Old people know they can get away with this shit without getting called out on it.
Which is why people should call them on it.
My old lady neighbor told me a couple years ago that I gained so much weight with PTS that she thought DH had gotten divorced and married someone else.
I said, "That's just rude." She was all, "I just mean, you lost it all and you look great, so thin, you really took it off."
I said, "Yeah, that part isn't rude. The first part that you said? That was the rude part."
Things like that make me want to follow you around.