buying off a registry

[Deleted]

How bad is it?  We have friends having a baby shower this weekend.  We have already given them a ton of hand me downs, crib, dresser, changing table, car seat and bases, swing, etc. Would it be bad to buy stuff not on the registry?  We have strict instructions not to bring anything, they say we have done enough, but we will be ignoring that.  It is too fun to shop for a new baby.

[hopecounts]

No, registry's are a suggestion not a requirement and given that they have already said no gift is necessary I don't think they're the type to be pissy about it and will most likely just appreciate the gift.
If you're really worried give them a gift receipt with the gift so if they want/need to put the money towards something else they can exchange it and put it towards the item they need.

[RoxMonster]

What are you planning on buying them?

Some of my favorite wedding gifts were off-registry. I don't think it's bad. Especially because you have already giving them SO many necessary items for absolutely free!

[Deleted]

I recommend buying something off the registry or a GC to the registry store.

[speckledfrog]

Get them something small. TBH, I think giving too much can be burdensome for the giftee.

[FastHands]

I think it's fine as long as you aren't buying a different brand/type of an item for which they've registered.

[Jalapeñomel]

Get a GC if not purchasing off the registry.

[VillainV]

I would maybe give a gift card for the store they're registered at. Unless you have something else in mind. I think things like bibs, burp cloths, onesies etc are all pretty neutral and can come from anywhere, if you're thinking something like that. Or maybe something you found really really helpful that they haven't registered for.

So basically, I think going off-registry is fine. They can always return something if they don't like it.

[snickers]

I see no issue with gifting off of the registry, just make sure you keep the receipt in case it isn't on their registry because they already have it, or it doesn't match their style.

[sergey]

Honestly since you've given them so much I'd bring a food item to the shower and call it a day. They may already feel indebted and sincerely don't want anything more from you (in a good way I mean).