Would you be happy if friends moved into your neighborhood?

[spunkarella]

Just typing that question out makes it sound so silly. Of course you would be happy, right? I know I would!

The lot we are looking at is in a good friend's neighborhood, about 0.2 miles down her street. I feel weird about it though, like we are encroaching on *their* space, or copying them, or something idk. Really, we just like their neighborhood!

I told her we were considering it, and she said she would love to have us as neighbors. But what else would she say? Don't buy a house near us? Lol. Gah, I am so awkward and insecure sometimes.

[aspentosh]

My BFF just looked at a house in our neighborhood. I am seriously keeping my fingers crossed they buy it. So if your friend is anything like me, they're excited about it

[jerseyjaybird]

I would love it. I pushed hard for a friend to buy in my neighborhood last year, but she fell in love with a home elsewhere. Many years ago, my ex and I bought a house next-door to good friends, too, and we all really loved that experience. It's wonderful to be able to get together spontaneously.

[Deleted]

Yes. I would love that. I try to get any o my friends to move to my neighborhood. I considered moving to the same neighborhood as my friends, just none lived where we needed to be.

[lindyanne]

As long as you're not trying to be over there visiting constantly and respect their space I think that'd be awesome

[evans]

Jun 21, 2013 7:33:14 GMT -5 JayhawkGirl said:

Wine. Walk home. Sounds perfect

This! I love having our friends close. We're not all up in each others business so it works great.

[Deleted]

I would like it as long as they didn't just show up at our door uninvited all the time.

[raangoli]

We bought in the same town as friends, but not the same neighborhood. I am pretty excited to be that much closer to them and I think they are, too. (At least I hope they are. I obviously have the same insecurities as the OP.)

[sh10]

I think it would be awesome! I fortunately just made friends with a new girl in our neighborhood and we love being able to hang out and drink then walk home!

[mbcdefg]

We had a For Sale house across the street from us, and our friends mentioned that they might be looking for a house soon, and I kept hoping that they'd look at it. Alas, it already sold and they're not seriously looking yet.

[rubytue]

Another one who tried to talk BFF into buying a house our neighborhood. But we are too far from her office. She ended up even further from us now and I'm sad (was 45 mins, now more like 1:20).

[boiler717]

We built 2 doors down from our BFFs (they were building at the same time). It's awesome -- no has to drive home and we help each other out with the dogs.

[spunkarella]

All these happy stories are really making me feel better. Thanks!

[Deleted]

I would LOVE it if one of our friends moved in our neighborhood. Love it.

[dexteroni]

I would love it! And if someone I didn't really like was thinking about moving into our neighborhood, I would never say I would love to have them as neighbors. I would probably say something more neutral like "oh wow, ok, well good luck with your house search!"

[martini]

Our good friends live a few houses down from us and we love it! Just last night we had an impromptu cookout! It's so convenient too (like if they are running late and need someone to let their dog out we are right there). We are respectful and don't just show up at each other's home unannounced, though, so I think that helps. We joke that when we move (neither of us plan to stay in these houses long term) we are going to find houses on the same street again.

[Willis Jackson]

Almost all our friends live in our neighborhood already. That's how we met them.

[soozy87]

I probably wouldn't be the biggest fan. But I am not someone who is super outgoing. I like to have my own space and my own time, not hanging out with friends every minute of my free time.

[aspentosh]

Jun 21, 2013 8:35:10 GMT -5 soozy87 said:

I probably wouldn't be the biggest fan. But I am not someone who is super outgoing. I like to have my own space and my own time, not hanging out with friends every minute of my free time.

Then that's an issue with you/your friends. I know my friends wouldn't be over all the time. It would make hanging out easier, not necessary.

ETA: I did not mean for that to be snarky!

[soozy87]

Jun 21, 2013 8:44:52 GMT -5 aspentosh said:

Jun 21, 2013 8:35:10 GMT -5 soozy87 said:

I probably wouldn't be the biggest fan. But I am not someone who is super outgoing. I like to have my own space and my own time, not hanging out with friends every minute of my free time.

Then that's an issue with you/your friends. I know my friends wouldn't be over all the time. It would make hanging out easier, not necessary.

ETA: I did not mean for that to be snarky!

Oh yeah, just a personal preference. I know there are lots of people who like to get together with friends much more often then I do. I wouldn't mind living in the same town or on the same road even, but more than .2 miles would be better for me.

[mcsangel2]

We moved into a neighborhood where friends already lived. Not the same street, but in the same general subdivision. We've lived here for 8 years. It's awesome - we take turns taking care of pets and getting mail when one of us is out of town. I would be super bummed if one of us had to move too far away to do that anymore.

[chia]

I'd love it.

[kdubs923]

We bought a house across the street from our BFFs three years ago.. They suggested it when the house was for sale at the same time we were searching. Its great, we have random cook outs, sit by the fire pit, go for walks together. They have a young child, and sometimes ask us to pop over to watch him while they run a quick errand (and I'm totally going to do the same once mine is born.)

It's all about boundaries. We rarely just show up at each others house. Clearly we know when the other is home, but we both send a quick text of 'Hey, are you busy? Or mind if I run over for a few?' before barging in. It's great, our husbands are firefighters and work opposite hours often, so at least when one is working, the other is usually home to help shovel, take in the trash barrels, kill a particularly scary bug, lol.

It's just so convenient. With our busy work schedules, the guys crazy work and overtime schedules, kids, etc. we probably wouldn't have the opportunity to hang out often. But it's easy to just run across the street, have a drink, catch up on the week, and be home & in bed, 2 minutes later!

[BAMFMrsB]

DH and I just found a house yesterday in one of my BFF's 'hood. Its like $60k under our top price point, so we could/would drop like $30k in fixing it up. We haven't mentioned it ot her yet, but I like the house more b/c we'd have friends nearby.

[vanillacourage]

I would love it if they were normal and understood boundaries.  We have some friends that we have to "timebox" when we hang out, because they won't get the hint to just GTFO so we can go to bed like the old people that we are. 

[HoneySpider]

It sounds like it would be really fun!

[kdubs923]

Oh, and when we dream and joke about winning the lottery, when we talk about the McMansions we'd buy, we always mention we'll need to find 2 on the same street. It's understood if either couple hit it big, we're buying the other a house to stay together:)

[sillygoosegirl]

I would love it. I think our location is pretty ideal and uniquely so, so I would not assume they were copying us or even moving there because of us, just that they were making a smart choice about where to live.

[jerseyjaybird]

Jun 21, 2013 7:33:14 GMT -5 JayhawkGirl said:

Wine. Walk home. Sounds perfect

This is my absolute favorite thing about my neighborhood.

[protozoa]

I would be beyond excited.