Talk to me about cold turkey pacifier weaning..

[margotmacomber]

We were oot while DH was doing military training.  I told him to get rid off all pacifiers before we got back home.  

She never even noticed.  

[ProfessorArtNerd]

I waited for Lucy to be ready on her own. It was painless. It was also when she was four, sooooo

[ElizabethBennet]

We did it a few weeks ago. My kid was a pacifier addict. One in her mouth and one in each hand. One night I noticed she had chewed holes through all of them in such a way that huge chunks were coming off. I decided to just cut them waaaaay down. When I brought them back up to her I showed her, said they were broken, and she said "uh oh! What happened?" She sat an pouted for a bit and did have a hard time going to sleep for a couple of nights. She was just restless and didn't know what to do with her mouth.

She asked for them a couple of times and each time we told her they were broken and she accepted that. No tears and no tantrums. It was seriously 10 million times easier than I was anticipating.

[ElizabethBennet]

And Que, I think our daughters are around the same age.

[McGavin]

We went cold turkey right after DD1's first birthday. She was just a little whiney for a couple naps/nights and then she was over it.

[papie]

:::sits to listen:::

My kid is turning 3 in august and is nowhere near ready.

[peachdragon]

We did it early and it was easy. 5 months.

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We gradually went down to just using it for naps and bed time. I never offered it, always waited until he asked. One night he forgot to ask and that was the end of it.  He asked a couple of times two weeks or so later but I just said 'oh, we don't use the paci anymore, remember?'  He didn't fuss over it. 

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Jun 26, 2013 19:59:58 GMT -5 Que? said:

@professorartnerd

oh I totally judge myself! (My official name is still lp521)

[Deleted]

I think I took it away from her when she was around 18 months maybe? Anyway, I tried cutting the tip off, that didn't work because she knew we had about 800 laying around the house so she just screamed. Then I tried poking holes in her soother and she didn't even notice anything. Eventually I just took them all and threw them in the garbage. She cried the first night, a little less the second night, but on night three she didn't even cry at all.

[Bonita]

A friend of mine went with the Pacifier Fairy approach...told her daughter that they needed to donate all of her pacifiers so that other little babies could have them. She said they rounded them up, and she kind of cried once but it was really brief and they didn't have any issues after that.

Good luck Quesera

[jaylea]

We aren't there yet. I was going to take it after his surgery last month, then after the sleep study last week.

And then he went and split his head open, so now I am waiting until after the stitches are out next week, I guess.

It's kept him calm and soothed, so I am not feeling too bad about it.

With Libby, we talked up the "bink fairy", who would leave a big kid toy if you left the bunks out for the babies. One morning she couldn't find hers and told me that the fairy must have taken it. That was it.

I found it under the couch a few days later and buried it in the trash. She was 2.5, so mason's age now.

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Jun 26, 2013 20:01:36 GMT -5 @bostonjen said:

We gradually went down to just using it for naps and bed time. I never offered it, always waited until he asked. One night he forgot to ask and that was the end of it.  He asked a couple of times two weeks or so later but I just said 'oh, we don't use the paci anymore, remember?'  He didn't fuss over it. 

Oh and he had just turned three. 

[cleo29]

the paci fairy (i.e. me) came to our house and took her paci for a new baby who needed it and left her with a new lovey to comfort her.

The first week or so was a little rough. She would cry a little and tell me to tell the paci fairy to come back to our house and bring her a paci, but eventually, she was fine. It was not as bad as I thought, but I felt like she was having her heart broken for the first time, only instead of being dumped by a douchebag, it was her paci leaving her high and dry.

She now has 10 stuffed animals in her bed. lol

[jaylea]

Don't beat yourself up, que. she won't be starting school with it. Start talking about how she is a big girl and big girls don't use pacifiers. Then, if you want, start talking about the fairy. Ease into it. Eventually it'll work.

[cleo29]

Jun 26, 2013 21:15:41 GMT -5 Que? said:

Jun 26, 2013 20:45:34 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

the paci fairy (i.e. me) came to our house and took her paci for a new baby who needed it and left her with a new lovey to comfort her.

The first week or so was a little rough. She would cry a little and tell me to tell the paci fairy to come back to our house and bring her a paci, but eventually, she was fine. It was not as bad as I thought, but I felt like she was having her heart broken for the first time, only instead of being dumped by a douchebag, it was her paci leaving her high and dry.

She now has 10 stuffed animals in her bed. lol

This is how I feel, like I'm breaking her heart. She's so upset. She's still teething, and potty training and I'm not sure why I decided now was a good time.

