Surrogacy Question

[nomad100]

So DH and I have decided that we are going to try IVF (one round) and then possibly look at surrogacy given my age.  We know people who have done IVF and can talk to them about their experiences and are in the process of doing more research.

But we don't know anyone who has gone the gestational surrogacy route.  Does anyone know someone who has used a surrogate, thought about using a surrogate, decided not to use a surrogate?  At this point we are information gathering and this may not come to pass but it could possibly be an option for us.

Given our ages, we are hesitant to go down the adoption route given the possible length of time until a match and, truthfully, I don't think my heart could take it if we were chosen and then the birth mother changed her mind.

[delawarejen]

There's a Third Party Reproduction board on The Bump you could try: community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/17421643/ShowForum.aspx

[discogranny]

There is a community of surrogates called SurroMomsOnline. I think there are a couple of boards for people with questions about surrogacy as well.

[Deleted]

I have a friend who was a surrogate for a couple she didn't know. The twins are almost a year old and she is still in contact with the parents. If you have any questions about that side of things, I can pass them along to her.

[cst2cst]

I have a friend who used a surrogate for both his children. He had a good experience the first time and used the same woman for the second child. I know it was expensive but he and his partner thought it was a really good option for them.

I work in a woman's hospital and when I started one of my co-workers told me that surrogacy is the new adoption. She said they see more pregnancies by surrogates than adoptions at the hospital.

[nomad100]

Jul 7, 2013 19:22:32 GMT -5 delawarejen said:

There's a Third Party Reproduction board on The Bump you could try: community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/17421643/ShowForum.aspx

Thanks for this.  I forget that there are informative boards on the Bump. 

[nomad100]

Jul 7, 2013 20:09:02 GMT -5 cst2cst said:

I have a friend who used a surrogate for both his children. He had a good experience the first time and used the same woman for the second child. I know it was expensive but he and his partner thought it was a really good option for them.

I work in a woman's hospital and when I started one of my co-workers told me that surrogacy is the new adoption. She said they see more pregnancies by surrogates than adoptions at the hospital.

That is really interesting about surrogacy being the new adoption.  I hadn't realized that. 

The expense is a big concern but we would figure it out.