Poor girl. I wonder if she wrote it out and meant to delete it. I know sometimes I've gone to write an e-mail, never meaning to send, but just needing to get it out.
I'd e-mail her back, don't really talk about it, and just let her know you're there for her if she needs someone.
Post by saraandmichael on Jul 9, 2013 20:41:34 GMT -5
i think i'd respond to her list. maybe tell her you weren't sure if she sent it to you on purpose or not, but that you love her and will help her in any way you can.
thats terribly sad.
and while i'm not obese, many of these thoughts run through my head. its very sad and alienating.
I'm guessing it was a mistake? Maybe she was doing something on her phone and it somehow came through? It was an attachment to an email if it makes a difference? I'm paranoid on my phone so I always double check, but I butt dial often.
I'm guessing it was a mistake? Maybe she was doing something on her phone and it somehow came through? It was an attachment to an email if it makes a difference? I'm paranoid on my phone so I always double check, but I butt dial often.
I am really bad at stuff like this.
I will just shut up now and read better responses from others.
Post by mirandahobbes on Jul 9, 2013 20:46:08 GMT -5
That list is heartbreaking. I think my reaction would depend on whether she intentionally sent that list, or sent it by accident. If on purpose, I would look at it as her trying to open a dialogue about her feelings and all the ways being obese affects her. If it was an accident, I would pretend I barely read it and not mention it to her again. Clearly, she is embarrassed enough.
Is she possibly in therapy? This kind of sounds like therapy homework to me, listing how <thing you want to change> negatively affects your life.
That's a good call. She isn't the kind to talk about going to therapy, so I don't know. However, that would be a good reason why she has the list at all. I'll respond back letting her know I'm there for her, etc. My heart just hurts that she feels this way.
I would tell her you want to help her accomplish long walks. My formerly 400# friend started by walking. First a block, then two. Then to the next goal, etc. She is now 160# and stays that way with moderate exercise and diet. Nothing crazy.
I'd assume sending it to you is a mistake, but maybe it was a good mistake. It's obvious that she needs some support and love- maybe this can open the conversation.
I'm guessing it was a mistake? Maybe she was doing something on her phone and it somehow came through? It was an attachment to an email if it makes a difference? I'm paranoid on my phone so I always double check, but I butt dial often.
I am really bad at stuff like this.
I will just shut up now and read better responses from others.
No worries. I was definitely taken aback when I opened it.
Yes, I would write back offering support and love. Accident or not, that is a cry for help.
Ditto. If she come back claiming she is embarrassed I would just list all of the wonderful things you love about her and tell her you will always be there for her. I'm sure she needs to hear it.
I'm also guessing it was an accident. I would respond. Along the lines of "Not sure if you meant to send this to me, but I'm here for you if you need me".