XP All this food and no one to eat it! Vent!

[midnightmare81]

H and I just moved across the country a couple weeks ago, and don't really know anyone here. H is going to school but since its summer, there are very few people on campus, so meeting people there has been a challenge. We chose an apt complex with limited students to avoid loud parties and other issues, but it also means there are not to many people here our age. We are working on it, but aren't really sure where the good "hang outs" are, so it's not super easy.

We have been trying to get together with the one couple we do know down here since we got here. Until today, our schedules haven't jived. I made a HUGE batch of enchiladas that take about 2 hours to prep. We also cleaned the apt top to bottom. Just now, an hour before she was supposed to get here, I got a text that her sister broke up with her fiance and she has to cancel . I mean, I get it, sorta. I am not super close to my family, but some people are. Break ups are not easy. But for real, she was only going to be here for a couple hours, not all dam day! Yes, I know I sound like a bitch and I will come to my senses later, but for now, it's irrationally irritating me.

I think what frustrates me most is that I start my first "big girl" job tomorrow. I have been really stressed and have been looking forward to just hanging out and relaxing on my last day of "freedom" before weekends become all about getting the stuff done I can no longer get done during the week. Now, I just feel like I wasted half the day cooking and cleaning instead of relaxing and enjoying it.

XP because I this fits better in ML, not MM. I could make it MM though by saying at least I have lunch for the next few days!

[pamela]

I completely understand. It's so hard to meet people in a new place and it's always frustrating when you plan an event and people back out. Extra disappointing when it's part of trying to make new friends. At least with an already friend I'd know we'd have plans the next weekend or something. It would be hard for me to work up the courage again to try to set something up.

[midnightmare81]

Jun 9, 2013 12:58:03 GMT -5 pamela said:

I completely understand. It's so hard to meet people in a new place and it's always frustrating when you plan an event and people back out. Extra disappointing when it's part of trying to make new friends. At least with an already friend I'd know we'd have plans the next weekend or something. It would be hard for me to work up the courage again to try to set something up.

 I'm glad to not a horrible person for feeling that way. I have a feeling I won't be jumping at getting together with her again for a while due to this. I feel like I understand that family is important to her, but canceling plans last minute when she knew everything took a lot of prep sucks. I don't really understand why she couldn't either just ask to come later once she has spent some time with her sister, or just cut it short and we eat earlier then planned.

[smiley]

I'm sorry she backed out on you at the last minute. That does suck. I hope you can get together soon and maybe network with her to meet some other people!

[explorer2001]

I get that it sucks, but I also wonder if the sister and her now ex FI were living together and your friend had to go help her move out or something really urgent. If that's not the case then it was super rude and ballsy to do that, expecially as a text and not a phone call. Hopefully she will call later to explain/apologize/something.

BTW your food sounds yummy and at least you have a clean house so you can relax and enjoy your evening.

[Deleted]

That sucks and I'd be upset too. At least you have a clean place and food now I guess.

[midnightmare81]

Jun 9, 2013 13:50:21 GMT -5 explorer2001 said:

I get that it sucks, but I also wonder if the sister and her now ex FI were living together and your friend had to go help her move out or something really urgent. If that's not the case then it was super rude and ballsy to do that, expecially as a text and not a phone call. Hopefully she will call later to explain/apologize/something.

BTW your food sounds yummy and at least you have a clean house so you can relax and enjoy your evening.

I would believe this if she wasn't on FB posting stuff... So while she might be hanging out with her sister, its not likely she's busy moving stuff.

[explorer2001]

Oh that sucks! I'm avoiding her or cutting ties too. Yuck!

[Heisenberg]

Lame!!

And, I agree with NQB-- at least you have leftovers and a clean house! Hope you have a great day at your new job tomorrow!

[Deleted]

That sucks. It is so hard to make friends as an adult in a new area.

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[msmerymac]

If my sister and her fiance broke up, it wouldn't even occur to me to cancel dinner plans. I mean, I have no sister, and I live several hundred miles from my brother, but I would say something like, "I'll be over at 9 and I'll bring Bridget Jones's Diary and Ben and Jerry's!" Not, "let me drop all plans and cancel on my friend who made dinner so we can go get pizza!" Maybe I'm heartless. 

Oh, and I feel you on the friends thing. 4.5 months ago I moved to a new state, and happened to move close to a friend from high school. And now she's moving out of state. Ugh, starting over!

[barney96]

moving out here was tough -esp since its a college town too, and though there are older people too, many of them either are sill students themselves, or have not much in common with us. We rent a house, so no neighbors except older people who own their home, and are not necessarily friendly. Keep trying