I just had to revisit the book Codependency No More (love it!) last night and wanted to share the checklist with you. Thought it was very interesting.......Do YOU fall into this category? Are you/were you aware of it?
I would be hard pressed to find someone who didn't say yes to a handful of those items (stressed, pressured, wanting to care for others--all very normal, especially for parents), but largely no. I guess I didn't realize until reading that list how well I am in the area of self-care and confidence. Even if I'm not totally happy with myself, I know I'm not trash.
I feel like that list covers off a lot of situations.
I have a problem saying 'no' and I've known it for years. I don't necessarily think I'm codependant though. Just overly nice to the point of my own detriment.
Post by sparkythelawyer on Jul 19, 2013 10:22:46 GMT -5
There is no way I am going to peruse a three page, single space list to see if any of these things make me qualify. We all probably are, to greater and lesser extents.
Somewhat. I used to be massively codependent, but I have really worked through most of it. I'm honestly way more independent than I ever thought I could be - I surprised myself during the divorce.