girls. I'd say I have a pretty even amount of friends of both genders. I also don't buy it if you say you hang out with men just because you are a girl that doesn't like drama. I feel that way for a different reason than PP. I feel like I have had male and female friends that cause or get caught up in drama. You don't avoid it by discriminating against one gender or another. You have guy friends because you like hanging around guys, period.

[beans]

I agree with Sibil and others who were saying girls don't have to be drama. I have known plenty of girls who were all "girls are too much drama, I only hang out with guys" and they're the ones who create the drama. I actually would go a step further and say that this bs of girls are too much drama or are too catty is fairly misogynistic and keeping women focused on hating other women and perpetuating the stereotype that women can't get along is keeping us down. IME men and women are both drama and catty. I used to work in the men's department with all men and they were much more dramatic than when I worked at state farm in a department with 99 percent women. I get along well with both guys and girls, but I'm low key and don't deal well with drama from either side.

Fwiw, there's a difference between "I like to do things that mostly men do (shooting, fishing, whatever), so I hang out with men a lot" vs "I can't get along with women because they're too dramatic." I agree that I typically think women who say the latter are trying to be cool and appear above it or something.

[Jam]

I cant see it on the app

[baconlettucetomato]

Jun 12, 2012 21:50:16 GMT -5 iluvmytxrgr said:

Until a few years ago, I had very few female friends and didn't really trust the ones I had. I have always been one of the guys. I don't have a lot in common with most women. I hate shopping. I'd rather be out hunting or covered in dirt and grease than getting a mani/pedi. I have a few close friends now who are "ball busters" and lack the drama gene.
I generally distrust everyone when I first meet them. That doesn't mean I would write her off. I'd have to hang out with her first.

And this is me.

[iluvmytxrgr]

Jun 13, 2012 16:35:41 GMT -5 baconlettucetomato said:

Jun 12, 2012 21:50:16 GMT -5 iluvmytxrgr said:

Until a few years ago, I had very few female friends and didn't really trust the ones I had. I have always been one of the guys. I don't have a lot in common with most women. I hate shopping. I'd rather be out hunting or covered in dirt and grease than getting a mani/pedi. I have a few close friends now who are "ball busters" and lack the drama gene.
I generally distrust everyone when I first meet them. That doesn't mean I would write her off. I'd have to hang out with her first.

And this is me.

I knew there was a reason I liked you lol