Tell me I am justified in my annoyance

[TrickyBob]

I'd be miffed as well. You girls go and have an awesome time! The other two can whoop it up with her father, cause that just sounds so totally awesome. *eye roll*

[Moe]

You did what you wanted to do.

Let her do what she wants to do.

Live and let live.

Enjoy your time out with your three other girlfriends. I'm sure you'll have a lovely time. As will your single friend and the friend that opted to go to the Bahamas.

[verypunny]

Her loss. No wonder she still lives and vacations with daddy.


eta: I read this as the local getaway was not good enough for her.

[Deleted]

Single girl sounds like a total brat.

[sonrisa]

So four of you are going? Or was the one Bahamas recruit taken out of your foursome leaving three? If the later, I can see the annoyance. If not, eh. She never really wanted to go on vacation with you. She wanted a luxury trip with whomever she could drag along. Let it be.

[Moe]

I'll be honest, and tell you that if I had/created the opportunity to get a better vacation, especially for what you then consider such a triumphant birthday, I'd opt to, well, ensure that I carpe diem. I am sure that this has no bearing on how much she loves you and your friends. But opportunities are to be seized, and this one came to her. So good for her, right?

And good for you that you're able to enjoy time with three of your girlfriends in what sounds like a terrific hotel and spa?

[vanillacourage]

I get being sad, but planning for a group that big is tough, much less with disparate budgets. You're probably doing good to get the 3 (or 4?) together that you did. And you'll have an awesome time.

[livinitup]

Who wants to add a plane ride if you can drive to a great local?

She's weird.

[Moe]

Eh, don't let it bug you, she's not losing any sleep over this. She's excited that she'll enjoy a fabulous time with her (non single?) friend.

Focus on you. Be selfish. You're all that matters. How YOU'LL have fun. I promise you if you only focus on this, you'll be happy.

[Deleted]

It doesn't even sound like you like the single girl.

WHO CARES?

[livinitup]

Jun 28, 2013 22:29:20 GMT -5 aeg511 said:

Jun 28, 2013 22:27:22 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

So four of you are going? Or was the one Bahamas recruit taken out of your foursome leaving three? If the later, I can see the annoyance. If not, eh. She never really wanted to go on vacation with you. She wanted a luxury trip with whomever she could drag along. Let it be.

Yeah, now there are only 3. The one she dragged along (and the only one of us whom she offered a free hotel room) was the one who originally said she would go wherever we all agreed on, since she just wanted a fun girls' getaway.

She does realize that she's only traveling with one other 30 year old friend, right?

Does this HAVE to happen on the same weekend?

[Deleted]

I sure hope my BFF doesn't speak of me the way you do of yours.

[sonrisa]

Jun 28, 2013 22:38:03 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

It doesn't even sound like you like the single girl.

WHO CARES?

I thought the issue was that single girl poached one of the vacationers taking them down to 3 from 4.

[Deleted]

Jun 28, 2013 22:50:18 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

Jun 28, 2013 22:38:03 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

It doesn't even sound like you like the single girl.

WHO CARES?

I thought the issue was that single girl poached one of the vacationers taking them down to 3 from 4.

To accuse her of "poaching" is ridiculous.

The girl going with her is just as responsible for saying yes.

[sonrisa]

Jun 28, 2013 22:56:08 GMT -5 aeg511 said:

Jun 28, 2013 22:50:18 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

I thought the issue was that single girl poached one of the vacationers taking them down to 3 from 4.

that's the issue...the rest of us are annoyed. But, I understand that the Bahamas is more fun than Lake Geneva...but I thought all 5 of us having a good time together would be more fun than sharing a room with single's dad.

the 3 of us will have a blast, we're just upset that it's not going to be the 5 of us, or even the 4 of us.

It was never going to be five of you. Single girl made that clear in her choices and her statements. 

[emsumm]

I would totally be annoyed. I hope you guys have fun, though! LMK how the place is, we're looking for a small getaway :-)

[sparkythelawyer]

Both single girl and poached girl have let you know precisely how important this group of friends is to them. I would not be going out of my way to invite/include any of them to things moving forward.

[sparkythelawyer]

Jun 28, 2013 23:08:05 GMT -5 aeg511 said:

Jun 28, 2013 23:03:54 GMT -5 emsumm said:

I would totally be annoyed. I hope you guys have fun, though! LMK how the place is, we're looking for a small getaway :-)

Thanks. Will do...it should be nice. I've been to Lake Geneva a million times (and got engaged there) but have never stayed at this place.

I have stayed at Lakelawn resort there?  And loved it.  Have fun!

