Question for those of you who kept your last name.

[awick14]

For those of you that kept your last name and have/ are wanting children which last name did you use?or did you hyphenate?

A friend of mine is getting married and she is going to keep her name. When they have children they will get there dad's last name.

I took Dh's last name so this never came up with us, but I am just curious.

[HiC]

DD has dh's last name, and my last name as a middle name.

[Jermys]

Both kids have H's last name. Which sucks, because mine is MUCH cooler and his is easy to make a joke out of.

[housegeek]

I still have mine, and our kids have mine. I'll change em all eventually.

[angelaa73]

They have rays name. Adams middle name is my last name

[meadowlark]

I prefer what you all did. Hyphenating makes for some really long last names.

[niq]

We're just going to split names 50-50. The first kid will have her last name, the second one mine, etc. we'll probably stop at 2 though.

W's parents did this. It's fine except ever year the kids have to explain the situation to teachers. "yes, Stuart O and Rose K are twins. You see, mom's last name is O and dad's is K. Look I know it's unusual but it makes sense when you think about it. HEY I KNOW IT'S HARD LEARNING TWENTY NEW NAMES BUT CAN YOU TAKE YOUR HEAD OUT OF YOUR ASS FOR JUST A SECOND HERE?!?" Etc.

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[Waffles]

We plan to give them his name.

[honeybee]

I'm keeping my last name. Any hypothetical kids will get his name. Socially though I don't mind being known by his. Its only for work purposes that I want mine.

[lazyphoque]

Dd has h's last name, and my last name as her middle name. Any future kids will have the same. Not really an issue at all.

[Deleted]

I added Jake's last name to mine (so it's Maiden Married, 2 name last name) because it was important to me for legal reasons to have the same last name as my kids. They have Married as their last name but Maiden as a 2nd middle name (which is what Jake did). So all 4 of us have Maiden and Married in our names.

It also seemed annoying to me to hyphenate or give them 2 last names, only because I don't know what they'd want to do when/if they got married or in a long term relationship. I wanted to make sure they had options and that seems easier with one last name.

[heyjude]

Jun 13, 2012 7:20:30 GMT -5 @mrdobalina said:

We both kept our original names and baby will be a mylast-hislast. Right on.

Exactly what we did.

[heyjude]

Jun 13, 2012 7:23:25 GMT -5 ninjabridemom said:

I added Jake's last name to mine (so it's Maiden Married, 2 name last name) because it was important to me for legal reasons to have the same last name as my kids. They have Married as their last name but Maiden as a 2nd middle name (which is what Jake did). So all 4 of us have Maiden and Married in our names.

It also seemed annoying to me to hyphenate or give them 2 last names, only because I don't know what they'd want to do when/if they got married or in a long term relationship. I wanted to make sure they had options and that seems easier with one last name.

It may seem annoying but it's common in other cultures and they have managed to make it work.

[ktkl09]

I hyphenated. I wish I would have just taken H's last name or kept mine. It's so long now. Most of the time people just ignore the hyphen and refer to me by my first name + H's last name, which usually results in "You're "--- ---? I didn't expect that!". H's last name is a very common last name from South/Central America. I guess they aren't expecting a blonde. It's annoying.

Our kids will take H's last name.

[papie]

My kids have DH's last name

[suzyp]

DH and I are not having kids, but managed to get into an argument about this (since he just assumed that the children we are not having would have his last name), so I am glad this is not something I have to deal with!

[sugarmagnolia77]

I kept my maiden, no hyphen. My son has DH's last name as will our next child. People sometimes call me Mrs. DHlastname, I don't mind it but do always feel like my MIL. It mostly happens when it has something to to with DS school.

[lazyphoque]

Jun 13, 2012 8:42:37 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

I do NOT like it when people refer to me as Mrs. H'slastname. Especially when I just gave them my name. I know it's going to happen a lot more now, though.

Is your h's name the first or second part of the hyphenated last name? If it's the last, I could see people glossing over the middle part.

The only people who regularly address me as Lazy Hlastname are his family members, who are mortally offended that I didn't change my name. He is often addressed as Mr. Phoque, though, since I am the take care of business party in our relationship. He likes it since he can just say he is not Mr. Phoque and continue to avoid taking care of shit.

[Deleted]

Jun 13, 2012 8:47:31 GMT -5 cjoy said:

We both kept our names. The kids have my last name as a second middle and H's last name.

I originally considered hyphenating their names but opted against it because it's a really long name when combined and I thought "What a hassle for school." Well, his school went ahead and hyphenated it on every single form and no amount of "no, no, no, it's JUST lastname" has prompted them to change it.

Ha, good to know!

[PinkSquirrel]

I kept my last name and our kids will have my last name because I somehow convinced H to take my name

I have friends that have each kept their names and some of them give the kids the wife's last name and some give the kids the husbands last name.

[fuckyourcouch]

I was afraid to drop my maiden completely because I'm published under it and my degrees are under it. I never officially changed my name, but socially I go by H's last name. His is so easy to say and spell compared to mine, so I'm considering just sucking it up and 100% changing to his, but I'm lazy so I'm waiting for my passport and DL to expire next year.