I think you're amazing, but...

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

Huge hair pats, mp. For as long as you need. I HATE getting that message. You do deserve better. Hugs.

[whattheheck]

I'm sorry - that sucks

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

Also, I always feel like the undertone of that message is like..."hi, I would like to potentially be able to text you for sex. But I can't give you a relationship at the moment."

[Deleted]

I think he is gay

[mcc]

He belongs on nickelodeon

[janedoe]

Is this nick-guy? What the f. I'm a car drive away, I will give you a hair pat and then help you dig a hole

[jojoandleo]

Well, on the plus side, you will no longer be wasting your time on him. You ARE amazing, too bad he isn't.

[bullygirl979]

Jul 14, 2013 20:29:42 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Well, on the plus side, you will no longer be wasting your time on him. You ARE amazing, too bad he isn't.

Exactly this. You are awesome, mp and you deserve someone who recognizes this.

[bullygirl979]

Jul 14, 2013 20:14:11 GMT -5 @stpete said:

What a retard. Wait, that's an insult to retards.

I'm not going to turn this in to a thing because this thread is about hair pats to mp. But I cannot believe how insensitive your comment is and I can't not say something.

[sweetchix]

Aw, mp. I'm sorry he's not ready for your awesomeness. His loss, not yours. (((Hugs)))

[bullygirl979]

Jul 14, 2013 20:39:22 GMT -5 @stpete said:

Jul 14, 2013 20:32:44 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I'm not going to turn this in to a thing because this thread is about hair pats to mp. But I cannot believe how insensitive your comment is and I can't not say something.

I said it intentionally to be inflaming. Because it's impossible to say without pissing people off. It's like calling someone a cunt, sometimes it works to go to the extreme.

This has to be one of the most ignorant things I have ever read in my entire life.

Not going to post hijack. No response needed.

[Deleted]

I'm sorry ((mp))

[janedoe]

Jul 14, 2013 20:30:51 GMT -5 mp said:

Yup this is Nick. He is like "you're so cool and I really like you. I love hanging out with you, and that's rare. I REALLY want to be friends with you". Like - he practically begged for my friendship. Kind of makes it worse.

janedoe where are you again? I am kind of bummed that my hair and makeup is ruined and went to waste now lol.

San Jose (northern Cali) I'm guessing like 8 hours

[snatchparade]

I am sorry. That's so lame and sounds like a copout

Was this said in person or via text?

[imalwaysme79]

You ARE awesome! Totally his loss. I'm sorry girl.

[pinkplasticdoll]

I will take you into my bosom and hair pat you while I paint your nails. I will be there shortly with wine and a trashy movie.

Also, I find you to be absolutely amazing! 

[mandimija]

::hairpats::

And his explanation...seriously, dude?! Common sense dictates that a woman you've been dating, albeit casually, is not going to be buddy-buddy with you and want to go grab dinner after you tell her that you don't want a relationship with her. Dumbass fuckwit....

[doriswe]

He's a moron....and you are soooo much better off without his dumb ass! You are amazing and he probably sings songs about fruit salad or something equally lame!

[glitzyglow]

Wtf...he's such an idiot. I'm sorry mp. You're so awesome and he's missing out.

[jojoandleo]

Jul 14, 2013 22:14:59 GMT -5 mofongo said:

I'm sorry you were hurt:( I may be missing something but I don't find his handling of this as terrible. I mean, it could have been way worse, right? Maybe he sincerely wants to be friends, I totally understand if you don't, though. At least he didn't send a text.

I don't think his being honest was bad, but I think it's weird to break up with someone and then be all "Hey, now we are friends!"  Like, give the woman some time to have some feelings about this and decide if she wants to be friends first.  It's almost like saying, "What, you aren't over this yet?  Because I totally am" and that is a bit hurtful.  Don't think that was his INTENT, but I would be hurt by it.

[jojoandleo]

Jul 14, 2013 22:44:28 GMT -5 kevin arnold said:

Jul 14, 2013 22:14:59 GMT -5 mofongo said:

At least he didn't send a text.

