4.5 y/o sleep regression

[eb777888]

David has always been an awesome sleeper, we've had zero issues in this department. Until now.

He's been waking in the middle of the night wanting to sleep with us (he's only ever slept in our bed in the past when he was sick, and even then it was rare). The past several weeks he's been waking from 1 to 3 times at night. He says he's scared, he wants his mommy, he's bored, etc. I highly doubt he is actually scared because he's not having nightmares and can't even tell me why he's scared, I really think he just likes sleeping in our bed because he wants to be with us. I always tell him "No" and walk him back to bed. If he was truly scared, I'd let him sleep with us, but he isn't.

Well, last night in the middle of the night he just climbed into our bed and I didn't notice until we woke up. He slept until 9 (he never does this). I just want to keep letting him do this, lol. Should I? Should I not? I have a feeling H will be opposed to this but it's not hurting anything, right? Advice?

[iamgrace]

My feeling is that it's a phase and will pass.

If you don't care he's in your bed, let it happen. If you don't want him in there, keep walking him back. H sometimes finishes the night in Henry's bed to keep him out of ours.

[papie]

We had the same issue. I think she was actually scared. We were tired and let her be. It lasted months. She would just climb in our bed in the middle of the night.

We had to put a stop to it though because over time, we didn't sleep as well. Then DH started going to her bed. But we both slept like shit. Now she is in the same room as her sister and sleeps much better, so I think she actually was scared.

The last month or so, she started doing it again. She is 5.5 and BIG. It doesn't work. So we bring her back to her bed, and I tell her to count to 100 and if she is still scared, I will come back to give her a hug. She usually calls me back 2-3 times and then eventually falls asleep while counting. I hope it stops soon, lol.

So basically I have no advice. I just wanted to say that you are screwed, lol

[Deleted]

Ds who is 4.5 also goes through these phases. We don't care as long as he goes to sleep in his bed, he can come in when he wants. I didn't even notice he came in until this morning.

Really, it's a personal preference. There are weeks/months that go by and he doesn't come in.

[eb777888]

Jul 12, 2013 9:39:15 GMT -5 papie said:

We had the same issue. I think she was actually scared. We were tired and let her be. It lasted months. She would just climb in our bed in the middle of the night.

We had to put a stop to it though because over time, we didn't sleep as well. Then DH started going to her bed. But we both slept like shit. Now she is in the same room as her sister and sleeps much better, so I think she actually was scared.

The last month or so, she started doing it again. She is 5.5 and BIG. It doesn't work. So we bring her back to her bed, and I tell her to count to 100 and if she is still scared, I will come back to give her a hug. She usually calls me back 2-3 times and then eventually falls asleep while counting. I hope it stops soon, lol.

So basically I have no advice. I just wanted to say that you are screwed, lol

LOL! I'm understanding this. If he stays in bed, I get woken up 1-3x a night, if he sleeps with us, I get punched and or kicked in the face. I'm not winning either way, here. 

I want to just let him do it for awhile. H will needs some convincing.