I caved tonight and now I'm back to square one. Fuck.

How old is she?  I am not sure I would do two big things at the same time. I would just focus on either the potty training right now or the paci.  And it was funny with C, some nights she would be totally cool and then randomly, weeks later would get a little weepy over it. But, standing firm helped and we were down to her last paci.

Another idea I liked was when a poster here who I am totally forgetting, had her daughter pay for her new lovey with her pacifiers. I love this idea because you are making them a part of the process rather than having it be something that is happening to them.

[Deleted]

Well, ds didn't have a paci but he sucked on receiving blankets like a paci. It had the same effect of screwing with his bite. The dentist told us absolutely no blanket sucking after 2.5.

We pulled them when he turned two. He sobbed for his "niiiigh niiiigh!"s for 90 minutes the first night, 10 minutes the next night, and then never again.

His teeth totally changed afterwards, too. It was crazy.

[Deleted]

Don't ask me. We tried cold turkey when she was 3 and it was a miserable failure and we gave it back after 45 awful, terrible, sleepless days. FORTY-FIVE DAYS.

She did it on her own when she was 4. She willed herself to do it! I think she just wasn't ready at 3. I don't think having her binky for another year will cause any more lasting permanent damage. At least I'm pretty sure. LOL

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Jun 26, 2013 21:25:01 GMT -5 @weeble said:

Don't ask me. We tried cold turkey when she was 3 and it was a miserable failure and we gave it back after 45 awful, terrible, sleepless days. FORTY-FIVE DAYS.

She did it on her own when she was 4. She willed herself to do it! I think she just wasn't ready at 3. I don't think having her binky for another year will cause any more lasting permanent damage. At least I'm pretty sure. LOL

Yeah, Lucy's bite is nearly perfect now 

[cleo29]

Jun 26, 2013 21:23:51 GMT -5 Que? said:

Jun 26, 2013 21:21:40 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

How old is she?  I am not sure I would do two big things at the same time. I would just focus on either the potty training right now or the paci.  And it was funny with C, some nights she would be totally cool and then randomly, weeks later would get a little weepy over it. But, standing firm helped and we were down to her last paci.

Another idea I liked was when a poster here who I am totally forgetting, had her daughter pay for her new lovey with her pacifiers. I love this idea because you are making them a part of the process rather than having it be something that is happening to them.

Two and a half. Now is not a good time. I'm just feeling shitty because I made a big show of it the other night and she cried a lot (not normal for her) and my H was second guessing me. He was right dammit.

Just tell him that you think it best if you just focus on the potty training right now and feel that it would be asking a lot of her to make two big changes at the same time. So, he's not right, you are just reevaluating your game plan.

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Jun 26, 2013 21:29:19 GMT -5 Que? said:

Jun 26, 2013 21:25:01 GMT -5 @weeble said:

Don't ask me. We tried cold turkey when she was 3 and it was a miserable failure and we gave it back after 45 awful, terrible, sleepless days. FORTY-FIVE DAYS.

She did it on her own when she was 4. She willed herself to do it! I think she just wasn't ready at 3. I don't think having her binky for another year will cause any more lasting permanent damage. At least I'm pretty sure. LOL

Forty five days, OMG.

I have an extraordinarily stubborn child.  LOL.  Keep in mind that we took DS's pacifier away at the same time as DD finally decided to get rid of hers (so DS was 2), and DS was all "oh, that thing?  Whatever." after about a minute.  DD is just a cautionary/ eventual success tale

[sugarbear]

We let him keep it for naps and car rides, but told him that big boys don't use binkies. He was telling everyone that he was a big boy, so we decided to capitalize. He was two, and he whined a lot for weeks, but we didn't cave. A year later, he still uses it in the car and naps when he's at home.

[polka]

We stopped cold turkey with both girls at 15 months, and they never looked back. They had only used them for nighttime sleeping by that point. Taking them away gave us no problems, and they never asked for them afterwards.

Good luck!

[ginap]

The dentist told us at her 18 mo check up that it was screwing with her teeth so we snipped the tip off of a binkie, gave but to her as usual at a bedtime and she sucked for a second and then pulled it out and I think I said oh it's broken and she tried to use it a few more times and then gave it to me and went to sleep. The first night it took her a bit longer to settle but no tears or tantrums. For the next week she would ask for it and I'd give it to her and she'd try it and then say binkie broken. Its been about a month and she doesn't even ask for it but will randomly say (in the saddest voice ever) "binkie broken... Why?" And then I due a little inside.