Little bit pissed.

[deanlicker78]

I had to work earlier today so H was home alone with the kids.  SS was having a very bad meltdown day and H was at the end of his rope.  To bring some peace to the house he took SS over to spend time with H's parents.  My ILs were planning on coming over tonight to bring Lucas his birthday gift.  His birthday was at the end of May but they've been gone on vacation and just got back this weekend.   

So they come over tonight and Lucas opened his gift. It was a Monsuno combat 4 pack set.  Except there were only 3 Monsuno inside. Lucas and Jacob both immediately noticed there was a missing Monsuno and one missing set of cards and  my MIL said "Well that's just how this set worked out." SS just so happened to be sitting on the couch playing with a new Monsuno and a set of cards.  OMG.  They opened the gift and took one out and gave it to SS and then gave Lucas what was left.

I'm pretty pissed that they would open on child's gift to give part of it away to another child.  SS's birthday is next month, they could have given him his own set then.  I didn't get a chance to say anything to H because after his parents left, H left to take the kids back to their mom's house.  I'm not being irrational here am I?  This is some bullshit right? 


**Monsuno for those of you without geek children are little alien monsters figures that you put in a tube and spin them around trying to get the monsters to pop out of the tube.  They come with a set of cards that have each characters info on them.  I don't understand it that well myself but it keeps the boys entertained. lol 

[EmilieMadison]

That's pretty shitty, especially since it almost seems like a reward for the meltdown. I"m sorry

[UMaineTeach]

not cool

not to even consider that the reason SS was at the IL is because of his behavior and he got rewarded with 1/4 of his SB birthday gift

and if you are going to pull something like breaking up a set you have to take it all out of the packaging and present it a different way.

[deanlicker78]

Jun 9, 2013 18:22:11 GMT -5 UMaineTeach said:

not cool

not to even consider that the reason SS was at the IL is because of his behavior and he got rewarded with 1/4 of his SB birthday gift

and if you are going to pull something like breaking up a set you have to take it all out of the packaging and present it a different way.

Right?  It says 4 pack on the box and there were only 3 inside.  I don't know how they thought no one would notice.

[nightandday]

You have every right to be pissed. What a shitty thing to do to your grandson.

[Deleted]

I'm really angry over this for two reasons. The first is because that's just a crappy thing to do. The other is because it's not ok to reward bad behavior! All it does is reinforce that if you that enough of a fit you get rewarded and that is SUCH a disservice to the child, not to mention it makes your jobs as parents more difficult.

[Yankees21]

That is really shitty of them to do on several levels, I'm sorry.

[nightandday]

Jun 9, 2013 18:27:20 GMT -5 @otterama said:

I'm really angry over this for two reasons. The first is because that's just a crappy thing to do. The other is because it's not ok to reward bad behavior! All it does is reinforce that if you that enough of a fit you get rewarded and that is SUCH a disservice to the child, not to mention it makes your jobs as parents more difficult.

Exactly. And what about the dynamic they're creating between the boys? Even if he didn't notice right away, your son is soon going to figure out that his grandparents gave part of his birthday gift away to reward the other one's tantrum!

[snickers]

That's such a shitty thing for them to do! What the heck are some people thinking?

[spitforspat]

Poor kiddo.

[game blouses]

That sucks! It's one thing to give a gift on a sibling's birthday (which I still don't love, but I get it), but to take part of a gift away is just a bad move for everyone involved.

[deanlicker78]

I feel like we should say something but I know H won't want to. Honestly I don't know if they would get it.

[candreco]

That is really shitty in a lot of ways.