I wanna smack my ex re:puppy support

[Deleted]

Eff that guy!

[Deleted]

I'm glad he's at least paying to help out with the dogs. Now it looks he he's being a jerk face and maybe slowly trying to get out of paying for them at all.

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[doriswe]

You know I adore you, so this comes from a place of love....but seriously, cut ties. Buck up and pay for the dogs yourself. You don't need this tie to him anymore. Besides, it's just a thorn in your side to deal with, kwim??

[doriswe]

Jun 21, 2013 18:35:33 GMT -5 mp said:

Jun 21, 2013 18:21:45 GMT -5 doriswe said:

You know I adore you, so this comes from a place of love....but seriously, cut ties. Buck up and pay for the dogs yourself. You don't need this tie to him anymore. Besides, it's just a thorn in your side to deal with, kwim??

I know. And I told him that today- that I didn't need his money and he could stop. But of course he felt guilty (this is how he works, very passive aggressive).

But it's like child support, to an extent - no? It's principal and it's owed to me. It is in our divorce paperwork.

I'm just annoyed. And he continually validates why we split.

I want to know how it's laid out in the divorce paperwork....I've not heard of this before!!

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Jun 21, 2013 18:39:39 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Jun 21, 2013 18:35:33 GMT -5 mp said:

I know. And I told him that today- that I didn't need his money and he could stop. But of course he felt guilty (this is how he works, very passive aggressive).

But it's like child support, to an extent - no? It's principal and it's owed to me. It is in our divorce paperwork.

I'm just annoyed. And he continually validates why we split.

I want to know how it's laid out in the divorce paperwork....I've not heard of this before!!

I got spousal support for 7 months and I asked it to be increased by 50 dollars because of the dogs. My ex still owes me 150 dollars but I rather lose out than deal with him. Also, first post you say you agreed out of courts ( I assumed verbal agreement) and then you say it's in your divorce papers? If its in your paperwork then legally he cannot back out. Meh

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Do you expect for him to pay this money for the next 10 years, or until they all die? I kind of think that's unreasonable. For a while, while you get on your feet, sure. But for the rest of their lives? Idk.

[jojoandleo]

To me-it's more the principle of the thing-he agreed to pay it and without even talking to you, is just reducing it. Had he called you can talked about it and so on, fine, but this was shady and shitty.

AND as someone who treats her dogs as her kids, I don't get why people are all "You shouldn't expect him to pay for them." Why not? He agreed to support them when they were adopted, he doesn't get to stop because they got divorced.

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I do see both sides. My dog is like my kid. And I have no kids. And my late H and I had an agreement when we were dating that if we broke up, I would take the dog and he would fund any big bills for her, because I had the less demanding job and he made much more money than me, so it would make more sense for me to take her except I couldn't really afford her outside of food. And I'd be pissed if he went back on that, especially without asking me. But at the same time, things change as years pass. Idk.

[riverpestie]

My X promised the same thing, he didn't even pay a dime.

[mcc]

Who cared WHY it was agreed upon? You can have agreements to do all sorts of crazy shit in divorce but if its mutually agreed upon by the parties, what difference does it make?! The issue is that he's being a douche about it. That sucks, regardless of whether you think animals should be treated like children. That's the point, not whether he should have to pay. It's an agreement that he's reneging on and he's an ass.

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He's in contempt of the court if he isn't following the divorce agreement. It doesn't matter why or how the money is spent. If he's to pay you 100 buck a month then he needs to pay it.