(hug) (hug2)   :drink:

[hazel]

Oh wow, what a bummer! But obviously his loss. I find his insistence on being friends weird too. He should have tried again in a few days rather than thinking you'd be like "Yeah, cool. Thanks for the honesty. Where do you want to eat?"

[MixedBerryJam]

Jul 14, 2013 22:43:56 GMT -5 kevin arnold said:

Ugh. I'm sorry. It sounds like he wanted to come off like he's the nice guy. Ending it but not reeeaaalllly so let's all just be happy!

Sucks to hear that, no matter what. ((hugs))

This is what I was thinking, too. He just didn't want to get his hands dirty. Did you really tell him his explanation was condescending? I bet that took a lot of courage, and I'm glad you did, if only for the benefit of the next relationship when he'll think twice about tossing around platitudes instead of being honest and upfront.

[winecat]

Oh crap. My witty putdowns have been overcome by 1/2 a bottle of wine. I'm so sorry.

[kaneen]

Jul 14, 2013 23:54:12 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

So he broke up with you over the phone, and then had to come over and hash it all out in person too. Lovely. Because omg, he hurt your feelings, so he has to come over and try to help you not feel so bad by offering you not a relationship but just 'access' to him now and again, and maybe if you're lucky! a booty call now and again too, so you don't feel so bad, for how bad he made you feel, so he can feel better about himself or whatEVER.  Because omg! he just can't imagine not being FRIENDS, and that's going to help you somehow. 

Thank you, but you've helped enough, asshole. 

Exactly this.


mp I've admired you on this board for quite some time (I promise in a non-creepy way).  You are beautiful.  You are funny.  You have a great style.  Please, don't let this get you down.  

Ok, I know this will get you down for a bit but know that this is his loss.  Pick yourself up and move on because the best is yet to come.

[messykitchen]

I just lurk here but mp I dig you, girl. That guy is an idiot. That lets be best buddies crap really pisses me off.

Hair pets and hugs from the lurking chick!

[Deleted]

Hair pets, hugs and pug hugs...

MP, you are beautiful, talented, brilliant, and have the biggest heart. You deserve someone that is your equal in all these areas and who is ready to put the time and commitment in that makes a relationship work. He did this in a shitty way to make himself feel better, which shows he is definitely not good enough for our MP!

I know it doesn't help, but I'm so sorry it sucks right now. Let yourself have another glass of wine AND some gluten free cookies...

[TEM325]

Jul 14, 2013 20:11:49 GMT -5 mp said:

I can't give you what you need. And I think we are going to make great friends. Well, we could give it a few more weeks. Because I love spending time with you and am really attracted to you, but I have a little bit of doubt that it won't work so I don't think I should waste your time.

/quote

SERIOUSLY?! I am so annoyed. A little bit hurt. And crying because that's what I am good at.

Clearly, I deserve better. And in a day or so it's onwards and upwards for me. But right now I'm so bummed, yo. Because I can't believe any of the shit that men say anymore. Because that was so patronizing and makes me angry that he's all "let's be friendsssssss! Gimme a hug!"

Hair pats. Please and thank you.

Ahhhh, I got basically the same text from a guy I liked last weekend.....sucks! HUGS!!! HAIR PATS!!!!

[lookingup]

Jul 14, 2013 20:42:52 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

Jul 14, 2013 20:39:22 GMT -5 @stpete said:

I said it intentionally to be inflaming. Because it's impossible to say without pissing people off. It's like calling someone a cunt, sometimes it works to go to the extreme.

This has to be one of the most ignorant things I have ever read in my entire life.

Not going to post hijack. No response needed.

Are you fucking kidding me? I'm glad someone called you out, @stpete. I haven't checked yet to see if there's another thread started to flame you, but you deserve it. 

I'm sorry, MP. All the hair pats to you. 

[Deleted]

That guy sucks big time - wtf. You are fab and that's all I have to say. Don't stop being so fabulous! Can't wait to see you in a week and a half!!!!