Post by AHappierHour on Jul 10, 2013 8:57:41 GMT -5
My BFF is a single mom and her kids are gone on vacation with their dad. It really hurts my feelings that I see her out almost every night at different places and she doesn't invite me out anymore. It is like I got PG and Im not fun to hangout with more. Now the only time I see her is if I invite her over for a play date.
Post by sunshineluv on Jul 10, 2013 9:02:29 GMT -5
I am pg and feel awful all the time, so I would be thankful I am not having to hit the town with her. She may be trying to be considerate? I would ask her to do something, or invite yourself along.
Post by vanillacourage on Jul 10, 2013 9:11:50 GMT -5
If she's got a short window to be kid-free, she may be wanting to do more adult things (bars, etc) than she may think you're up for when PG. Why don't you call her and invite her to do XYZ?
Be assertive! If you want to go out, take charge and make solid plans with her! If you want to do it, you might have to make it happen yourself. Don't just wait for her to call you. I have a friend who does the same thing and it drives me nuts, but when I make plans with her, we have a great time. She's just not good at planning and I have to accept that.
If you try to make specific plans and she blows you off more than 3 times, then maybe she's not that great a friend.
It sounds like she's using her kid-free nights to get out and possibly meet men. Do you know if this might be true? Maybe she feels like you might not be comfortable hitting up the bars with her to talk to the singles?
No I don't think this it is because I would go out with her before to bars and stuff and it doesn't bother me.She is a very pretty girl and is always getting hit on. I'm used to it and I just let her do her thing. FI doesn't mind me going out either with her because he knows and trusts me.
I'm honestly a little confused. You say you've both "suggested" going out - but the only invitation you say you've actually extended is to come over for a playdate....
As others have said, why not INVITE her out for a girls night out? Instead of just saying "we need to", actually say "I'm free on ___. Do you want to go and do ___?".