I'd definitely be re-thinking my friendship w/ the single girl. Not just because of this but also because of the other things you alluded to.
As for the other friend - on one hand I can't blame her, but at the same time, I'd be annoyed too. I wouldn't necessarily stop being friends w/ her over jsut this. But it sucks that she was in until "something better came along".
Genuine question- has a real conversation been had w/ single girl to basically say "Hey - you've got a lot of disposable income. That's wonderful. However, the rest of us don't. We want to spend time w/ you - but you do understand why a 700 a night hotel just doesn't work for most of us - dont' you?".
And if this has been said, what is her response?
I'm really curious because I know someone who is kind of like this- 30ish, makes a lot of money, buys nice things, travels "well", etc. And she can be very blase about it. But when put to the "Um, hey, we can't afford that", she takes a step back and is like "Oh, yeah. Totally understand" and works w/ us. And this isn't even a GOOD friend of ours!
You keep calling her a snob, which may be true. But really the bigger issue is that she's immature. Even snobs can respect financial differences w/o getting pissy.
I'm with miso on this one. OP admitted that her issues with single girl go beyond just this trip, so there are obviously other things in the friendship she doesn't like. It sounds like she does not care for single girl at all, really, so no, I would not be upset that this person I am not that fond of decided to not go on my trip. They will all have a much better time without her, so I would not be annoyed she pulled out of it.
Post by StormyDixon on Jun 29, 2013 9:54:43 GMT -5
As someone turning 50 this year I am having a hard time wrapping my brain around this expensive weekend for a 30th. Wy not just have a big party at someone's home instead?
Post by RoxMonster on Jun 29, 2013 10:11:37 GMT -5
I will also say, OP if it makes you feel any better, I would never be able to get 5 of my girlfriends to be free on the same weekend for a trip with all the other responsibilities and commitments they have. So I think it's still pretty good you got three of you to go somewhere on the same weekend, and you will have a great time.