First Corn Dogs, Now Baby Food (Bump C&P)

[redheadbaker]

Food is apparently hazardous to your marriage.

Bolding mine.

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I'm right about this, aren't I?

So I stay at home and am normally the one to feed DD, change, etc. The other day DH was home and I asked him to feed DD her lunch. I always do 2oz of fruit and 2 oz of a veggie at every meal, and told him to feed her half a jar of each. Which would total to 4oz, if we give her much more shes really full. So unless she acts hungrier, I just go with that.

My annoyance is that DH proceeded to feed her the entire jar of veggies and referred to the fruit as her "dessert". I was furious. Am I wrong in thinking that everyone needs a serving of fruit and veggie, including our baby? I told DH this but he insists that she have the fruit last. "Because it's sweet, and its what she wants." When I feed her, I give a few bites of veggie, then a few of fruit. From what I can tell, she eats both fine and doesn't see a difference. This really feels like something that could create a problem as she gets older.

I told DH he was a moron. But he still thinks he's right and said if he does feed her again he will do it the same way. Our child needs her fruit, but she wont get a proper serving if she's already full! He is so stubborn and I have no idea what to say to get it through his head. But maybe I'm wrong? I am torn between letting him grow as a father and correcting him. Which is hard because since I SAH, DH doesn't do everything the same as I do. And sometimes he just doesn't have a clue. Any thoughts, advice? Thanks

[ttt]

This is why some men say f it and refuse to do anything chilcare related.

[AJL]

She sounds like a lovely person to be married to. Idiot.

[pixy0stix]

Whoah. Someone needs to get out of the house more.

Usually I find DH feeding ZB something really strange when he's left to plan her dinner. I just roll with it.

[meshaliuknits]

This can't be a serious thing. The baby was fed. It wasn't poison, just not the way she would've done it. Even if everyone really did need a serving of fruit and a serving of veg, one meal in which it doesn't happen doesn't mean the child is doomed.

[bigt1]

^o) :N: she needs to get over herself with haste

[Deleted]

Pick your battles FFS.

[twotrue]

I feel sorry for her husband ;-)

sent from phone

[beer]

I never fed my baby fruit and veggies in the same meal. Just one container of baby food. I guess I am horrible and my kid is doomed.

[bigt1]

Jun 15, 2012 15:26:25 GMT -5 pixy0stix said:

Whoah. Someone needs to get out of the house more.

Usually I find DH feeding ZB something really strange when he's left to plan her dinner. I just roll with it.

When I was a kid and my dad would make dinner we'd ALWAYS have fruit with dinner instead of veggies. It'd be bbq chicken with orange slices and bananas or burgers with apples

[smock]

Just think what she'd do if he fed the baby corndogs!

[zelda25]

JFC, she acts like he was feeding her cheetos and twinkies and washing it down with a coke.

I don't pretend to know much about pediatric nutrition, but I would have been team H--I would think that the veggies are more nutrition-packed and that the fruit is largely a dessert thing.

[msmerymac]

Jun 15, 2012 15:25:14 GMT -5 ttt said:

This is why some men say f it and refuse to do anything chilcare related.

Yeah, I like how she said, "IF he feeds her again." WTF? You'd best believe my H would be feeding our kid at some point in her life. Hell, I normally feed the cats, but sometimes I'm busy and I just have to have him do it.

Also, aren't fruits and veggies pretty much the same? Or at least, as long as you eat a variety of veggies, you pretty much get the same nutrients you'd get in fruit?

[EloiseWeenie]

We do fruit for dessert every night. My whole family is failing at life.

[josieposy]

Jeebus she needs to relax!!! Be grateful the kid ate at all. My house looks like the food fight scene from Animal House on a daily basis!

[emmybean]

The fuck?

[Deleted]

She sounds nuts and I actually do feel sorry for her husband. The emphasis on how she does things (which is the right way, duh), the name calling, etc. Ew.

[marie427]

Ugh. A lot of people on TB seem to think they are their kids' sole caretaker and their husbands just babysit from time to time. I do feel sorry for her husband.

[sam20]

Wow, me and my husband would be having a major talk if either of us thought it was okay to call the other names like that. Calling my husband a moron would not be alright in our house.

[2vermont]

I am torn between letting him grow as a father and correcting him. Which is hard because since I SAH, DH doesn't do everything the same as I do. And sometimes he just doesn't have a clue. Any thoughts, advice? Thanks

You might start with not calling him a moron.

[statlerwaldorf]

I always alternated between fruits and veggies. Something about leaving a half eaten container of baby food in the fridge until the next feeding creeps me out. If I would give her fruits and veggies at the same meal, I usually give her the veggies first.

[heightsyankee]

My wifi dropped after I wrote a damn novel.

The CLiff Notes version is the best advice I got when DS#1 was a baby came after I was bitching about DH putting too much water in the baby tub. My friend, who is older and had 3 middle and HS aged kids, said "the biggest difference between a new mom and a new dad is that a new mom doesn't have someone judging over their shoulder all the time." She was so right and it really made me have a "jesus take the wheel" attitude about his parenting. Because of this advice, my DH has really been a solid partner in parenting. I would like to tell this bitch to STFU. ^o)

[MixedBerryJam]

I served fruit as the vegetable portion just last night. We had steak and cantaloupe. Which actually is a much better combination than it sounds.

[OscarQ]

That woman has a screw loose. Kid got fed something age appropriate and is still alive. Martyr Mom didn't have to feed kid. I fail to see the issue.

Of course, some men, like my H, need a bit more direction sometimes. I told him we could start trying solids with our son and he fed him a grain of rice. Kind of a complicated food for a baby to handle. But I didn't need to clean up the vomit and he learned the lesson. No rice for infants.

[decemberwedding07]

Jun 15, 2012 16:32:12 GMT -5 EloiseWeenie said:

We do fruit for dessert every night. My whole family is failing at life.

My parents apparently failed miserably too.

[doctordonna]

The OP of TB thread really needs to ask iWesley on the Dads board. That would result in some mighty fine entertainment for those of us who lurk on the Dads board.