My BIL is a racist asshole

[margotmacomber]

I posted last night about how he used the n word in relation to Trayvon Martin and I shut him down.  I thought that would like, take care of the issue?  I don't know.  Today in reference to the Asian store owners down the street from my mom's house he used another racial slur right in front of DD.  I didn't say anything at the time.  When he left with my step dad to go fishing I asked my sister if he was always that way.  She said yes.  

She said in private she will reprimand him but not in public because "that's not how they fight."

I'm at a loss.  I told her that it would negatively impact her son and how she wanted to raise him.  She said I was right, but left it at that.  

[margotmacomber]

^^don't quote

[iamgrace]

That sucks. I wouldn't be able to spend time with him.

[lime]

I don't think I could hang out with him or allow him around my child after that.

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Jul 5, 2013 17:30:18 GMT -5 iamgrace said:

That sucks. I wouldn't be able to spend time with him.

   ^This.

[elleblue]

Ew. Like the others have said, I'd have a really hard time being around him after that.

[margotmacomber]

It sucks because I really liked him.  We only got to meet him a few times though but now I guess I'm seeing his true colors.  I didn't speak to him again.  They're coming over tomorrow for a UFC party and I don't plan on speaking to him then either.  I just feel so uncomfortable and sad.  

[Deleted]

My brother is very bad about using racial slurs since, you know, he's racist. I worry about my two nephews picking up his hate speech. I can't stand to be around him too long because of it to.

[angelaa73]

Racists are everywhere. Ugh.

sent from my Diane Young won't change your mind baby baby baby right on time

[sergey]

sad that he may/will be passing that on

[margotmacomber]

Jul 5, 2013 17:59:33 GMT -5 @gypsy said:

Did you really never previously have an inkling that he was racist?

If no, then why's he saying stuff now (and I'd ask him to go back to not saying shit in front of you)?

Yeah, I never got a chance to find out.  He was in the Marines while H and I were in the Army, so we didn't get to spend much time with him.  The few times we did, he must have been on his best behavior.  Now we're all out of the military and are seeing more of each other.

[Deleted]

your house, your rules. i think it's perfectly within your rights to tell him that that language isn't acceptable in your home. if he balks, well, good riddance.

i know it's your bil and this is not like "holy shit, i can't believe my friend stan's other friend is a total racist, guess i'll never ever see him again ever," but you don't have to listen to this shit.


ETA:  listen, i feel for you.  the first time i said something to my grandfather i was, literally, shaking.  he told me i was a hippie corrupted by liberal education, but he never used the word in front of me again.  my mom had done it with him throughout my childhood, so even though i heard terrible/outrageously antiquated words sometimes as a kid (i think with him it was 80/20 racism/being old and ignorant), i knew they were wrong.

[Jermys]

Jeeeesus. I wouldn't be able to hang out with him. And my respect for my sister would be non-existent.

[snickers]

I would definitely not be spending any time with him unless I had to.

[anastasia517]

I would not be able to keep my mouth shut if he said things like that. Like the others, I would be trying to avoid him as much as possible.

[Deleted]

WTF?