Do people still do personal showers for bachelorette parties

[eddy]

What is the norm, kids? Back in the day when I had my bach party I also had a personal shower were people bought me lingerie and whatever. Is this still a thing? Or is this a skanky thing we do in Iowa lol.

I am trying to figure out if we should do this for my sister or not. We are going out for a nice lunch, massages, wine tasting and then meeting up with the guys that night for a grill out. So low key and awesome, IMO. And classy. Much different then the bar hop/drunkiness that was my bach party.

The only people attending the party are the wedding party and the moms.

I haven't been to a bachelorette party in forever. I don't know what is normal anymore.

My gut is telling me that everyone has sunk a lot of money into this wedding and they might not be excited to buy one more thing. But I also don't want to cheat my sis of an experience lol.

If I ask her what she wants she will say don't bother because she is nice like that.

So tell me what to do.

[wambam]

I've never heard of this.

I had a bachelorette party and a few people got together and gave me a sex swing. But no one bought me lingerie. This could be because my tots are ENORMOUS and they knew they wouldn't be able to find anything, save a tent, that would work.

I have also never given lingerie to anyone. I find that...weird. Go buy your own sex clothes.

[Deleted]

SKANK IOWA!

No, I've heard of friends doing like a panty gift thing before going out. But I didn't do it and my sister didn't and those are the only 2 bachelorettes I've actually been to, lol.

I honestly love the sound of your bachelorette plans and I'd leave 'em.

[Alyssa]

I only had a shower....not a "personal shower" involving lingerie and what-not.

[cleo29]

I got lingerie as presents at my bach party. But we also started out bowling, moved on to dinner and gifts and ended the night dancing at a bar/club. It was just a fun night with my friends doing what I love.

[poppyseed]

I got married in 2010. I didn't have a "personal" shower, but a few of my friends bought me bras and panties to my bachelorette party. (We were in a hotel suite.)

[eddy]

See I think with the moms, that is a pass to not do it right lol.

I quite honestly would rather stab my own eyes then have to visualize my baby sister in crotchless panties.

[soozy87]

I had one...but it was friends only. No moms. Though after our rehersal my soon to be mother-in-law handed me a personal gift for the honeymoon. Awkward to say the least.

[katie80]

Lingerie showers are totally the norm where I'm from (South), but it's more of a fancy afternoon or lunch thing than a bachelorette pre-party. Like, moms and grandmas and everybody attend, and apparently it's not weird (I did have a lingerie shower. My mom was not invited. I think she was hurt, but hello that's weird.) I've been to a few, all very low-key and all for really close friends.

I was kind of mortified at the idea of having my friends buy me underwear, but it turned out to be really fun. My roommate hosted it in our apartment, and we basically all giggled over the presents and got wasted on daquiris. Good times

[calledout]

I did this for my sister's bachelorette. Moms were there, too (skankiness is genetic, apparently). We had a bunch of fondue, deserts, booze (obviously) and later a psychic arrived and gave everyone readings. I sent invites similar to these:

www.paperstyle.com/is-bin/Bridal-Nightie-Bachelorette-Invitations-p-643-57-DDIV1004

[RoxMonster]

My circle of friends does this and it's pretty standard around here. All the bachelorette parties I've been to, including my own, had a lingerie shower. It usually just involved the bridal party and the bride's friends but not adult relatives. It definitely does not HAVE to be done though, if the bride and/or you don't want to do it.

[alzi]

I've only seen this done in movies, I didn't know it was a real thing!

[sneetch]

My bridesmaids did that at my bachelorette party and I was really surprised. It was sweet but slightly embarrassing. I was just relieved it wasn't at the shower - I've seen that done many times before and no one likes to hold up their gift of lingerie for grandma to see.

[disappointedkittens]

I had never heard of that here until my sister got married. It seemed to be a tradition in their church, where only the unmarried (and thus virgin) women were invited to give lingerie to the bride. The whole idea kind of weirded me out. Like a way to live vicariously since they couldn't have any lingerie themselves.

I would skip it for sure if the moms were invited, it sounds like you will have lots to enjoy with the rest of your activities

[hellfreezesovertour]

I think this idea is sort of dated. Now everyone buys themselves pretty stuff at Victoria's Secret in every mall.

[Jalapeñomel]

I just thought this was only on TV.

[kirra]

My friends and I have done a lingerie party for everyone who has gotten married in the last few years. It's either part of the bachelorette party or replaces it. They have gotten progressively more fun and involved much more sex talk as there are more married women

I had one last year when I got married, although I didn't have a traditional shower. It was just close friends, and it was a lot of fun. There were definitely no moms involved.

[Tea-rific]

My brother just got married. SIL had two bridal showers, a bachelorette party, and a separate lingerie party.

I don't think you need to bring lingerie to the bachelorette.