[emsumm]

Jun 28, 2013 23:08:05 GMT -5 aeg511 said:

Jun 28, 2013 23:03:54 GMT -5 emsumm said:

I would totally be annoyed. I hope you guys have fun, though! LMK how the place is, we're looking for a small getaway :-)

Thanks. Will do...it should be nice. I've been to Lake Geneva a million times (and got engaged there) but have never stayed at this place.

I thought it was probably Lake Geneva :-)  I've never been!  That's kinda where I want to go, we need to get the girls into beds so they can stay at their grandparents.

[gretchenindisguise]

I would be annoyed.

I would vent about it here.

I would heed Moe's advice.

I'd have a grand time.

[pugz]

it doesn't sound like you guys are really as good of friends as you thought, since the original point was for everyone to get together and celebrate together, and then 2 ran off to do their own thing since the trip you planned wasn't what they had in mind.

Planning a group trip is a PITA and always involves compromise. I'm going on a girls trip in two weeks with 6 of my best friends from college. It was amazing we even found a time we were all available, and we had to settle on a long weekend in Maryland to meet the time and budget limitations of some in the group. Someplace more exotic/fancy would have been great but since the point was for us all to be together, we compromised and are making that happen. It's about our time together and not about the vacation locale.

I'd be seriously disappointed if part of our group ran off to do something else and it would make me question why they even showed interest in a group trip in the first place if they didn't value being with the group.

so I'm team you

[Deleted]

Jun 28, 2013 23:00:04 GMT -5 aeg511 said:

Jun 28, 2013 22:56:00 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

To accuse her of "poaching" is ridiculous.

The girl going with her is just as responsible for saying yes.

I usually just go with the flow (and avoid confrontation) but I think some of us are more annoyed with the girl for saying yes. I told her I was happy she's able to do this. I'm just venting to you guys.

She was the one who texted to begin with about us "All going to somewhere to celebrate turning 30" and then when it was just the 4 of us said she "doesn't care where we go, as long as we all go together and have a good time."

Now, she's ditching the 3 of us because something better came along. And I guess, good for her and the rest of us will have a great time.

I'm not annoyed with the girl for saying yes.  Good for her.  It sounds like a better trip.

I'm merely saying that the blame does not lie entirely with the single girl.

Frankly, the only one I'm annoyed with is you.

You asked us to tell you you're justified in your annoyance.

You are not.

[sparkythelawyer]

Jun 28, 2013 23:17:48 GMT -5 pugz said:

it doesn't sound like you guys are really as good of friends as you thought, since the original point was for everyone to get together and celebrate together, and then 2 ran off to do their own thing since the trip you planned wasn't what they had in mind.

Planning a group trip is a PITA and always involves compromise. I'm going on a girls trip in two weeks with 6 of my best friends from college. It was amazing we even found a time we were all available, and we had to settle on a long weekend in Maryland to meet the time and budget limitations of some in the group. Someplace more exotic/fancy would have been great but since the point was for us all to be together, we compromised and are making that happen. It's about our time together and not about the vacation locale.

I'd be seriously disappointed if part of our group ran off to do something else and it would make me question why they even showed interest in a group trip in the first place if they didn't value being with the group.

so I'm team you

I'm here, sorry Miso.

The point was for them all to get together.  The two turned it down because, apparently, "they could not get there on a plane."  WTF?  

They could have done the tropics any time.  They picked this particular weekend to make a statement.  A pretty douchey one at that.  

[Deleted]

Uh, my point is why be annoyed?

These people are not worth your time.

Clearly.

I don't waste my time being annoyed or friends with people like this.

Furthermore, it is absolutely clear that she doesn't even like the single girl, BFF or not. That's not how you talk about people you love.

[sparkythelawyer]

Jun 28, 2013 23:25:20 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

Uh, my point is why be annoyed?

These people are not worth your time.

Clearly.

I don't waste my time being annoyed or friends with people like this.

Furthermore, it is absolutely clear that she doesn't even like the single girl, BFF or not. That's not how you talk about people you love.

Good point

[sonrisa]

Are these friends who all live relatively close together or are you really spread out these days? For some reason I was assuming this was a "one friend in NYC, one in SF, one in Boise, one in Atlanta" type get together where it is impossible to get everyone in the same room these days.

[Deleted]

You say the single girl is your BFF.

Is the true root of your annoyance the fact that your purported BFF didn't ask YOU to go on an all-expense-paid trip to the Bahamas?

[Deleted]

Well, I give you credit for admitting to that.

[Deleted]

If you were all ok with flying somewhere in the beginning and you knew this was important to single girl, I wonder why you didn't find somewhere less expensive than what she was finding but still met the flying criteria.

[Deleted]

Wait, the Bahamas trip is the same weekend as your lake Geneva trip? Yeah, what a dick. She could go to the Bahamas anytime, why choose that weekend. Did you say her dad was going with them too?