Is this something you would ever do? Is there a certain level of friendship required before you are comfortable enough to say something? Or do you just not say anything and only offer opinions when asked?
I wouldn't straight up say "you're makeup looks bad" but depending on the situation and how close I was to the person I might dance around the topic.
Example, close friend wore really dark eyeliner on her bottom lid for years, made her eyes look really small. One day makeup came up in conversation and I told her that I thought her eyes would really pop with just some dark brown mascara, she tried it and doesn't wear the black eyeliner anymore. I don't think I offended her.
My friend has recently asked me what I thought of a new product she is using (bronzer) and the day she asked me it looked fine but each day she has been putting more and more on. She already is using too light of foundation (which normally isn't that bad) and combined with too much bronzer she is now exhibiting a clown look and I am pretty sure that is not what she was going for.
I normally would not say anything but since she asked me before I am trying to decide if it is ok to say "Hey remember when you asked me about your bronzer? Perhaps you should back off a tad..."
I don't know, I am usually an avoider when it comes to stuff like this but I would really want to know if I looked like a clown.
nevah. one day, they'll figure it out. like my law school friend who flirted with blue eyeshadow until she saw someone else's picture from a party and was horrified.
Post by LeggsBenedict on Jun 24, 2013 20:10:03 GMT -5
oh, that's more complicated since she brought it up before. maybe say something about how you really thought it complimented her well when it was more subtle? turn it into a compliment of sorts.
My friend has recently asked me what I thought of a new product she is using (bronzer) and the day she asked me it looked fine but each day she has been putting more and more on. She already is using too light of foundation (which normally isn't that bad) and combined with too much bronzer she is now exhibiting a clown look and I am pretty sure that is not what she was going for.
I normally would not say anything but since she asked me before I am trying to decide if it is ok to say "Hey remember when you asked me about your bronzer? Perhaps you should back off a tad..."
I don't know, I am usually an avoider when it comes to stuff like this but I would really want to know if I looked like a clown.
If it were me, I'd want to know if my makeup looked jacked. I'd maybe say it in a joking way? Like she's looking extra bronzy?
I wish we lived in a world where we were all secure enough to say "I love you but you look like shit" and nobody be offended. Life would be so much simpler.
I'm glad we live in a world where not everyone feels the need to be clones of everyone else, manifesting one "utopia" of beauty, and that variances could be accepted - dare I say, celebrated.
oh, that's more complicated since she brought it up before. maybe say something about how you really thought it complimented her well when it was more subtle? turn it into a compliment of sorts.
This is a good idea but I am pretty sure I would bungle it, I am terrible at that kind of thing.
I wish we lived in a world where we were all secure enough to say "I love you but you look like shit" and nobody be offended. Life would be so much simpler.
I'm glad we live in a world where not everyone feels the need to be clones of everyone else, manifesting one "utopia" of beauty, and that variances could be accepted - dare I say, celebrated.
I don't think it has anything to do with being clones, she's saying her friend wears too much bronzer. I doubt it's on purpose.
I wish we lived in a world where we were all secure enough to say "I love you but you look like shit" and nobody be offended. Life would be so much simpler.
yeah, but then what if they say "btw, YOU totally look like shit" because everything is in the eye of the beholder and then you have to hate them for life and slash their tires.
You know what? I wouldn't want someone to tell me that my makeup looked bad. It would make me feel awful. Forever. Even if it were objectively true. I would forever after feel self conscious about myself and I would worry that people were laughing about me behind my back. No. no no no. But perhaps I'm a wee bit too sensitive. LOL
I might take the slightly chickenshit way out and ask the friend to go to Sephora with me to find some new makeup (for me) and then bring the conversation around to products I think might work for her once we were actually in the store.
Ugh, well she is currently on vacation with her family so maybe one of them will tell her. If not, when she comes back I may say something if an opportunity presents itself.
I recently changed foundation and I am REALLY worried that it looks cakey. I even asked some people at work but they were all, "no! it really doesn't!"
But I'm the boss, so maybe they can't really tell the the truth?
I thought about posting a pic here one day to ask, but I was worried somebody would be like, "Your eyebrows are awful," or something and then I'd feel even worse about myself. lol.
In short, I wish I had a friend that would tell me if my makeup was bad. I really wish I had a friend like that!
Sometimes I lack tact. I have told friends their makeup looked like shit. Always with an offer of fixing it.
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How kind of you lol.
A couple of my friends can't see well without their glasses on. They come out with the orange rim around the chin. We aren't the walk on eggshells type of girls. They have fixed me before as well.
Like others, if asked directly, I would probably say something, especially to my mom or sisters. Although if they asked when we were already, say, at a party where they couldn't change anything and would otherwise spend the night feeling self-conscious, I might bite my tongue.
I would want to know if it were me. Not a general "your make-up looks bad," but a specific critique like a foundation line would save me future embarrassment. I hope my sisters told the truth when I started using a new foundation and asked their opinion because otherwise I may have spent the past year looking ridiculous!
I think in your situation you have good reason to bring it up again. Applying less bronzer is such an easy fix!
if asked directly, I will say something always. with my mom and sisters, I will mention something even unsolicited, because we love each other like that. my mom and I will be randomly having a conversation, and my mom will stop and say, "I don't like that color of foundation on you." or I'll tell my sister "that eyeshadow is just not working." because we know it comes from love.