Is it inappropriate to register for a housewarming?

[Deleted]

Yes.

[speckledfrog]

Party is :Y:
Registering is :N:

[whitemerlot]

Yes. It's totally inappropriate.

[CherHorowitz]

Yes, tacky.

[wambam]

This makes me feel really squicky. $0.02

[Deleted]

Registering is not okay.

[speckledfrog]

Also, you aren't new here. You know the answer!

[Deleted]

I don't think so, especially if you are doing it for the discount yourself... I just wouldn't tell anyone about it unless they ask.

I hope this is your house

[RoxMonster]

I would not register.

[sonrisa]

Registering at BBB for the completion discount but never telling anyone is the only compromise I see.

[Kit]

Yes, it is.

[VillainV]

Don't register for a housewarming. It's not a gift-giving occasion.

[SKP82]

It is tacky. Isn't throwing yourself a housewarming party also tacky? A "we just moved in, come see the new house" gathering is fine, but I wouldn't call it a housewarming party.

[wannabe]

Jul 22, 2013 12:20:48 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Yes, but as a guest I would probably appreciate having the registry anyway. But don't do it. lol

I would totally buy something from the registry and smirk about it as I wrapped the present.

[pantsparty]

We will be having a housewarming, and no, I wouldn't dream of registering. H actually jokingly suggested it at Macy's yesterday and I gave him a death glare. LOL.

[Deleted]

Yes.

[pantsparty]

Jul 22, 2013 12:24:58 GMT -5 SKP82 said:

It is tacky. Isn't throwing yourself a housewarming party also tacky? A "we just moved in, come see the new house" gathering is fine, but I wouldn't call it a housewarming party.

Where else should you have a housewarming, and who else should throw it? LOL!

[circa1978]

I think it is fine to throw the party because, um, who else would (?) but I think you've already got the answer on registering. I've done it for a fake event just to get the discount.

[gretchenindisguise]

Agreed, register for the coupon. Don't tell anyone.

You can also get a 15% off coupon for Pottery Barn for moving, btw.

[SKP82]

Jul 22, 2013 12:27:20 GMT -5 pantsparty said:

Jul 22, 2013 12:24:58 GMT -5 SKP82 said:

It is tacky. Isn't throwing yourself a housewarming party also tacky? A "we just moved in, come see the new house" gathering is fine, but I wouldn't call it a housewarming party.

Where else should you have a housewarming, and who else should throw it? LOL!

Good point.  I've actually never been to a housewarming party, so I am not sure.

[wannabe]

Jul 22, 2013 12:58:35 GMT -5 aeg511 said:

Also, what is the difference between a "housewarming party" and a "I bought a new house, come celebrate!" thing?

i feel like a housewarming party is code for "bring me a present!".  the latter is just, hey, come over and check out my new digs!

i'd bring a present for both, but a housewarming has always felt obligatory to me.

[Moe]

Strong work!

[pantsparty]

Jul 22, 2013 13:00:58 GMT -5 wannabe said:

Jul 22, 2013 12:58:35 GMT -5 aeg511 said:

Also, what is the difference between a "housewarming party" and a "I bought a new house, come celebrate!" thing?

i feel like a housewarming party is code for "bring me a present!".  the latter is just, hey, come over and check out my new digs!

i'd bring a present for both, but a housewarming has always felt obligatory to me.

Hmmm, I wonder if this is common. I'm the type to bring something to a housewarming but I would not expect, nor would I want people to feel obligated to bring a gift. Maybe I'll just have a holiday party instead.

[SKP82]

Jul 22, 2013 13:00:58 GMT -5 wannabe said:

Jul 22, 2013 12:58:35 GMT -5 aeg511 said:

Also, what is the difference between a "housewarming party" and a "I bought a new house, come celebrate!" thing?

i feel like a housewarming party is code for "bring me a present!".  the latter is just, hey, come over and check out my new digs!

i'd bring a present for both, but a housewarming has always felt obligatory to me.

Yes.

[starlily]

Jul 22, 2013 13:00:58 GMT -5 wannabe said:

Jul 22, 2013 12:58:35 GMT -5 aeg511 said:

Also, what is the difference between a "housewarming party" and a "I bought a new house, come celebrate!" thing?

i feel like a housewarming party is code for "bring me a present!".  the latter is just, hey, come over and check out my new digs!

i'd bring a present for both, but a housewarming has always felt obligatory to me.

So the proper Evite theme then would be a generic "Party!" one?

I NEED TO KNOW!!!

[snickers]

Yup.

[Deleted]

i thought the "housewarming" aspect of a housewarming party was that you were warming up your house with your FRIENDS. to make it homey. i didn't think of it as warming up the house with a bunch of stuff/bread.

also, A) no registry; and B) i'm with tamb on the wine thing.

[montereybride]

Jul 22, 2013 12:58:35 GMT -5 aeg511 said:

Jul 22, 2013 12:30:51 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

Agreed, register for the coupon. Don't tell anyone.

You can also get a 15% off coupon for Pottery Barn for moving, btw.

Don't you need the YAMSACK code though?

I will be so sad if no one else gets this.

I fucking miss Amber!!

[wannabe]

Jul 22, 2013 14:48:16 GMT -5 starlily said:

Jul 22, 2013 13:00:58 GMT -5 wannabe said:

i feel like a housewarming party is code for "bring me a present!".  the latter is just, hey, come over and check out my new digs!

i'd bring a present for both, but a housewarming has always felt obligatory to me.

So the proper Evite theme then would be a generic "Party!" one?

I NEED TO KNOW!!!

I bet there's a perfect evite design just waiting for you

[purplecow0206]

Jul 22, 2013 12:19:15 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Not ok. Housewarmings are not weddings, and they aren't gift giving occasions.
The traditional gifts are bread, salt and wine; you may get some of these.

This reminds me of the scene in "It's a Wonderful Life" where Martinis are moving into the new house and Mary and George makes a big presentation of of bread, salt and wine.

Mary: Bread... that this house may never know hunger.

[Mary hands a loaf of bread to Mrs. Martini]

Mary: Salt... that life may always have flavor.

[Mary hands a box of salt to Mrs. Martini]

George Bailey: And wine... that joy and prosperity may reign forever. Enter the Martini Castle.

[George hands Mr. Martini a bottle of wine]

Love that movie!